reducing days at nursery - madness or good idea?

[lightweight]

Dd is 22 months and has been going to nursery 3 days a week since I returned to work last apriol. She loves it there and they love her. Ds is now a month old an I carried on taking dd to nursery 3 days a week however I feel guilt y for not having her at home andand have started to miss her. However I do love having one to one time with my newborn and also the rest/ opportunity to do things when he is asleep. Pondering reducing dds nursery days to 2 a week but not sure if would be mad to do so and don't want to regret it!

 

[hayz_baby]

Can u afford nursery fine as it is? If money isn't an issue and she hasn't given u a reason to drop her hours at nursery I say leave as is. The guilt is just yours and she obviously loves it there. It's ok to have some time just you 2 and it is ok to have a lil break .

 

[MrsT&Ben]

I would leave it as it is. Lo's don't deal with change very well (mine certainly doesn't!)

 

[Mrs Doddy]

I would leave it to - give yourself some time with your lo x

 

[Sazzoire]

My DD goes to nursery 3 days a week and I am currently on Mat Leave..... We decided to keep DD's routine the same as we are fortunate enough to be able to afford to keep her there. I also wanted 1 on 1 time with DS as DD had me full time for a full 11 mths. ... I love the days when it is just me and the baby... it's almost a rest from having them both on my own for 2 days....haha. The baby also gets the attention he deserves on DD's nursery days.... as DD can be quite demanding.

 

[XcupcakeX]

I would leave her in her routine.

 

[ellie27]

We were in exact same position with our LOs.

Daughter was at nursery 3 days - we kept her there the 3 days.

Now they are both there 3 days when I work part-time, so it works for us.

My daughter had me all to herself when she was an only child so its only fair I gave my son his own mummy time.

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

I reduced ruby from 3 full to 3 half days when Scarlett was born. I couldn't afford more however I don't think I would send her more even if I could. This routine is lovely for us.

 

[aimee-lou]

I couldn't afford to keep Earl on at his CM when I finished work, so I opted to send him to pre-school 1 day per week as it was a fraction of the cost. He now goes 2 days per week (has his free hours) and loves it, and I get 2 lots of hours on my own at home with Eddy and sometimes hubby too. Earl and I get time one-to-one when he's at home so I don't feel bad, as otherwise Eddy would get very little time with just me and him.

I think some time is good, and if you can afford/managed logistically to keep things to same, then go for it. Your LO is obviously settled, and I'm assuming that when you return to work again she'd only have to go back up, and keeping things normal is the aim of the game. Enjoy the time to yourself with your LO.

 

[Pearls18]

DS currently does 2 days at nursery and 2 days at a CM, when we have our second I will keep him in nursery for the 2 days and maybe one more half session to get his 15 free hours a week (I will look at cost because it will still cost us as it is a private nursery not a preschool so we will have to pay during holiday etc) I think it will be good for DS to have the normality of nursery during the somewhat turbulent time of a new child, plus he loves it, and then it gives me time with the LO. If she is happy there I wouldn't change a thing unless you want to make the most of maternity leave to spend with them both, but sounds like you have a nice balance at the moment. I'm assuming you might need to reserve the days for when you go back?

 

[lightweight]

Thanks for all your comments. Fortunately nursery is subsidised so cost not the issue. I think I was just feeling bad for did not being with mummy more! But I agree that its nice for ds to get mummy time same as dd did

 

[confused87com]

my so used to go 3 days when i was at work. Once i had jessica, i dropped him to one day a week. i miss him when hes not home, but i still have a day to enjoy just jess and i. he still lvoes nursery but i didnt see the point in paying all that money when i could take him to groups and playedates and enjoy seeing him more. Once i work again, him adnhis sister will be going back to the nursery

 

[lightweight]

See I agree about missing them and that's the main reason I would go to 2 days instead. Although I appreciated the 3 days when heavily pregnant!