Pregnant with third and scared!

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  1. KatBar

    KatBar ~Lucky mumma of 2 boys~

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    Hi,

    Recently found out I'm pregnant with our third. It was sort of planned.. We've gone through IVF previously, and we were thinking we'd use one of our frozen embryos for a May/June cycle this year, but after having unprotected sex on ONE cycle, I'm pregnant!

    My hubby doesnt really want a third, but I couldn't shake the not done feeling, so his said his happy enough to try for one more.

    I have a history a bad postpartum anxiety, which is eased by taking Zoloft (life saver). I'm obviously not taking right now (have been off it for around 6 months). Anyway, I also had a fairly traumatic time with my second born - he had silent reflux and the first 4 months were an absolute living nightmare (my son would cry for 6 hours at a time, and so would I).

    Still, I was initially feeling positive about falling pregnant. Then last night I happen to watch a video on YT where a blogger was talking about (in lots of detail) about her rough journey with postpartum anxiety and depression. I should not have watched it because it brought back some of the emotions I've previously felt, and now I'm really scared having a third was a huge mistake :(.

    I'm just worried now I won't be able to handle a third, or how they'll fit in with our family. Will I be disappointed if its another boy?! Are we ruining what we've already got by adding in too much stress... ugh, I just feel so unsure now.

    I guess I'm just looking for some positive reassurance from other mum's who have gone for a third. Is it as scary as it seems?!
     
  2. Bevziibubble

    Bevziibubble Well-Known Member
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    Congratulations!
    I've heard ladies on here say that going from 2 to 3 is quite an easy adjustment and they just tend to fit in and everything falls into place. I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months :)
     
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  3. sadeyedlady

    sadeyedlady Well-Known Member

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    @KatBar Congratulations. How you're feeling is completely understandable. I had very bad PPD with my first so I had a prescription of Zoloft ready to take after I had DS2. I would strongly recommend talking to your GP about this before baby is born. If you're prepared it makes things much easier.
     
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  4. KatBar

    KatBar ~Lucky mumma of 2 boys~

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    Yes, I've heard this is as well - I'm hoping its true :lol:.
    Thanks :)!
     
  5. KatBar

    KatBar ~Lucky mumma of 2 boys~

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    Yes, I did the same with my second (had a script ready and started taking the day after he was born). Mentally I had a much better start with number 2, but then his reflux hit around 2 weeks old and it got real rough!
    Our first didn't have reflux tho (& my second has a particular respiratory condition that can cause reflux), so I'm hoping we might avoid that with number 3.
    Thanks for your advice :)! I actually feel a lot better after just venting to my sister and hubby tonight, so hopefully I can get back to feeling a bit more positive!
     
  6. Flueky88

    Flueky88 Well-Known Member

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    My 3rd was unplanned. I also wanted a 3rd but my husband was undecided. I have found that 2 to 3 was my easiest transition and that'swith my oldest being 3.5 when my 3rd was born. 1 to 2 was the hardest. All babies are different and just because you had a very difficult first 4 months with your 2nd, doesn't mean you will with your 3rd. I had ppd after my 2nd (I think I have with all of them to some extent, but worst with my 2nd). I haven't needed medication or therapy. Just trying to be active and be sure to get outside.

    Hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months!
     
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