Scared to death of this baby!

[ssamantha]

So, I feel like a huge idiot because I accidentally posted this as a reply to another completely unrelated thread! I was reading the thread and didn't realize that I had his reply to that instead of starting a new thread. I can't think straight at all. I don't get much sleep because I'm constantly thinking about being pregnant/the baby/everything else that I've screwed up.

I've finally worked up the courage to registere here and post something. I've come here a few times since I found out I was pregnant, but I always got too nervous to participate. I don't know why.

Anyway, my name is Samantha and I'm 16. I found out I was pregnant 3 weeks ago. I haven't been to the doctor yet, mainly because I haven't told my parents. I used an online calcultor and it puts me at around 9 weeks, but that's only with my estimations because I can't remember the exact dates of anything. I'm just really scared and it's all I can think about. I just sit there all day at school thinking about it, not paying attention to anything else. I don't know what to do. I don't want anyone to know. I don't want them to think I'm one of those girls that wanted to get pregnant at 16. I don't want this at all. I've only ever been with one guy and this was a complete accident. I don't know who to talk to about it, I just need someone whose been there.

 

[Campbell]

Hey Sam I'm in the same situation as you. I tried to figure out how to PM you but I'm so blonde I couldn't figure it out lol. Let me know if/how you want my e-mail.

Keep your chin up hun, it will get better!

 

[michele06]

Aw keep your head up. I am Michele and I am 21 weeks pregnant. I'm 19. I know I'm a lot older than you but I was in the same position as you. I was SO scared and didn't want anyone getting the wrong impression. But eventually you gotta put your pride aside and do the right thing. At least tell your parents so you can make a decision and think through things together. Are you wanting to keep this baby or are you keeping your options open?

 

[KiwiMOM]

Hey Sam,

Find out I was pregnant was a total shock and was for most of the girls on here. Telling your parents might seem scary but trust me, you feel heaps better when it's all out in the open. I didn't tell my parents before going to see a dr, most antenatal care over here is free because they want to make sure everyone is getting what they need, not sure where you're from but you could look into options to go see a dr and talk about what YOU want before you tell your parents, or tell your parents first so that they can support you. My parents and OH's parents have been wonderful so you never know!

keep us posted! everyone here is super helpful and nice and someone on here will always know where you're coming from!

Good luck!

 

[ssamantha]

Hey Sam I'm in the same situation as you. I tried to figure out how to PM you but I'm so blonde I couldn't figure it out lol. Let me know if/how you want my e-mail.

Keep your chin up hun, it will get better!

Thanks. I'm so glad someone else is in my situation. That sounds so bad. I don't want anyone to feel like I do, but I feel so alone. I don't think we're allowed to send/receive pm's because neither of us have enough posts yet. I just tried to put my email address in, but I can't do that until I have 10 posts. So, if either of us gets 10 posts, we can share our email address or something.

 

[ssamantha]

Aw keep your head up. I am Michele and I am 21 weeks pregnant. I'm 19. I know I'm a lot older than you but I was in the same position as you. I was SO scared and didn't want anyone getting the wrong impression. But eventually you gotta put your pride aside and do the right thing. At least tell your parents so you can make a decision and think through things together. Are you wanting to keep this baby or are you keeping your options open?

It's too hard to even think about telling my parents right now. I feel really sick when I just imagine how I'll tell them.
I don't know what I want to do. I jump from one thing to the other. I usually lay in bed for hours at night just thinking about it. I decide on one option, but wake up feeling different the next day. I don't know, I really love my boyfriend and don't like thinking about not keeping our baby, but at the same time it's really scary thinking about raising a baby.

 

[ssamantha]

Hey Sam,

Find out I was pregnant was a total shock and was for most of the girls on here. Telling your parents might seem scary but trust me, you feel heaps better when it's all out in the open. I didn't tell my parents before going to see a dr, most antenatal care over here is free because they want to make sure everyone is getting what they need, not sure where you're from but you could look into options to go see a dr and talk about what YOU want before you tell your parents, or tell your parents first so that they can support you. My parents and OH's parents have been wonderful so you never know!

keep us posted! everyone here is super helpful and nice and someone on here will always know where you're coming from!

Good luck!

I feel so stupid. I don't even know if I can go to the doctor without my parents knowing. I'd have to use our health insurance, so my parents would at least find out through that.
It's weird, because I do think it'd feel better once they knew, but it's the actual telling them part that scares me the most. Their reactions will be terrible. It's also just so embarassing to me. It's like I don't want to admit it to anyone, especially them.

Thanks for the support.

