SAD WARNING: Dreading my anatomy scan in four weeks because...

[overcomer79]

of a dream. I had the worst dream of my life last night and it happened at my anatomy scan.

I am still upset.

I was at my anatomy scan when they told me I had stage four cancer. Then they informed me that it had spread to my baby "girl" (used in dream...don't know gender yet) and she wasn't going to make it.

I spent a lot of time calling people and telling them what I was told and then I became upset about leaving my son.

I just hope I can forget it and become excited about it again.

Thanks to those that read this. I just have to put it out somewhere.

 

[Loz0912]

Ever since I've been pregnant I've been having these really vivid, horrible dreams!

I think it's just our subconscious picking up on our fears and anxieties!

I know it's really hard, but try not to think about it x

 

[LittleOnes]

I can understand how sad and unsettled that could make you! And also I can see why you would be nervous about your scan after that.

My theory is that we work out our fears in our dreams, which we tend to remember especially well during pregnancy, lucky us. I constantly have dreams that DH cheated on me, that my family and friends die, that I get stabbed, shot, kidnapped, etc and boy they are horrible! My psyche needs to work out those fears in my subconscious.

So naturally, you are nervous about your upcoming scan and thinking what could go wrong, and the worst case scenarios. It's not something that you'd necessarily talk about out loud all the time, so you dream about it.

Try to take a few minutes and counteract that with some positive thoughts -- imagine yourself getting great news at your scan, seeing your baby, and later holding your new baby! Those things always make me smile.

 

[taterbean]

Last night, I dreamt that I delivered baby at 25 weeks at home in my bed without any mess or pain. DH and I were talking about when to go to the hospital, and her head popped out! She weighed enough for full term and was absolutely perfect. She was born in August despite the fact that she's due in June, and two days later, she died in her crib I was so upset, but I'm trying to pretend the part where she died wasn't in my dream. I didn't tell DH about that, and I probably won't ever mention it again.

I know it's hard to put the bad thoughts and dreams aside, but know that it was just a dream. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you or your little one.

 

[jenmcn1]

Oh hun...I totally sympathize with you! I have had SOOOOO many horrible bloody creepy dreams! It started from very early on. I had one dream that we were driving over the mountains in winter, and our car was falling over the edge...we were going soooo fast down the side of the mountain...I put my hand over my belly to say goodbye to baby b/c in my dream I knew my death was inevitable! It was AWFUL and shook me up for weeks!! As were supposed to drive over the mountains to my uncles house for christmas! I was terrified and convinced we were going to get in an accident!!!! awful feeling!
We were fine though! My aunt told me that usually these dreams indicate fear thats all. Fear that something might go wrong...but my bet is your will be TOTALLY fine and your baby girl(or boy) will be as well!!!! HUGS! I know how you are feeling...it's awful to have dreams like that! But it's normal!!!

 

[overcomer79]

Thanks ladies...its just nice to voice it out.

 

[bumpycat]

I've been having some awful dreams too, but amazingly they stopped after the anomaly scan last week. Fingers crossed they don't come back. Maybe that will happen to you too once the big tension/anticipation of the anomaly scan is over. They are truly horrific these nightmares when they are so vivid and we remember them on waking - I think we do have dreams just like these all the time, but in pregnancy they become memorable on waking for some reason.

Since the anomaly scan my dreams have been just as vivid and memorable (and some of them SERIOUSLY wacky), but the worst thing that has happened is I dreamed I was cutting my toenails with nail scissors and made the edges come out ragged.

 

[HellBunny]

I'm sure everything will be fine hun, i've had lots of nightmares this time round about bleeding and m/c'ing (its on my mind due to high risk pregnancy) xx

 

[VintageEnvy]

I was afraid to go to the 3d scan we had because I have had a recurrent dream that she didnt have eyeballs. In some dreams she'd open her eyes and they would be black and in other there wasnt anything there at all and it creeped me out.

She opened her eyelids during the scan at one point so we got to see she had them! I was relieved.

 

[kuriazuri]

That is hard! I am sure you will feel a lot better after your scan! I think what everyone is saying about our dreams being related to our fears is so true. I dreamt I caught my OH cheating on me! haha it was hard not to wake up mad at him. I am ready to be over these crazy pregnant dreams!