Last week I lost my first baby. I was only six weeks pregnant, so I am trying to think how lucky I was to lose him or her now rather than when he or she was much older. I have read some horrible, horrible stories on here of girls losing their babies when they are real little people. I have had a nasty week, but maybe nothing like as nasty as those poor girls have had to go through.
I've got a few questions that I hope some of you might be able to help me with. When I posted about my loss on the pregnancy bit of this forum, everyone was so lovely. It really helps talking on here ... none of my friends or family know what my partner and I are going through, because we don't want to tell them ... but talking to people on here, who don't actually know me, seems a good compromise.
Q1. I have been bleeding, quite lightly apart from the first day, for about five days. I keep thinking the bleeding has stopped, and then in a few hours there'll be a little bit more. I'm also still getting very occasional crampy abdominal pains. Is this all quite normal?
Q2. Sorry to be so graphic, but has anybody else needed to poo a lot after miscarrying? I'm needing to "go" loads, and I also get quite crampy spasms each time I go. I'd like somebody else to tell me they've had this as well, cos I really don't want to have to talk to the doctor about this!
Q3. Although I am sad and cry a little bit each day for the baby I have lost, I also want to start TTC straight away. I almost feel guilty that I am thinking about TTC so soon, as it's almost like I'm saying "Oh well, there goes one, now let's try for another one", but that is not what I mean at all. I just accept that my first baby wasn't meant to be and I would love to try for another baby, and I so hope the story with the next one is a happy story. Do other people want to TTC so soon?
Q4. I have read and read and read all sorts of stuff on the internet about whether it is safe medically to TTC so soon after miscarrying. What are your thoughts? I know that only I will know whether I am ready emotionally, but what about medically? If I am bleeding a teensy-weensy bit still, are we safe to have sex?
Thank you XX
I've got a few questions that I hope some of you might be able to help me with. When I posted about my loss on the pregnancy bit of this forum, everyone was so lovely. It really helps talking on here ... none of my friends or family know what my partner and I are going through, because we don't want to tell them ... but talking to people on here, who don't actually know me, seems a good compromise.
Q1. I have been bleeding, quite lightly apart from the first day, for about five days. I keep thinking the bleeding has stopped, and then in a few hours there'll be a little bit more. I'm also still getting very occasional crampy abdominal pains. Is this all quite normal?
Q2. Sorry to be so graphic, but has anybody else needed to poo a lot after miscarrying? I'm needing to "go" loads, and I also get quite crampy spasms each time I go. I'd like somebody else to tell me they've had this as well, cos I really don't want to have to talk to the doctor about this!
Q3. Although I am sad and cry a little bit each day for the baby I have lost, I also want to start TTC straight away. I almost feel guilty that I am thinking about TTC so soon, as it's almost like I'm saying "Oh well, there goes one, now let's try for another one", but that is not what I mean at all. I just accept that my first baby wasn't meant to be and I would love to try for another baby, and I so hope the story with the next one is a happy story. Do other people want to TTC so soon?
Q4. I have read and read and read all sorts of stuff on the internet about whether it is safe medically to TTC so soon after miscarrying. What are your thoughts? I know that only I will know whether I am ready emotionally, but what about medically? If I am bleeding a teensy-weensy bit still, are we safe to have sex?
Thank you XX