 

[hot tea]

There are tons of options for you. There is adoption, and if you feel this is right morally, even abortion. There are people who can help you, no matter what you feel is right for you. Having a baby young is very very difficult, but you can do it! It is a huge committment, it is terrifying, it means long nights up and the rest of your life responsible for someone else. I had my first at 17 and I know how tough this is. I fully understand how you feel.

It is absolutely CRUCIAL you tell an adult, who can give you a clear view of your options. Your parents can help. I know it is scary, but they can and they will if you give them the chance. Sitting frozen will not change the fact a little one is growing inside you.

 

[hot tea]

Hey Sam,

Find out I was pregnant was a total shock and was for most of the girls on here. Telling your parents might seem scary but trust me, you feel heaps better when it's all out in the open. I didn't tell my parents before going to see a dr, most antenatal care over here is free because they want to make sure everyone is getting what they need, not sure where you're from but you could look into options to go see a dr and talk about what YOU want before you tell your parents, or tell your parents first so that they can support you. My parents and OH's parents have been wonderful so you never know!

keep us posted! everyone here is super helpful and nice and someone on here will always know where you're coming from!

Good luck!

I feel so stupid. I don't even know if I can go to the doctor without my parents knowing. I'd have to use our health insurance, so my parents would at least find out through that.
It's weird, because I do think it'd feel better once they knew, but it's the actual telling them part that scares me the most. Their reactions will be terrible. It's also just so embarassing o me. It's like I don't want to admit it to anyone, especially them.

Thanks for the support.

Try writing them a letter. Tell them in whatever way is easiest. Perhaps not facing them straight on will help your anxiety.

 

[ssamantha]

Yeah, a letter might be easier for me, I guess.

 

[Laniinthesky]

have you got school counsellors or anything?? schools tend to be helpfull in this situation. youll also get extra help and teachers will be pretty understanding

 

[ssamantha]

have you got school counsellors or anything?? schools tend to be helpfull in this situation. youll also get extra help and teachers will be pretty understanding

I go to a Catholic school. I'm scared to talk to the counselors. They're nice, but I'd feel so weird admitting this to them. I know they'll find out sooner or later though.

 

[Laniinthesky]

i understand that. have a sit down and think about who you can speak to rather then worry and feel bad so much. You cant worry yourself out of your situation and nows the time to be making decisions. that isnt suposed to sound mean. But yeah once you have this off your chest everything becomes alot more enjoyable

 

[hot tea]

I agree, the very best thing you can do for yourself is just bite the bullet and get help. I know how tough it is, but your worry is what is making it so tough. You are being hard on yourself.

 

[qwerry]

So, I feel like a huge idiot because I accidentally posted this as a reply to another completely unrelated thread! I was reading the thread and didn't realize that I had his reply to that instead of starting a new thread. I can't think straight at all. I don't get much sleep because I'm constantly thinking about being pregnant/the baby/everything else that I've screwed up.

I've finally worked up the courage to registere here and post something. I've come here a few times since I found out I was pregnant, but I always got too nervous to participate. I don't know why.

Anyway, my name is Samantha and I'm 16. I found out I was pregnant 3 weeks ago. I haven't been to the doctor yet, mainly because I haven't told my parents. I used an online calcultor and it puts me at around 9 weeks, but that's only with my estimations because I can't remember the exact dates of anything. I'm just really scared and it's all I can think about. I just sit there all day at school thinking about it, not paying attention to anything else. I don't know what to do. I don't want anyone to know. I don't want them to think I'm one of those girls that wanted to get pregnant at 16. I don't want this at all. I've only ever been with one guy and this was a complete accident. I don't know who to talk to about it, I just need someone whose been there.

Im so so sorry you are feeling like this , I remember being in your position i'm also only 16 and was just finishing up school and thinking about college when i found out , i was soo sick with nerves that i couldn't eat infront of my parents as i was so nervous even of their presence but honestly they will take it SO much better than you ever expected , write them a letter you will be surprised how much easier that will make it or just come out and tell them once they are over the shock their support will make you feel so much better honestly.
As for everyone else, don't let peoples opinions bother you , grow a thick skin and not bother with them, you knwo how people are they judge you no matter what , we are teenagers we get judged regardless just like everything.
Have you told the father? I hope you make the right decisions hunnie keep us posted and i wish you all the luck with everythingxxx

 

[ssamantha]

So, I feel like a huge idiot because I accidentally posted this as a reply to another completely unrelated thread! I was reading the thread and didn't realize that I had his reply to that instead of starting a new thread. I can't think straight at all. I don't get much sleep because I'm constantly thinking about being pregnant/the baby/everything else that I've screwed up.

I've finally worked up the courage to registere here and post something. I've come here a few times since I found out I was pregnant, but I always got too nervous to participate. I don't know why.

