ARRRGHHH!
Everyone seems to have an opinion on my pregnancy!
Them - "are you going to find out the sex"?
me - "yes"
Them - "oh no you can't do that, it won't be as special/a surprise"
P*sses me right off! it WILL be special when i give birth to my child thank you very much and and a "surprise" is hardly my biggest concern - I just want a healthy child.
Another thing that's been p*ssing me off is we live in Zone 2 London, almost central, and don't have car and don't intend to get one. The parking is too expensive as is conjestion charge, plus we have everything on our door step. If I want to do a big shop I will do an internet shop. I have a tesco, co-op and sainsbury's all within 3-8 mins walk of my flat(!) we live in zone 2 london, npt somewhere that you NEED to have a car for.
Them - "oh no you'll need a car"
Me - "no we'll be fine, we live in zone 2 in london and we have the underground, the bus and the train line literally on our doorstep"
Them - "no you'll need a car when a baby comes"
A million people before me have had kids and no car and a million others after me will do the same as well.
and just today I've been TOLD pretty agressively by someone that when the baby comes i will NEED a dryer.
It's as if new parents think they're the only ones who have ever had a child EVER!!! It's like they're tryig to make me feel like a bad parent just because I'm not doing things THEIR way.
ARRRGHHH! rant over.
Thank you x
I never had a car- never even knew how to drive- when my kids were small.
I live in a major metropolitan area with a great public transit system.
I never
needed to drive (I drive now, but it's because I
want to. There is nothing about having a child that
requires one to have a car, especially if one lives in an urban area).
I got a lot of the same crap: "What if there's an emergency, etc?"
Well then, I'll call a damn ambulance, of course. Duh.
I also had a lot of people after me about raising my children in an apartment; a
nice, two-bedroom apartment, I should add, in a gated community with a pool.
People seemed to think
anything would be preferable to an apartment- a broken-down old trailer, a duplex in a crime-ridden neighborhood,
anything. Their issue seemed to be that I didn't have a yard.
Well, our entire apartment complex was our "yard", and the kids always had plenty of other kids to play with. I love apartment living; I still live in an apartment today, and when I get old I'm going to buy a condo, which will be just like living in an apartment except that I'll own it instead of renting.
Don't even engage people who offer unsolicited critical opinions of your life choices.
Just smile and say, "That's a very interesting theory!", and move on.
They are not worth taking the time to argue with.
As you say why do people ask if they are going to jump down your throat if you havent done what they would - grrrr!! Better get used to it now though as have other have said bet people will get loads worse when baby is born! x
