Rant! Selfish Pig!!

[divadexie]

Grrrrrrr my OH is being such a selfish PIG!!!!

WHY does he think its ok to come home from work and make comments that I am tired and grumpy yet STILL leave me to do everything with the kids, sort stuff out for him??!

I am absolutely shattered I have to get up at 7am to get LO fed so Iv time to get son ready for school. At the moment he is in half day so by the time I get home, feed LO again and tidy up a lil bit it is time to go back to school.
Then collect OH for lunch and when hes gone back to work its time to feed LO again. Iv dogs to look after the kitchen to keep clean because its so small and if it gets in a mess you cant do anything in there!

So I also make the tea because he thinks he can come home and play on the xbox and I have to run up and down the stairs sorting LO out because she is bad with wind it comes in little bits like she can settle for 10 mins or so til another burp works it way up.

I stay up to about midnight because by the time LO is settled I want to have more than 5mins to myself and I dont get a chance to sleep in the day because my 5yo doesnt behave if I do.


So today I invited our friend round for tea as hes just moved into his flat and doesnt have much in yet. Stood cooking a spag bol from scratch while OH fed (after a grumble) LO and asked him to put her to bed so that he can sort her out before tea is ready, I knew she was going to take a while to settle.

He sat with her cos she was falling asleep I said I dont want her to fall asleep and get moved to bed I want her to fall asleep in her own bed but he still just sat there!
Nearly burned the spag bol to the pan putting LO in bed and sure enough she started screaming as soon as I sat down to eat my tea. OH didnt even move!!!

THREE times I went up well the 2nd I said to OH ''just sit and eat your tea then'' and came back and took the remote off him, he was watching something I wanted to watch but I turned it over anyway!

And when I eventually managed to sit down my tea was COLD!!!!

He was going to friends so I said u better hurry up and go before I change my mind.. and he had to ask why?! ''well because you sat there eating your tea like a selfish sh1t when I told you to go up when she cried''

Then he asked why was I in a huff?! Told him to go out before I went out and dont be late.


I'm SO fed up he made all these promises before LO was born that he was going to help more around the house and he just doesnt! I am so fed up!
I love him to bits but I am so stressed and tired I dont know what to do!


5yo is in school til 3 from this week so maybe I will get some time in the afternoon and my sister is hopefully coming over tomorrow for a family party was going to go out for a few drinks but I cant afford it. OH is gonna bring the kids home early (wether he likes it or not!) so I can have some free time..

 

[WW1]

Aww hun. Huge - it really does sound like your OH needs to do more. Perhaps you need to go out for a day and show him what it's really like!!

 

[PrincessJenna]

Men I don't think they realise how tough we have it & that we don't just sit around all day doing nothing, I get told off for taking to much on but if I don't do it it'll never get done...... I actually kicked my OH out the other week and sent him to his mums for 2 days to teach him a lesson and since he's been perfect since he come home xx

 

[Sam9kids]

Awww ((((hugs)))) maybe sit down and talk to him xx

 

[beanzean]

I feel your pain even though my OH does do a fair bit and does look after Grace and send me to bed when Im near collapse due to exhaustion. But with a 6 week old who has suffered cronic colic since day 1 it's been the most physically and emotionally shattering time of my life. So much so that I completely lost the plot yesterday morning after not having a single minutes sleep for 4 days and at 5am threw some clothes on and stormed out of the house and took one of my dogs for a walk screaming I was leaving home!!!!

He said he had to leave for work at 7am to which I replied " Well only if I'm back"!!!!

I think he finally realized that I had reach breaking point and was so nice when I got home.

 

[Buffy71]

 

[NG09]

Hun I know how you feel. My DH has been getting right on my wick these last few days!!! x

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

 

[maybebaby3]

i know how u feel! Men!!!

 

[RHR]

Hi hun, I know what your going through to an extent. My OH turned round to me tonight and said that he was sick of the house looking lie a mess and that he hates coming home. I managed to keep my temper as he was holding our DD and I don't want to argue in front of her and said that he needed to come home and help out a lot more as I can't do everything and that as soon as I try to do things, DD either wakes up from her nap and ants playing with, feeding etc and that I'm sick of him coming home from work and sitting in front of the PC for the entire evening.

He's hardly helped me with our DD since she was born and at times I feel like I'm a single mum, as I've done everything whilst he's gone out to work. I appreciate that he's a builder and that his work is very physically demanding and he's just recently in the last 2 weeks gone self employed so he's stressed by doing that.

We went shopping last night and he said something to me which I didn't hear, I asked him to repeat it and he was going to have a go at me. I said to him, if he was going to be nasty I would walk out of the shop. He calmed down enough to pack up our shopping load it in the car and then decided he was going to walk home. ( We only live 10-15 mins walk away from the supermarket). He was nice to me when he got home.

I honestly don't think men actually realise how hard it actually is and that we don't have 2 minutes to ourselves at all. In fact the only "me" time i get is when dd and my OH have gone to bed, which is when I should be in bed as well.

Anyway, we've had a chat and I've told hm he needs to help out more as I'm sick of being expected to do everything. Have you tried having a chat with your OH?

 

[EMYJC]

Can so relate Divadixie. Same as you RHR really OH is a hard worker, self employed heating engineer so now hes out from 8-8 every day and is working Sat too. Means I am run off my feet at home every day looking after Lucas, trying to stop him getting into everything. Feeds, play, naps, getting out, running house etc. Yes fair enough I get to go out and see friends etc but he doesnt seem to get that when you have lo with you all the time you cant relax the same. He promised once a week at least he wouldnt book in any quotes and be home to see Lucas and put him to bed but it hasnt happened. To top it off he's out yet again tonight with his mates when I dont even get chance to dye my hair!

I totally get you. Hope you get somewhere xx

 

[divadexie]

We have had many chats and rants about this.

I am trying to start my dog walking business he knows he will have to do more then.

Tonight is the first night he will have to feed LO and get both kids off to bed as my sister is coming for a family party and OH doesnt want to stay long so say he will bring the kids home to bed. I'm pretty much ontop of the housework had a good day today but going to ask him to make sure the dishwasher is done before I get back.

I really going to try and get out for a day, or even half a day see how he copes then, he thinks it is easy, looking after LO all day and getting son to and from school as well as making sure things are sorted. Tbh I dont trust him to collect son from school if I wasnt here I am sure he would be late and I never want that to happen. Though I could say to friend to collect him if OH isnt there when they get let out. But then that mite make OH think its ok to be late!aarrgh lol

 

[Bex1p]

Wow sounds like someone is taking his precious gift for granted!

15 weeks early, must have been hell for you both....and now he moans at having to give her a feed!?

Luckily I dont have an OH to worry about (single parent), sometimes I think they are more like kids and a hinderence anyway!

I hope he starts to pull his finger out for you