RANT! I copped it from bitchy jealous women today at work! *UPDATE*

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  1. sandilion

    sandilion Well-Known Member

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    RANT ALERT!

    There are these girls that sit near my desk at work and lately every day when i arrive in the morning they pass comments on how i am looking, saying things like "You look like you're gonna spew, you ok?" Or "you look very bubbly today" or "geeze you're really showing today!" which all sounds pretty innocent so i never thought a thing of it. One of those girls did approach me in the lunch room to tell me that i have gained weight around my waist... (like i haven't noticed, stupid cow!)

    Anyways this morning they took it up a notch. I walked in looking flushed because it was a warm morning and plus i had raging heartburn and was hurrying to my desk to take something for it, and one of the girls said to me "You look very flushed today" and i just smiled and said "yeah it's warm outside and i think i am burning from the inside out with this heartburn" and the one that has previously commended on my waist line yelled out to me pointing and laughing "Sandi! I can see how swollen your hands are from here! Hahahaha!!" and a few other people had a laugh at my expense. I looked down at my hands, they weren't even that bad! I could still take my wedding ring off f*cks sake!

    Then the other chick points out my team manager who has a history of eating disorders and who is currently pregnant and they go "Look, ....... hasn't gained any weight, she looks great"

    And my team manager basically stood up and strutted herself around giggling about it. I couldn't believe what was happening around me! I was basically in shock. I sure have read about how cruel people can be with pregnant ladies but i hadn't copped it myself to that degree as yet - and oh my GOD is it horrible!

    I was so upset after that, i went and reported it to my supervisor. I started crying in her office as well, it takes a lot for me to generally cry even while pregnant but that incident really shook me. It's hard enough dealing with the changes in our bodies without dealing with pricks like that.

    I don't mean this in a bitchy way but the two girls that have lashed out are both experiencing issues at the moment, one is desperately trying for a baby and has had 4 miscarriages this year.... and the other is on and of with her boyfriend and has basically been bitchy towards me ever since i got married 2 years ago. She's the one that pointed and laughed at my apparent hilariously swollen fingers. :growlmad:

    I am so sick of people thinking they can say whatever they like to pregnant women. It's really out of control the way people behave! I was so upset all friggen day at work today.

    I will say, to piss them off after that incident every time i walked to my desk and they were watching me I would rub my belly proudly to rub it in their faces. I don't normally like to torment people but they crossed the line with me today.

    :growlmad::growlmad:
     
  2. TwilightAgain

    TwilightAgain LTW for our LO <3

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    Awww thats so awful. People can be so cruel. Jealous or not, thats not acceptable behaviour.

    :hugs::hugs::hugs:
     
  3. yumosh

    yumosh Well-Known Member

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    Bitter jealousy. You have the last laugh. Be proud. X
     
  4. MiissMuffet

    MiissMuffet Well-Known Member

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    You have a beautiful healthy baby growing inside you. These girls, are scum. I hate bitchy women, I've had to suffer the wrath of them literally since I was about ten and I had the longest hair etc..YOU can conceive, YOU can still look great even when your fingers are swollen. Honestly you just need to do exactly what you're doing, rub your bump. When I'm scared, tense or upset, I remember I have my best friend wiggling away right next to me who is there for me all day every day. :) Soppy I know but it's true!

    *hugs* x
     
  6. joanna1980

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    Who do they think they are , shame u can't pretend to trip with a glass of what're and tip it over them , then say sorry girls must be all the weight I'm gaining hey then laugh , !!! I hate people like that ! X
     
  7. sarahh

    sarahh Well-Known Member

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    Wow jealousy is ugly. Can't believe how mean they were to you there is no excuse :growlmad:
    :hugs::hugs:
     
  8. babyoneill

    babyoneill mother to Amber and Lexie and Jack

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    only thing that springs to mind is "jealousy" next time they say something just go along with it and say "yea its the joys of pregnancy, i wouldnt change it for the world, maybe you will find out one day" lol sorry kinda bitchy but its what they diserve, cheeky cows xx
     
  9. babyv_s2012

    babyv_s2012 1st little princess

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    Omg! What a bunch of bitches!! I hope they get reprimanded by the superviser their behaviour was totally out of order.
    hope youre okay
     
  10. sandilion

    sandilion Well-Known Member

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    Thanks so much ladies, i have finally had my mood lifted since being home and away from that environment, also venting here has helped a LOT. It just makes me sick how people can be so nasty to someone when they are vulnerable. They knew i was feeling unwell with heartburn at the time as well but it didn't stop them!

    babyoneill I am definitely saying that next time! Now that i am aware they are on the attack i will be ready next time.
     
  11. Dizzy321

    Dizzy321 very proud mammy to 3!

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    Awful :grr: soo glad you reported them! like you say, its hard enough to deal with changes to your body as it is never mind with a bunch of bitches doing that to you :nope:
     
  12. xloulabellex

    xloulabellex Mummy to 2 beautiful boys

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    I agree!! <3
     
  13. babyoneill

    babyoneill mother to Amber and Lexie and Jack

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    good girl xx
     
  14. sandilion

    sandilion Well-Known Member

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    When it was all happening and i turned to my comp to try and just ignore what they were doing, my little bub started kicking me... it actually felt strangely like it was telling me that everything is ok and it is there with me and reminded me that im not alone... i hope i don't sound crazy, but it was just so warming that bubs made me aware of he/she being in there while i was dealing with such a shitty thing. When i rang and told my hubby what had happened today and told him about bubs kicking me his eyes welled up. I love my baby so so much. It feels like i am already so so connected to him/her.
     
  15. MiissMuffet

    MiissMuffet Well-Known Member

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    I get what you mean hun, If i'm ever in a situation i'm not comfortable in and bubs wriggles around i feel so much better :hugs:
     
  16. erikab922

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    There is great satisfaction in calling out people on their obnoxious behaviour, mostly because it's the last thing they will ever expect you to do and it usually shuts them up and puts them in their place. I used to work with two girls who were fine when they were apart but when you put them together they were the Bitch Twins. I got so sick of it and I said something to one of them like 'You never act like this when she's not here, why are you always so nice when she's not around? Are you afraid she won't think you're cool or something? Knock it off, everyone thinks you're having an affair anyway' (that last part wasn't true).

    Have LO give you an extra burst of courage and call them out on it - you will feel SO much better!
     
  17. sandilion

    sandilion Well-Known Member

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    Yeah i think now that i am over the initial shock of how bad they actually got, i plan to be a lot more prepared for it next time. You're right, it definitely was a pack dog mentality that went on! They definitely sensed when i was vulnerable i think, with rushing into work, heartburn etc. Ill make sure i take my heartburn tablets before i go to work for now on! It sucks but i feel like i have to have my guard up.
     
  18. BeachyBronzer

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    What jealous cows... :growlmad:

    I would flaunt your pregnancy in front of them. Wear nice clothes that really show off your bump. And when LO moves mention it really loudly! xx :hugs:
     
  19. sandilion

    sandilion Well-Known Member

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    ^That is definitely on the cards of what ill be doing for now on.

    It pisses me off too because when one of them had their recent miscarriage i was there for her when she was crying at work, and helped her feel positive about it because i have had a miscarriage too etc. and her and i got along well until today when she had her buddy stirring me up. Unbelievable how shit people can be.
     
  20. SamanthaYC

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    Please tell us their reactions to when you finally shut them up!! I would love it!!!
     

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