RANT! - So cross and upset....

[Koromaru]

At my work place, it seems that getting pregnant is as easy as catching a cold. Why can't i catch this effing cold?!

 

[DragonMummy]

Oh i know - i am trying to work out what chair these buggers have been sitting on so i can have a go!

 

[Starbright]

Oh come on. Don't you know you just need to relax, book a holiday, shove some broccoli up your bum, dance naked around a fire at midnight, stand on your head at 3.28pm for precisely 17 seconds and you'll magically get pregnant?
Seriously though, sorry you had to put up with such insensitivity. I don't think I'd have been as calm as you were I would have probably lost my rag. Hope you're feeling better today
take care xx

 

[Belsey]

HI all

Dont mean to but it to your chat but I am new to the site not too sure how it all works yet! So sorry you had a crap day, People say that to me all the time its like if I stop stressing I will fall pregnant ??????? Okay if you say so. And all the women who moan about being pregnant..........you dont realise how lucky you really are.
Best of luck to every 1 TTC xxx

 

[DragonMummy]

Butt in all you like Belsey! The more the merrier.

@ Starbright. I jsut hate this implication that the reason I am not pregnant is because I am worrying... er......

 

[Leilani]

Tell her to stick it up her arse!

Stress cannot cause infertility, however, infertility (and irritating colleagues) can cause stress. Ask her to prove otherwise with her medical degree.

My uber-fertile friend who got pregnant by not wearing knickers to bed, (once the first month they tried and once the second month of trying) says shit like this all the time - I don't really talk to her about babies anymore - and try and aoid seeing her too often too.

 

[DragonMummy]

Tell her to stick it up her arse!

Stress cannot cause infertility, however, infertility (and irritating colleagues) can cause stress. Ask her to prove otherwise with her medical degree.

My uber-fertile friend who got pregnant by not wearing knickers to bed, (once the first month they tried and once the second month of trying) says shit like this all the time - I don't really talk to her about babies anymore - and try and aoid seeing her too often too.

I think I love you...

 

[Chloe1]

first of all can i just say that i am an only child and i love it. The girls who posted saying people have said to them its selfish having one child, or you have left too big an age gap are unbelievable! Why do they think that their rules are right????

Also there are only a few people who know know im trying to conceive and i know they are only trying to help but last week i got the comment...."you just need to relax 18 months really isnt a long time" OMG the steam was coming out of my ears. I know there are plenty people who have been trying a lot longer than me but to me it feels like a very long time especially when i get a period every 28 days! And she also said "it will happen one day" and because i was a bit p****d off i really felt like saying How the bloody hell do you know????

God i feel so much better Thanks for starting this thread DM

 

[Koromaru]

One of my cousin (it's important to say that I hate her) dates an 60something dude full of cash! He bought her a house, a car, they moved far away like in Nova Scotia, she doesn't have to work because he's loaded and they had their 2nd child a while ago.

I hate her! Stupid bitch. Once I saw her in a family reunion with her first kid when she was a few months old and I said " OMG! You've changed!" and she replied with a sarcastic smile "Well you didnt". That year, at the reunion 5cousins had babies at the same time! I'm not going anymore. I'm not that close to them anyway. I always said that my mom's my only remaining family since dad died.

Anyway. Am I the only one feeling like a defective snack machine? I feel like when someone put a coin, the bag of chips get stuck in the rack and you paid for nothing.

Cheers Linds! I love to rant

 

[morsels]

Oh my God, I feel like I have finally found my own personal retreat from this agony of listening to others' 'pearls of wisdom'! I am SOOO relieved it's not just me!!!!

I read every single one of your entries above and was nodding along, saying 'Yep, yep... been there too!' the ENTIRE time! It's so nice to know it's not just the people around me who don't know how to behave around 'fertility challenged' women!

I have an older sister who conceived on her first try TWICE and every month she calls me on the day my period is due and says: "WELL?!?" When I tell her that AF came, she shrieks hysterically: "But WHY?!?! I don't understand?!? What HAPPENED?!?!" etc. Very, very helpful and just what you need to hear at that moment, as you all know.

I actually had to quit my job back in April b/c of one very obnoxious (pregnant) colleague. We both got pregnant around the same time, but I miscarried at 6 weeks. On my first day back at work, she was practically shouting all day long around the office about having to shop for maternity clothes already, what baby names she was considering, etc. Every day, it just got worse and worse until I couldn't stand to be anywhere near her anymore, so I resigned.

Also, we have a neighbor across the street whose 17-year-old daughter gave birth to 2 healthy, beautiful babies within the last 20 months (2 different fathers, of course). So it won't cramp her active lifestyle, she leaves the babies with her Mother and goes out partying until the wee hours every morning. The Mother always badgers me about whether I'm pregnant yet or not every time I bump into her, and last week she actually had the audacity to say "Well... maybe it's time to consider that it's just not meant to be for you..." I was filled with so much rage, I couldn't speak.

We've all been there....and I'm so glad I found you guys. No one else can even begin to understand how frustrating every single day can be.

Thanks for listening (reading!)

 

[Leila Fae]

My MIL said something like 'maybe it's not meant to be' or 'it'll happen when it happens' on the phone the other day. I like to think it was more because she just doesn't have a clue what we're going through (you know what men are like with explaining these things) or maybe she thought it was what I wanted to hear.

I've been educating my parents over the last year or so into the delicate nuances of fertility problems. Bless them they had absolutely no problem conceiving me or my sister so they couldn't possibly understand what it's like. They're starting to get an inkling now though.

 

[Koromaru]

My mom says "Ah it's okay. It'll happen don't worry" I like her for saying positive stuff instead of "OMg! you're not preggo yet?"

 

[DragonMummy]

Ah Morsels thats so hard. A woman at work fell pregnant accidentally and she knew I was trying so she thought she would do the kind thing and tell me first before she announced it on FB.

Except I'd had a MC that day.... OMG I just wanted to die..... Not her fault in this instance, she was trying to be sensitive, but I honestly couldn't do anything except cry.