Pregnant with #2 and lonely :(

[Baby]

Hi,

I'm 19+4 weeks pregnant with my second baby and I'm feeling lonely My LO is 14 months and he was the result of IUI as was this pregnancy so we are totally over the moon. However, I have got lots of friends with babies the same age or older than my LO and they are yet to have their second baby. They are all seeming very jealous and are not very good at hiding the fact. People often ask me if this baby was planned ???!!!??? and that I obviously did it so that I could get xmas off work again. All of my friends from the ante-natal classes last time are not yet pregnant but some of them are trying and they seem so disinterested in my pregnancy and they just care about what the age gap will be between my baby and theirs. I'm not explaining myself well. Basically, I feel pushed out by my friends who have one baby and I feel like I should feel guilty...but I don't and I can't, my babies are so special and I am the luckiest mummy in the world, why should I feel guilty? When we were ttc number 1, I felt how they feel but now I am so lucky and I want them to realise that too and not just see it that I am making them feel they they must ttc, ttc, ttc like its a fashion! Sorry for the rant...just had to get that off my chest. Thanks for listening. Be great if anyone wants to be my bump buddy on here, I want to be excited about this baby and talk about all the things I think about. Thanks! Baby x x

 

[princess-emma]

hey hun, sorry ur feeling sooo down and lonely about it.... ill buddy up with you if u like to share good times and things... i also have my days when i feel lonely.. have lost alot of friends due to them not liking my oh as they were jealous etc and now imn on baby number two and i feel like i have left alot of friends behind....but they cant be true friends if they cant be happy for you.... so congrats on ur pregnancy....xxxx

 

[Baby]

Ah thanks princess-emma, you're so right. One of my friends has a LO 5 weeks younger than mine. She was pg with me again and due 3 weeks after me. We became quite close friends because of this and spent lots of time chatting about having 2 babies and how brilliant it would be to go through it all together. Sadly though she had a mc at around 9 weeks and since then she has drifted away. I don't blame her, I'm sure I'd feel the same but it makes me sad. x x

 

[goddess25]

I think how your feeling is normal... its difficult when your moving on with stuff... Congratulations.

I feel quite lonely too.... I moved here from the UK 4 years ago and I have some friends but no one particularly close...

I too am expecting my 2nd child and my first is 18 months.

I am more than happy to be another bump buddy.... we are all here to support each other right.

 

[Waiting2bMommy]

Hi Hun! So sorry your friends aren't supportive. Lots of lovely ladies here we can all help you not feel lonely! Whens your due date hun?

 

[PurpleKisses]

I'm on baby #2 and a lot of my "friends" haven't even had baby #1! Needless to say, I don't have a lot of friends because they don't understand my life and that I'm past just going out to clubs and having fun. Don't feel bad sweetie...if they're no longer in your life then they probably weren't friends in the first place. My best friend has no kids and isn't too fond of my OH, but she's still been there for me. She calls and checks up on me and has been very supportive...she's about the only friend I have right now...