Really bad day. (huge rant)

[newmommy23]

I am having such a crap day. I woke up later than I meant to and my oh decided we were going to clean the room today, which granted has needed to be done for years. But then we start cleaning and everything and he goes into this whole rant about how if he was going to leave me he'd do it because I'm messy.
which of course made me cry. So I'm trying to finish sorting everything and I went to make us some food because he was hungry and I was feeling very sick as hadn't eaten in around 14 hours. I was so dizzy from standing and doing all this lifting and sorting and bending. it's like he forgets I'm 8 months pregnant.
I brought his food back and he's now slamming hangers around and yelling at me about how he could be with anyone and doesn't have any clue why he choses me sometimes. Going on about how "his daughter" is going to be messy. saying horrible things basically.
now I'm doing all the laundry from the room after throwing away two huge bags of trash, taking the queen bed out of the room, sweeping everything up, and reputting the bed in and remaking it. and he's just ignoring me, it's been like 4 hours. And I'm still upset because I really don't feel well and haven't all day. And poor Molly has hardly moved all day.
And to make it worse, the laundry room is downstairs so I have to heave 6 huge heaping laundry baskets downstairs to wash them, then back up. and I can't reach the bottom of the washer, or the back of the dryer. I don't even know what to do, he's been so weird the past few days and I can't even handle comments like that right now I've been crying my eyes out all day.

And to top it all off I'm supposed to be on mild bedrest.

 

[celestek89]

oh babe thats aweful!! he needs to pull his finger out and help! I dont have much advice, i just really wanted to give u a

 

[AriannasMama]

Guys seriously PMS!!! Sorry he is being an ass I am sure he is stressed about how close its getting and all, but he shouldn't act like that to you and certainly shouldn't make you do all the work! Maybe try asking if something else is bothering him and if you two can work it out?

 

[Tanara]

Im sorry im a bit of a clean freak so i wont say anything other than

 

[newmommy23]

I know I'm messy, but him throwing a tantrum and ignoring me the rest of the evening doesn't help that much =/

 

[Tanara]

awh I didnt mean it like that, i mean i get mad at my OH. So really i cant say anything, Hes probably just stressed hun, thats what couples do they get stressed and take it out and say things they dont mean to the person they love most.

I write lists on our black board everyday of what i want to accomplish in the house, it can be as simple as scrubbing out the fridge (which i did today LOL) or cleaning out the bathroom Or it can be as big as rearanging the whole house. But what I write on that board I finish, it helps to cross out the things you have finished so you know you have made progress, I had issues when i was pregnant with my son, because i spend so much time in my apartment, eventually after i started this tecnique I started to love cleaning, It makes my day go by so much faster, and its so easy now, i mean i can clean my whole house in 30 min, and we have a big place.

I think he is just scared, and stressed when my OH gets stressed he will nit pick at me, like if i dont cook every of the week, or i leave my make-up on the shelf instead of throwing it in the bag. He doesnt really care hes just finding something to distract himself.

 

[newmommy23]

I like the blackboard idea, maybe that would help me! I don't know I guess I'm just lazy hahah. I see that it needs to be done but...ugh I just don't want to do it you know? I just need to get better about it, because I can understand how frustrating that must be for him he's SUCH a neat freak lol. I'm trying to get better about it but I keep falling into old habits. I want to be cleaner and everything, I mean, baby is right around the corner!