Anyway, my name is Samantha and I'm 16. I found out I was pregnant 3 weeks ago. I haven't been to the doctor yet, mainly because I haven't told my parents. I used an online calcultor and it puts me at around 9 weeks, but that's only with my estimations because I can't remember the exact dates of anything. I'm just really scared and it's all I can think about. I just sit there all day at school thinking about it, not paying attention to anything else. I don't know what to do. I don't want anyone to know. I don't want them to think I'm one of those girls that wanted to get pregnant at 16. I don't want this at all. I've only ever been with one guy and this was a complete accident. I don't know who to talk to about it, I just need someone whose been there.

Im so so sorry you are feeling like this , I remember being in your position i'm also only 16 and was just finishing up school and thinking about college when i found out , i was soo sick with nerves that i couldn't eat infront of my parents as i was so nervous even of their presence but honestly they will take it SO much better than you ever expected , write them a letter you will be surprised how much easier that will make it or just come out and tell them once they are over the shock their support will make you feel so much better honestly.
As for everyone else, don't let peoples opinions bother you , grow a thick skin and not bother with them, you knwo how people are they judge you no matter what , we are teenagers we get judged regardless just like everything.
Have you told the father? I hope you make the right decisions hunnie keep us posted and i wish you all the luck with everythingxxx

Thanks. I'm the same. I get so nervous around my parents. It feels like if they look at my long enough, they'll be able to tell. I've been making up excuses to stay away from everybody.

I haven't told the father yet either. I'm not really scared to tell him, but now I feel like I've waited so long that I don't know how to tell him that I've known for 3 weeks.

 

[youngmummy94]

There are tons of options for you. There is adoption, and if you feel this is right morally, even abortion. There are people who can help you, no matter what you feel is right for you. Having a baby young is very very difficult, but you can do it! It is a huge committment, it is terrifying, it means long nights up and the rest of your life responsible for someone else. I had my first at 17 and I know how tough this is. I fully understand how you feel.

It is absolutely CRUCIAL you tell an adult, who can give you a clear view of your options. Your parents can help. I know it is scary, but they can and they will if you give them the chance. Sitting frozen will not change the fact a little one is growing inside you.

I don't think we are meant to talk about that on here.. Remember we are all pro-life.

The best thing you can do is talk to someone, and a doctor to discuss your options. Telling your parents might be hard but you will feel 100x better when they know and they can support you.

 

[Leopard]

Aww sweetheart you know it is really up to you when or if you tell anyone (just remember the bump will be a telltale sign if you decide to keep). And remember there are also options available if you are concerned. Now I'm against a few things but there are websites that can give you the information you need.

Also you may be surprised; your parents may react badly to start off with but they love you and will support you, and as for school, maybe the Councillor is a good idea; they cannot divulge the information to anyone without your permission.

The other thing is do you plan on telling the father? I'm not sure how (I'm guessing he is a teen) he will react; but you probably should tell him once you have made a decision regarding the baby, if he is still around somewhere he may even support you; but as I said I don't know the full story. But yeah
- Go to the doctor
- Talk to someone
- Decide what you are going to do about the pregnancy
- then decide who to tell.

I'm sure everything will be fine.

 

[ssamantha]

Aww sweetheart you know it is really up to you when or if you tell anyone (just remember the bump will be a telltale sign if you decide to keep). And remember there are also options available if you are concerned. Now I'm against a few things but there are websites that can give you the information you need.

Also you may be surprised; your parents may react badly to start off with but they love you and will support you, and as for school, maybe the Councillor is a good idea; they cannot divulge the information to anyone without your permission.

The other thing is do you plan on telling the father? I'm not sure how (I'm guessing he is a teen) he will react; but you probably should tell him once you have made a decision regarding the baby, if he is still around somewhere he may even support you; but as I said I don't know the full story. But yeah
- Go to the doctor
- Talk to someone
- Decide what you are going to do about the pregnancy
- then decide who to tell.

I'm sure everything will be fine.

Yeah, I know I will have to tell people, especially my parents, sooner or later. It will become obvious. How long do I have until I start to show?

I do plan on telling the father. He's my boyfriend. I meant to tell him a while ago, but I just couldn't get it out. Now I'm worried he'll be mad that I waited to tell him. That doesn't even make sense since it's just making me wait even longer, and that could potentially make him even more mad. He'll also probably make me tell someone or go to the doctor and I'm scared to be forced into doing that.

 

[Leopard]

you can start showing anytime after 16wks (sometimes earlier). I will say, you do need to go to the doctor; no matter what you decide there are still blood tests that need to be carried out to ensure your health; and it does need to be medically confirmed that you are pregnant. You should be going to the doctor before 10wks as at 10wk that usually want you to go for your first ultrasound to check bub.