pregnant women dont have real feelings

[barrowland]

all i hear when im upset are people telling me its 'just my hormones' even my mother says it. so anything i feel, be it depression, anger, happiness is just hormones because i dont have real feelings anymore so no one will take it seriously... im always depressed lately but all i get is its just hormones and then i get people angry at me for not telling them why im upset or if i am! how am i supposed to feel comfortable talking to people if all i get is 'oh that'l be your pregnancy hormones making you feel like that' or 'everything is ten times worse when your pregnant!' im so fed up of feeling like poo and being told that its just hormones. how do people not know if i have prenatal depression or if something has genuinly upset me if they just put it down to hormones... does anyone else get this??

 

[Pixxie]

mention it to your midwife Hun, she might be able to help xxx

 

[barrowland]

yeah i know she will im going to mention it to her, its jsut i wish everyone would just stop telling me its my hormones and listen to me... the only time anyone has let me just cry on them and be miserable was yesterday, my OH let me because after he told me it was my hormones i told him even if it was just hormones it feels real right now and he couldnt think of anything to say so he just let me cry... sorry for being all depressing on here lol i just keep having my moments lol

 

[tink23]

omg if someone says "It's your hormones" to me ONE MORE TIME, I will end up stabbing someone..

I feel your pain hun

 

[rocksy2185]

I HATE this! Especially when arguing with OH - I admit SOMETIMES I am hormonal and just want to rant at him for no reason, but if he's been insensitive or done something wrong and I have a genuine greivance and he'll walk off or ignore me with a superior air, like he's just brushing me off as hormonal! I have had to tell him a few times that I have real feelings and still have the ability to get annoyed, upset, angry and depressed over stuff, without it all being baby related!!

 

[Becky123]

I hate this too.

My OH keeps telling me its just my hormones all the time, was feeling really down yesterday and all he said was its just your hormones you'll be ok when the baby comes grrrrrrrr.
Its like as soon as your pregnant everyone stop taking your feelings seriously and just put it down to your hormones, it annoys the hell out of me

 

[Tanikit]

I am the opposite - I prefer to blame it on my hormones. The reason is though that I am affected by other hormones/ all my life and no one understands that - being diabetic the hormone insulin affects me all the time - if I take too much my sugars are low and then I am ratty and irritable and even aggressive. I know my serotonin (or it may be another hormone) is messy as I suffer regularly from depression and I am also hypothyroid which also affects my mood and then there is PMDD which is caused by either a drop in progesterone or some mess up with oestrogen and sever mood swings shortly before my period arrives.

Hormones do play a role in mood, but they are not the only thing - sometimes I have felt like all I am is a product of messed up hormones. When I am pregnant I actually feel better - I have mood swings but the pregnancy hormones seem to stabilise the rest of the hormones in me and I actually do better and on top of that if I am moody then people blame the hormones and are more understanding.

Yes, I wish people would understand that if my DH says something annoying I can get annoyed and some days I will get mroe or less annoyed also depending what else has happened that day. If the car won't start for the third time in a row then whether I was pregnant or had PMDD or had low sugars levels or was pregnant or none of that then I would still be annoyed - and so would they if it happened to them. Some things will push everyone's buttons no matter what their hormones are doing.

typing tha made me feel better about it - thanks