ReynoldsV
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So my hubby's parents got divorced a year and a half ago or so. It was tough on my mother in law to say the least. We helped her through it. We picked up the broken pieces, we mended her broken heart. She suffers from substance abuse and alcoholism. Its been a whirlwind of things.
Well she moved 6 hours away from us after we helped her for so long and said she would keep contact and everything. Our relationship was amazing! Most nights of the week we would have dinner together, we would talk for hours. The works. Well, now I am lucky if I hear from her every couple months. She said she wanted to be part of her grandbaby's life but hasn't even made an effort to ask how things are going. Once again leading to the substance abuse and alcoholism.
She has a new boyfriend who encourages her issues and does nothing to stimulate her to drop them. So that's a losing situation. He is apparently taking her to "live" in the Florida Keys. That is all the way across the country. My husband called her and talked to her and she told him that. Not even caring that her grand baby is due in two months. So I guess she will be MIA.
Sooo, that leads me to my main question. My husbands dad, actually left my mother in law for another woman. Because of her substance abuse and alcoholism and all that. Now, I didn't like his new lady because I felt like she knowingly wrecked my hubby's family even while his parents were married. Only to realize why. It was caused by my mother in law.
Lets just say I wasn't nice to my father-in-laws new lady friend the one time I saw her. I just didn't acknowledge her existence. I feel bad cause she didn't deserve it. I want my son to have a grandma. Even if its a step grandma. So hubby and I discussed inviting her to come along with his dad at Christmas time for babies birth. She was aware that we didn't like her, but I don't see sense in it now. I am certainly not replacing my mother in law, but if she doesn't make an effort to be around, I want my baby to have two grandmas besides my own mother. Someone who is with other grandpa.
What do you ladies think? Should I invite her or not? I am heartbroken that my mother in law has become distant, and I don't want to continue with the emptiness. Or have my baby not have some sort of ties with hubby's family...
Well she moved 6 hours away from us after we helped her for so long and said she would keep contact and everything. Our relationship was amazing! Most nights of the week we would have dinner together, we would talk for hours. The works. Well, now I am lucky if I hear from her every couple months. She said she wanted to be part of her grandbaby's life but hasn't even made an effort to ask how things are going. Once again leading to the substance abuse and alcoholism.
She has a new boyfriend who encourages her issues and does nothing to stimulate her to drop them. So that's a losing situation. He is apparently taking her to "live" in the Florida Keys. That is all the way across the country. My husband called her and talked to her and she told him that. Not even caring that her grand baby is due in two months. So I guess she will be MIA.
Sooo, that leads me to my main question. My husbands dad, actually left my mother in law for another woman. Because of her substance abuse and alcoholism and all that. Now, I didn't like his new lady because I felt like she knowingly wrecked my hubby's family even while his parents were married. Only to realize why. It was caused by my mother in law.
Lets just say I wasn't nice to my father-in-laws new lady friend the one time I saw her. I just didn't acknowledge her existence. I feel bad cause she didn't deserve it. I want my son to have a grandma. Even if its a step grandma. So hubby and I discussed inviting her to come along with his dad at Christmas time for babies birth. She was aware that we didn't like her, but I don't see sense in it now. I am certainly not replacing my mother in law, but if she doesn't make an effort to be around, I want my baby to have two grandmas besides my own mother. Someone who is with other grandpa.
What do you ladies think? Should I invite her or not? I am heartbroken that my mother in law has become distant, and I don't want to continue with the emptiness. Or have my baby not have some sort of ties with hubby's family...