Scared to have sex!

[mustbemadbaby]

I'm only 4 weeks and had 2 back to back chemicals in the last 2 months so hoping this is 3rd time lucky! I'm absolutely petrified if we have sex we will lose this little bean,so we are being intimate without penetration! Is anyone else feeling like this? Argghhhh!!!!

 

[Alexas Mommy]

I tol OH no sex until 5 weeks, but I will say that although I share your fear, it is irrational! Sex is even better while pregnant! Give it time and you'll ease back into rationale of sex being fine during pregnancy!

 

[BlueJayBabe]

I feel the exact same way. Don't wanna risk anything so I'm waiting till I see my doc tomorrow to see what she says.

 

[markswife10]

Don't worry, we just had sex for the first time since finding out about baby today (and it was AMAZING). We have been petrified of penetration because last pregnancy I spotted after sex and it just started continuing and I ended up losing the baby (and I know sex had NOTHING to do with it, but we just decided to be SUPER cautious this time around). Don't have sex if you don't feel comfortable doing it! It is a common pregnancy fear, ease into it. The further along you get the more at ease you will feel

Also our doctor told us that sex does NOT cause miscarriages. It is perfectly safe to have sex during pregnancy and it won't cause your baby any harm in any way. Just don't be TOO alarmed if you spot afterward because the cervix is full of blood and easily irritated.

 

[lw0619]

see that is definitely my fear that i will irritate the cervix, see spots, and FREAK!!! weve only had sex twice since finding out i was pregnant. no spotting yet, but i definitely thought about it each time during

 

[Loobylola]

I was like this, I didn't want to have sex "just incase" even my mom said don't have sex for a few weeks so the baby can settle in to the womb and not come loose!!!! How crazy haha! Enjoy it now because in 6 months time one of you might not want to do it so get it while you can

 

[lou belle]

Me and OH only had sex for the first time since conception the other morning! I was terrified of having a bleed and he finds pregnancy a turn off and is afraid of what it will do to bubs. I was so scared doing it but felt like i had achieved something after lol and there was no spotting! I had a little cry after cause i was so scared/relieved haha

 

[xjesx]

While I share the fear it really is irrational as said before in an earlier post.

Sex isn't going to harm the baby. If something is wrong, its going to be wrong sex or no sex.

 

[GingerPanda]

DH and I thought that it would be a turn on after we got pregnant, but now he says it's kind of weird just knowing that we're having sex with "our baby in the room".

I know it's not the same, but it does feel kind of weird. We have had sex a couple of times, but definitely not as much as we used to. I have not noticed sex being better. If anything, it's worse because we're scared to do it like we used to.

 

[lou belle]

Me and OH only had sex for the first time since conception the other morning! I was terrified of having a bleed and he finds pregnancy a turn off and is afraid of what it will do to bubs. I was so scared doing it but felt like i had achieved something after lol and there was no spotting! I had a little cry after cause i was so scared/relieved haha

 

[Visje]

Possibly very silly question, but, um, does size matter when it comes to how likely sex is to harm the baby?

Let's just say that because of this, um, issue, it's hard to believe that sex is OK, and we've been resorting to handjobs instead. We feel like we're 15 all over again. :-/

 

[Lucy529]

I have that fear but we're just careful but after I always check to make sure there no bleeding I have had two scares as it is so right now we're on a break until my drs apt next week if we make that long my hubs has a high sex drive but is making an effort to hold off poor guy

 

[GingerPanda]

Yeah, I wondered if size mattered as well, but I didn't want to sound like I was bragging.

 

[Visje]

Yeah, I wondered if size mattered as well, but I didn't want to sound like I was bragging.

Me too! This is the first time that this one has ever been a complaint!

 

[Lucy529]

Yeah, I wondered if size mattered as well, but I didn't want to sound like I was bragging.

Didn't want to say anything either but that's why we're careful sometimes I flat out say no but luckily he understands

I'm guessing as baby grows so will my fear iykwim

 

[Alexas Mommy]

at the size concern- I have the SAME worry! I *think* it should be fine-that said when we do finally have sex I know I'm going to make sure it's gentle sex (which is likely going to ruin the whole experience! )

 

[angelswings07]

We had sex first at 7 weeks, and I was a little nervous and he was a little bit reluctant, but it was a-maz-ing! We basically haven't stopped since ... it is totally worth it. And I haven't had any bleeding or spotting, and we're not exactly gentle.

 

[Lucy529]

Angelswings LOL

hoping that if my drs apt goes well we might be able to enjoy being intimate, I miss my hubbies cuddles afterwards but right now we can't even do that bc it leads to other things tbh we had beed doing it regularly but after last weeks bleed it scared me to much so were trying to wait

 

[bakingbabe]

I'm scared too. Glad to hear I'm not alone. My scan is the end of this week and hopefully I'll feel more confident then.

Great topic!

 

[Hope115]

We didnt dtd till 10 weeks!!!! At first we were very nervous becuz we too had a chemical. Then, the morning sickness set in and iv been too sick ... But my OH has been great about it. We FINALLY started to be intimate again and i always run to the bathroom afterwards to make sure im not bleeding... So far so good