Pregnant and depressed...

[kiwii]

Am I the only one? I've dealt with depression before. When I was a teenager and postpartum with my first. Now, ever since 2nd trimester has kicked in I feel very down. It's so hard to get out of bed in the morning but I have no choice since I have a little one to take care of. It's hard to play with him and I never want to go to work or leave the house lately. I feel unattractive and just blue all the time. I hold a lot of resentment toward my loved ones for no reason. I just get upset about everything. I'm having a hard time bringing this up to my husband as this should be such a happy time and I just feel awful lately. My next ob appointment is in 3 weeks and I don't know if I should wait that long to bring it up to my doctor. I want to feel better ASAP for myself and for my family. Who else feels like this? Is anyone taking anti depressants during pregnancy? It makes me nervous to be put back on them again.

 

[Snufkin]

I was on antidepressants before I got pregnant with my first. I didn't take them during pregnancy (had stopped a few months before getting pregnant), but my doctor said there are kinds that are pregnancy safe, in case I felt I needed them again. It does sound like you could use some help...have you tried all the usual non-medication things to get rid of your depression? For exercise, even an hour long walk every day helps me lots (but I do understand it's hard fitting that in, especially when you don't even feel like getting up most days), and a daylight lamp also seems to help during the winter.

Definitely talk to your doctor asap. They will be able to help, and offer more advice on what to try before taking antidepressants, if you're worried about that.

 

[kiwii]

Thanks for your response! I definitely feel alone in this with the lack of responses lol. It's hard. Thats good you didn't need to take them when you were pregnant. Just a small dosage leveled me out last time. I have been trying to exercise and eat healthy hoping that will help. I do feel better on days when I work because I'm on my feet a lot. I think the weather is a huge factor as well, will have to look into getting a daylight lamp, what a good idea. In the mean time, I'm getting ready to call my doctor as I've had a rough day and I'm not sure I should wait the 3 weeks.

 

[tootyfruity]

I suffer with depression and have take 10mg of antidepressants with this pregnancy and with my son, I was so worried about taking them the first time but ds is fine and had no effects from it at all, it's better you feel happy as feel depressed can also have an effect on baby

 

[kiwii]

That's good to hear, tootyfruity, thank you! It's hard to have to take them when all else fails, but I know taking care of my health is what's best for the baby and my family. The hardest part is how much I loved my first pregnancy. It was such a breeze! Now with this one I just feel awful, just sad and mentally exhausted all the time. I would have expected that more with the first but I guess you can never know. Wacky hormones all over the place.

 

[Shabby990]

I am 36wks 5 days pregnant and I am felling the same I am on antidepressant since having my first baby who is 3 and since giving up work on maternity I fell the same I can't get my self out of bed to take him to nursery I ask my aunt next door to drive him because I can't bare the thought off getting dressed.. I fell I have no motivation to do anything go park shop ect.. I am going to attempt to take my boy swimming after nursery tomorrow.. I could just stay at home all day and not get dressed.

I hope this passes because I was doing well and coping..
Your not on your own.

Sarah

 

[Shabby990]

Plus I take 50mg off antidepressant and have done all though this pregnancy

 

[tulip1975]

I've felt depressed since early pregnancy, but I am probably not the poster child for handling it correctly. I've basically just been powering through, keeping busy by working too many hours. I see a counselor every month or so, but I haven't taken meds in 15 years or so.

 

[redneckhippy]

I'm 39 weeks, so almost there, but I have not so much depression as anxiety, which can become depressing. Before I got pregnant I took Ativan as needed, but I can't take that while pregnant. Exercise helps me a lot, but I'm sick now and plus I can't run anymore at this point. This morning I woke up at 3 AM with anxiety and couldn't sleep.

 

[Teal82]

Hi, i am suffering with stress and anxiety at the moment and have just found out im 6 weeks pregnant. I havent been at work for 3 weeks because of thw panic attacks. I am trying to avoid going back on to medication so im trying light therapy (ive got one of those light boxes) and that is helping to lift my mood. I find even just sitting in the sun can help a little and even a short walk can help too.

I was on antidepressants with my last pregnancy though and had a healthy happy baby boy with no problems.

 

[bebedreamr]

I can totally relate. It is so hard because of the time of year and the guilt that goes along with it!!! You aren't alone, I am with you on this. I have found counselling helps!

 

[VerbingNoun]

Its called antenatal depression. Nope I'm suffering too!

 

[laura109]

hi hun I am feeling extremely down at the moment. I feel my family are not supporting and feel my friends are not interested. feels like I should have people visiting and texting me regular but other than the normal nothing. my best friend doesn't even text and say shes excited or anything for me. probs because she has a one year old and is too busy.

as for leaving the house I don't fancy it anymore. its too much effort. I feel horrible in my maternity clothes. feel chunky and like my jeans are stuck to my big fat calves.

honestly its horrible because it does challenge everyday stuff being pregnant as you will know. I have no energy to walk anywhere now and yet I was always on the go before. now my sister is not talking to me because ive not been round for a few weeks and im days from giving birth. hormones and tiredness are bound to get you down but you will be ok. in a couple of months you will have your body energy back and will be feeling much more up to things. I cant wait o get out walking with my pram and shifting this weight.#

I have too much time to think at the moment and spend most my days angry at people for not contacting me. I know once she is here she will give me a purpose and ill have her to fill my days with. it will be ok hun. I understand xx

 

[tallybee]

Sorry to hear you're struggling ladies. I've struggled with depression on and off, I can't take antidepressants as the side effects have been too much whichever I've tried. I'm ok atm. But I can empathise, depression is nasty. Xxx