Saying goodnight to LO

[whoops]

HV has been encouraging me to let my parents spend more time with my LO and help me out more, so this evening, I passed my LO to my dad so he could say goodnight to her.

He talked in her face for a few minutes and got her so wound up that it's now over forty minutes later and I'm sitting upstairs with a crying, overtired baby who won't go to sleep.

Why the hell couldn't he engage his brain and just give her a quick kiss and cuddle - now any time he says goodnight in future, I'm going to have to be a bitch about it and order him not to talk too loud or too much in case it winds her back up.

I'm sick of this - the only time of day I get to myself is when she goes to sleep and so he's taken nearly an hour from me.

I realise I sound like a moany, bitchy cow, but I'm sitting here with tears streaming down my face, watching the minutes ticking by.

 

[Katt]

Oh Hun, sounds tough. Those few moments are so precious!

You need to be straight with your dad and say exactly what should happen at bed time. You know lo the best, and know what is appropriate at that time.

However, don't be too hard on him, he probably didn't realise he would cause so many problems.

You could always make a joke of it and demand he babysits for an hour so you get your time back!

 

[x Michelle x]

My OH used to do this, sit and talk loudly and say "I'm not sleepy mummy" and I'd have to bite my Tongue to not say "it's no bloody wonder is it!" I started reiterating to him every evening about quietness and a dim room etc etc. He soon got the hint! Just be upfront with your dad if you can, I know it's hard but people just don't always think! You could try saying, just a quick kiss dad or she'll get so excited she wants to play with you IYKWIM....

 

[fidget]

grr my oh does this, starts cooing and talking loudly it drives me insane, but he leaves for work at 8pm so doesn't get the grizzly overtired baby to deal with!!

i've told him and told him but he always forgets :s

 

[charlotte-xo]

aw hun, next time tell him, if you dont tell him hell just keep doing it. I really hope she goes to sleep for you soon i know how you feel when alfie goes to sleep its my chance to relax or get stuff done.

 

[3011busyyear]

I know the feeling, we go to my parents after work so we don't get there until about 6pm so LO is already getting close to sleepsville, but out comes the noisey annoying flashing toys and cbeebies on the tv!

 

[whoops]

She's finally starting to settle down now, although fighting it as much as possible. I've calmed down a bit as well.

Thanks, ladies. I think the next time, I'll just say it to him before he says goodnight - will have to phrase it carefully though because he gets offended quite easily. Some good suggestions here.

 

[whoops]

She finally went off to sleep after an hour. I went downstairs and my dad was all 'she sure was kicking off up there...' and even said that she was nearly asleep when I brought her up, as if I'd somehow done something to upset her as soon as I got her upstairs.

So I nicely mentioned that I think the passing back and forth wound her up and that she usually goes off to sleep no bother.

At least he'll remember that she was upset tonight so will hopefully understand when I ask him not to be too full on when saying goodnight in future.

 

[Katt]

Glad she got to sleep finally! Enjoy the little time you have left tonight x

 

[a_c]

my dad does this - mainly in the day when she gets grouchy because she's tired he starts pushing a toy in her face! ARGH. Deep breath and lay it on the line!

 

[ginny]

My DH did this tonight, insisted on keeping our LO out past his bedtime until 8pm so, he'd kept him awake since 3.30pm!!!! He's 15 weeks old... Cue no bath, bottle and bed. I left him to settle him, it took my DH from 8pm until 9pm to get him to sleep and he 's just women up for a full feed which I let my DH handle... It's only fair!!! Drives me mad xxx

 

[KayBea]

My OH did this the other night.. LO has a bath at 7 then i normally take her into our room and read a book or sing twinkle twinkle little star or something.. Then bottle and sleep in her own room.
Or i take her into living room and i have eastenders on really quitly and we cuddle..

BUT if OH is home its a different story...
He shouts in her face, tickles her, puts her in jumperoo, throws her in the air.. Just generally p**ses about..
So i dont get her to sleep until gone 10, by then shes overtired and hungry again..
Im dying for a wee, need to wash up, do bottles finish putting the washing away..
Drives me friggin mad!!!!
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