Rude Co-workers - Feeling hurt!

[DawnMN26]

Hello All

OK I'm hormonal of course & i just heard something at work that really upset me. I'm 37 years old & planned my pregnancy & announced it to my co-workers yesterday.

I just went to lunch with a friend co-worker of mine & she told me that this older nasty lady that works upstair by her had alot to say about my annoucement.

Turns out the old hag said "I'm speechelss about Dawn's news. How about the donor? Every baby needs a father", that i'm not married, etc.

Everyone knows that my current boyfriend & I planned this together. Why would someone say the babies needs a father, they have a father, asking about the donor, etc.? It really hurt my feelings, I wish everyone would just mind their own business.

Has anyone heard rude comments?

 

[natz123]

That's horrible hunni i haven't told hardly anyone yet to get any bad comments but don't let her upset you hunni some people are just jealous xx

 

[MissFox]

So sorry about your jerkface coworkers. They're just jealous! I know it's hard to not let them get to you but just be prepared to overhear it and do some bitchingout.

 

[DawnMN26]

Yea peoples stink!!!
Always have to be 1 @ss in the group, right!! ughhhhhhhhhhhhh

This lady has to be talked to once a month for her behavior in my workplace.
She could tell you what u wore on a certain date, watches when everyone around her comes in, leaves for lunch, comes back from lunch, etc. Nothing better to do but be in other people's business!!! grrrrrrrrr

 

[MissFox]

I think one of the best things you can do is just be prepared for if she says anything within hearing distance to you and put her in her place.
I was getting harrassed for eating a PB&J for breakfast while camping and I said that it helped with MS. Then DF's uncle said "WELL DONT EXPECT PITTY FROM US BECAUSE YOU GOT YOURSELF INTO THAT MESS"
I just looked at him and very abruptly said "I'm not looking for pity- just explaining my choices for food. I don't feel bad about this I'm just actively making myself feel better" and that was the end of that- not another comment on my diet for the rest of the weekend.

 

[Lady-K]

This lady has to be talked to once a month for her behavior in my workplace.

Well, that says it all doesn't it?! Don't take any notice of what she says, I bet no one takes her seriously. Laugh it off and feel sorry for her instead, for being such a miserable sod.

 

[lilaries0411]

I think one of the best things you can do is just be prepared for if she says anything within hearing distance to you and put her in her place.
I was getting harrassed for eating a PB&J for breakfast while camping and I said that it helped with MS. Then DF's uncle said "WELL DONT EXPECT PITTY FROM US BECAUSE YOU GOT YOURSELF INTO THAT MESS"
I just looked at him and very abruptly said "I'm not looking for pity- just explaining my choices for food. I don't feel bad about this I'm just actively making myself feel better" and that was the end of that- not another comment on my diet for the rest of the weekend.

oh my gosh I cant believe he would say that to you! You have a lot of self control hun. In the hormonal state I'm in I would have socked him straight in the mouth for saying that an when he cried because he had to eat apple sauce for a month because all of his teeth were gone I would have told him " well don't expect pitty from me because you got your self in this mess!" lol.
Im really sorry he told you that. That was just rude

 

[DawnMN26]

Wow MissFox, that's crazy! Can't believe he would say that to you!!
What is wrong with people?? Yeah if i heard this lady, I would have jumped
all over it, but can't say a word cause i promised my friend i wouldn't.

Lady K, u r right, her having to meet with her boss once a month due to her behavior says alot! I should just laugh it off instead of letting it bother me!!

Thanks ladies!! xoxo

 

[MissFox]

I'm more of the cold and abrupt answer person. At first FIL was joking with me about it- no biggie but when his uncle jumped in on it I got pissed. Oh well. No need for violence- plus I don't know that guy so well and DF says that he is just like that- so I figured I'd give attitude back.

 

[DawnMN26]

Another co-worker of mine just came to my desk and mentioned that this same old hag had a rude comment about her wearing sneakers to work today.

OMG is there anyone that this lady doesn't talk about? haha

 

[CLH_X3]

OoOoOOooo...

If it was me I am one of those people that would tell her to f%£k off to her face as soon as she made any comment ...

 

[MissFox]

WOW! That lady sounds like she has a miserable life!

 

[Chellepot]

You have a very strong case to lodge a serious complaint about her and I would do it if I were in your shoes. Who does she think she is? She is probably some dried up old shrew that no man would touch with a barge pole and she is jealous because you have a loving partner and a baby on the way.

Ooooh some people just make me sooooooooo MAD!!!

 

[PixieBelle]

That is sucky but at least it is someone you know is an asshat so try not to let it get you down. You know the truth, screw people that want to try and distort that.
The hardest has been people I know and am close to at work saying things behind my back instead of being up front with me.
I have quite a dark sense of humour, boyish in nature. Generally I don't 'get' women but I have a few girls at work I'm close to. One was someone I have been very close to since I started. I was there to talk to when she miscarried, she went into labour the day I visitied her 5 days before her due date etc. So, we have history.
I make a lot of jokes, maybe tasteless, about how much I want a boy. Things like, 'If it's a girl, I'll tell them to pop it back in until it grows the additional parts' and similar things. Now no on else has every taken me seriously, even people that don't generally get my sense of humour. But she went to a colleague and said I needed to 'wake up' about the whole gender thing. WAKE UP? What the hell. It's not that she said it as she can be quite blunt and that's what I love about her, it's rather that she didn't speak to me and made remarks behind my back.
She was clueless when she gave birth but I was always there to talk and offer sugestions as I used to work with children and yet now it feels like she's on her superior chair because she's got one child and I now have no clue.
I just feel really hurt by the whole thing. Maybe I'm just over reacting because of hormones. They make me rageful rather than tearful.

 

[HoolenT]

Perhaps we are more sensitive because of hormones and usually their comments would wash over us, i have yet to make a general announcement (after scan on monday) but am expecting unsolicited advice and judgement to come my way once it is out in the open!

 

[DawnMN26]

Thanks everyone for all ur replies!
I'm not gonna let this biotch bother me!!
I really appreciate all ur replies!!
U guys are awesome!