rant about DH

[Bex84]

DH told me last minute last night he was going out with a friend to play squash, I have no problem with him going out as long as I know ahead of time due to planning what Im cooking, and LOs bed routine. He came home annoyed because then got canciled, we got into argument due to he is back late every night this week due to work and going out. He then tells me IM grumpy due to LO keeping me up and night and I should ff. What the f, I turned around and told him LO was not keeping me up, its his constant talking and snoring in his sleep (he can be nasty as well, and he wont let me sleep until I answer him) he told me I should wake him up but I get told he has work and to f off). He then went on this huge debate about ff and that I only believe what supports my views. I told him to look and see if any dr actually recomended ff over bf if there are no problems. He looked found benefits of ff, I told him to look at same site benefits of bf, he said well I was ff and im perfectly healthy you are the one with stomach problems. AHHHHHH my problems would be worse if I was ff, his mum was lucky since she also had him fully weaned by 8 weeks onto 3 meals. I told him it was my choice since I am feeding her and getting up in night, his response was he makes most of the money so is what we spend it on his choice. He doesent have a problem with bf and been supportive and now suddenly this, LO is practically sleeping through he is the reason Im not sleeping and I want to give my LO the best possible start, he is well and trully in the dog house, he was quite sheepish this morning. Sorry for the long rant

 

[Ozzieshunni]

My DH told me he thinks I should stop when Alex turns one. He can't give me reasons though.

Good on you for sticking to your guns! Men are just twats sometimes. Who are they to comment on BFing? It's not like they have to do anything!

 

[Bex84]

exactly, my DH rarely changes a nappy so I would be suprised if he wants to feed LO. I do 99% of the care probably more so he can do one lol, and now LO is 6 months friday people seem to think I should autamatically stop, it gets on my nerves, my daughter is healthy, a good weight and happy why would I stop. Men ahhhh!!! bet my stupid MIL has got to him

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Yeah. My DH is happy to leave the feeding to me. Even now that LO is on solids, he STILL won't feed him or help him out with the solids

 

[Bex84]

same here, every time he does something its a big deal, I asked him to change a nappy the other day and you would think I had asked something huge. The only reason I get annoyed by him going out or working late is he is missing out bonding with his daughter, then he actually had the nerve to say 'well you go out with her in the day, am I not allowed my me time, or is all my time after work meant to be with you?' stupid man, then to go on about me bf got on my nerves, he is upset we are still co sleeping as well.

 

[Raven24]

Well i think he should sleep on the sofa if he is keeping you awake at night, or if it was me id sleep in baies room and leave the grumpy git to it lol
I know what you mean aboutthe six months thing its as if people think you should just suddenly switch. Well done for nursing for so long xx

 

[Bex84]

i defenetly plan to carry on, he is an awful sleeping in the fact he always talks, he can be horrible in what he is saying but says I shouldent be upset since he was asleep so didnt mean it, and snores. It is worse on the occasions where he has alchohol, he is going to a beer festival friday so that should be fun. He just rang me from work wanting me to find a load of paper work for him, and was acting like nothing had happened. I am so annoyed today, and I know I'm probably over reacting. He has been working late which is fine some nights, but some of those times he is playing cricket with his mates, chatting, going out and he gets back late. When he said do I expect him to spend all free time with us, no but it would be nice when he is at home that he isnt still doing his work and watching tv or playing on the ps2. He looks after LO so I can have a bath in the evening but usually that is 15 minutes at the most yet that is seen as a major thing. He keeps having a go at me since I am not ready to leave my daughter yet, he wants to have some time alone yet the time he spends with her he usually sticks her in the jumperoo or her swing.

 

[Raven24]

Men just dnt get it do they, problem is they view us being at home as a luxury whereas in fact it is bloody hard work and when they come home we are just as tired if not more as they are but they dont understand it. Sorry he is being like this x

 

[Bex84]

He came home from work full of apoligies and chocolate. He told me he only said bf thing to wind me up, he could tell I was still annoyed when he phoned when usually Im the first one to back down since I dont like arguments due to hang ups from childhood. He is going to try and do something about snooring, he was very appologetic and felt guilty, even LO gave him evils yesterday. I dont think men do realise what we do in the day, I always cook food, do cleaning and washing and spend time with LO, my one break is a quick bath in the evening and usually 5 minutes into that he is bothering me to when I'm taking LO. Oh well I supose I will forgive him

 

[jessie_m]

I feel for you. My OH tried to tell me the same bull shit. Stay strong.

 

[Bex84]

thanks for all the replies, he has been very appologetic, had stupid MIL on phone today inviting herself over with her ditzy friend who last time saw LO kept waking her up every time she went to sleep when husbands at work. I have set DH on sorting her out, we do not get on as she is controlling and last time I spoke to her she told me I was a bad mum since I go to baby groups and that my LO will say nana first and LO is her baby. I may forgive him completly if he keeps his phsyco mother away from us, she is only coming around if he is here since she is horrible to me if he is not. I am going to make sure to bf in front of her and make a big thing about how well LO is doing on it.