SAHM after second baby

[lily24]

Why do I feel I have to justify My reasons to everyone for not wanting to return to work?

After DS I was back at work when he was 8 months old. Never really enjoyed it, even though I loved my job before, but just got on with it because I felt I had to take in some money. Now after having DD the thought of even visiting my colleagues for a cuppa fills me with dread! I feel I'm being 'lazy' becoming a SAHM but i want to enjoy my children and their precious years and return to working life when DD is maybe 2 or 3.
DH has said that he doesn't mind being the provider for a while and understands my point.

Did anyone else feel pressure or judged for not being a working mum?

 

[Inoue]

I dont feel pressure to go back to work, but I really dont like doing it . I loved being a SAHM when on maternity, but if we want to be comfortable then I had to go back to work. I hate it, but I must.
If your not in need of your wage and you have the opportunity to have the life you want, then go for it. My mind is made up that I will be a SAHM if I ended up pregnant with my second.
There is a sigma that comes with mums who dont go back to work, well in my mind there is, but its each to its own. Do whats right for YOU and your family, not whats right for outsiders x

 

[CandyDay]

If you can afford it then stay home. Who cares what anyone else thinks. Your DH is okay with it so go for it. They grow up sooo quickly and who better to raise them then thier mom instead of someone else. You don't get these years back and soon enough they will be in school and you can work then. They are home full time for such a short amount of time and these are the years when they need you most and you and they will be glad you stayed home with them while you could. Why pay someone else to raise them for you if you don't need to?

 

[easyrhumba]

Dont worry about it. They would give you just as much grief if you decided to go back to work. Im constantly given crap about working full time!

 

[greenbeans12]

I feel guilty because my OH pays for everything in his own and I contribute nothing financially. I am not sure if I am even considered a SAHM since both of my kid's go to daycare. However, during the day I clean and run errands. I think it's a lovely of you to want to stay at home with the kid's. I would not worry about other people's opinions because it's your choice at the end of the day.

 

[Serafina83]

In my experience you will be made to feel bad whatever you decide to do!! With my first child I went back to work when she was 5 months and was looked down upon for it. This time I've decided not to go back and I'm being looked down upon for that too! I hated missing out on my daughters first years. And plan on staying at home till this one starts school. You should do what's best for you an snot worry about what other people think

 

[HappyHome]

If your husband is supportive of you being at home then that is the greatest thing ever.
Being a SAHM is definitely not lazy, being at home is a good thing, being there with your children, keeping the house and being there when your Husband gets home its a lovely thing.
Focus on you and your family, don't worry about what other people thing.

Be proud to be a SAHM and enjoy it xx

 

[lily24]

Thanks everyone, I'm not generally someone who cares what other people think of my parenting as my children are happy and loved that's all that matters to us.
I'm excited and looking forward to it as I have really enjoyed spending this passed few months with my DS as well as new baby, if gotten to see him do so much that I wouldn't of if I had been working and not had DD.

We can struggle along if we have to for a couple of years, memories are more precious than luxuries