Rant and advise pls - Long

Madamebelle

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Im suffering with a huge amount of stress at the moment, and my job is the cause of it. My manager A is being a complete **** and treats me like dirt. Im being made to feel like being pregnant is an inconvience to them and it is really getting me down. Its now been 5 weeks since I told them I was pregnant and yet a risk assessment is still to be done. I have spoken to another manager (though higher up than the other manager (also his dad) he isnt running the shop only the rennovations that are going on) about it who basically said, "oh yeah, thanks for reminding me" and thats it nothing, the company doesnt have its own risk assessment for pregnant workers so is "borrowing" the shopping centres (in which we are based). I am not being kept in the loop here and having to keep on at them all the time.

As the shop I work in is a craft shop, I am a crafter and we have our own crafting club on a thursday afternoon, the tuesday prior Manager A asked if i was coming to this craft club I said well i was working the thursday Id see how i was feeling after work, to which he responded thats ok, you can go out when it starts at 4 even though im still classed as working till 5 30. I said ok cool, I will bring my craft bits with me. which he knew was a suitcase. Anyway thursday gets here and i bring my things with me, and when it comes to 4pm he doesnt allow me to go out there, infact doesnt speak to me at all, he knew i was bringing my stuff with me but no apology (i had to drag it into town on the bus) when he doesn decide to talk to me it is to chuck a product towards me and orders me to fix it so it will hang then storms off.

This bloke thinks he is gods gift to women, he also takes his anger out on us, if he has had a bad time outside of work (say a girl has rejected him) I am now refusing to speak to him.

I called in sick today because i was genuinely physically ill, i had a bad stomach, he sent me a text saying if i was feeling better tomorrow did i want to make up the time by working? I havent replied and dont intend on doing so.

We have just had some redundancies and a change around with the rota and due to that and also a weekend girl being on holiday we are a person short on a sunday, this sunday is my rota'd day off, this text is sent because its an easy way for him to find cover which he has known about for a while just leaving it to the last minute to find cover. Im usually very flexable and am willing to do alot of things however not now, this company clearly doesnt give a damn about the health of me or lil one, so why should i them, its only a job and the health of me and lil one come first.

Ive tried talking to the owner of the business about A and been told thats the way he is and a look to say either like it or lump it he isnt going to do anything about it. With it being such a small business there isnt a hr i can go to Ive gone to the top dog and nothing has been done.

I dont know what to do, this is causing me so much stress. I suffer with depression anyway i cant have this on top. If i make an appointment with my GP can they sign me off for work/pregnancy stress, but even if they do i dont know if i will get sick pay from this company, Ive been working for them since mid august last year.

Sorry for the long post, i just need to get this out and hope someone can advise me what to do. I probably sound very angry in this post but i am and am at my witts end now. I cant really afford not to work now as we have lived to our means, but i dont know what to do, no one will take me on knowing im preggers, and even if someone did i prob wouldnt qualify for SMP. I stuck and I hate it!
 
if no hr you can still join a union
im really sorry he is being horrible but i hope a union can help u out
 
Is it possible he was genuinely trying to help you make up hours, as you are pregnant? I think you should ask to have a private conversation with him. I would say that I felt I needed the risk manangement assessment done as soon as possible and what the timeline is on getting it. Is there anything you can do to help them roll along?

I would be upfront and honest about how his actions made me feel. Make sure you tell him that you aren't lookin for special treatment. Maybe your pregnancy is the first one they'v dealt with and they aren't sure how to handle things?

I would also show some understanding in his hurt feelings, as well. You're both going through a lot emotionally (and you physically) right now and your communication with one another isn't the best, so sitting alone together and talking calmly about this might really make things better.

Good luck!
 
Sorry to hear you are having a hard time. I'm in 2nd tri now and still havent had a risk assessment done. Your doctor can sign you off due to stress and even if your company don't pay full sick pay you should still get Statutory sick pay after the first 3 days of being off. It''s not much but is better than nothing. Also you could join a union or speak to Citizens advice as I it certainly doesnt sound like they are treating u right.

Hope this helps

xx
 
Hi

I wish it was the case he was being genuine with offering me the hours, but if i had gone into work today he would have still asked me if i could work tomorrow.

The main problem with this manager is he is a bully and im not the only one he has bullied, he even sexually harrassed another staff member though that has stopped because of the nature of it and the owner could get into serious trouble over it.

He always says that if he upsets us to speak to him, and we have countless times, he wont change his actions. I had a conversation once with him and he even apologised for being a **** but in the next breath said he wasnt going to change.

Due to my own emotional problems I know that sitting down and talking with him would end with me feeling guilty (whether real or percieved) and crying, it then getting blamed on hormones and that would be it, nothing would be done, im just hormonal cause im pregnant.

I think a trip to the docs is what im going to need to do, I had thought about writing a letter to the other manager about everything but i dont know what if anything would be done. Or if they would find a reason to lay me off and do it so it wouldnt fall under discrimination because im pregnant.

:/
 

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