Well maybe that's the reason it's causing tension? And please understand that I am not criticising you or saying you are doing ANYTHING wrong - I know that both you AND your OH want to TTC, it's just that men and women often take a different approach to things:
If sex becomes all about making a baby and less about spir of the moment passion, then it can become stale and cause tension between you (not saying this IS the case in either of your relationships, just trying to offer one possible insight.)
Men actually are quite 'sensitive' (is the only word I can think of and it's not quite right) about sex - They need to have their ego's boosted or they start to feel inadequate - If they think you're only after it for their sperms sake to make a baby (rather than them being the best sex in the world and you being blatently unable to resist their many charms!) then they can go off of it or start causing problems in other areas (because they aren't very good at expressing themselves a lot of the time, so rather than tell you what's on their mind they just make stupid little arguments about all sorts of things (hoping it will come up so they can get it off their chests??)
I bet that when you are TTC again, if you just stop using contraception and see what happens (rather than making more of a deal out of TTC, i.e. developing a nervous twitch during the 2WW, pacing up and down all day every day until you are at that point where you could possibly test and not be too early, then becoming an HPT addict, then getting your
and obsessively peeing on OPKs until you get 2 lines, then demanding sex every morning, day, evening and night just to make sure you catch the egg...!!) lol Need I say more? Obviously I've over-exaggerated things here, but you can see how SOME couples find TTC in this manner a little unsexy, and offputting and how some men are upset and their ego's are bashed because
they begin to wonder if you actually want them for sex, or if you could well make do with a sperm donor and a turkey baster! lol
destiny27: I would definitely be giving the 'natural' approach a go - That's the approach MrBum and I will be taking, too - We'll just do it every day to be sure!