Second pregnancy worse than first :(

[Twinminator]

Just a little whinge really... I am of course thrilled to be pregnant but I'm sooo disappointed as I just feel rough all the time

I say disappointed, because my first pregnancy was with twins and although the first tri I was super tired and slept a lot, after that I really did have the pregnancy glow and I always maintain that during that pregnancy was the healthiest and happiest I'd ever felt in my life. So when I found out I was pg again, I was really looking forward to the 'magical feeling' again. But I've got hair like straw, pimples, headaches, tiredness, nausea still and I don't want to see anyone because I feel so clapped out. My diet isn't SOO great as last time because of the nausea but I'm taking my Pregnacare. I'm petrified it's going to last for the whole pg - I'm already on the verge of tears most of the time because I can't be the wife and mother I want to be.

I know it's early days, still not quiiite 14 weeks, but I wasn't this bad last time and I'm sure DH thinks I'm milking it because statistics say that first pgs and twin pgs are usually the worst.

Is there anyone else who's suffering more this time than last? If so,

 

[kazharry]

Yes definitely! This is my 3rd pregnancy (4th baby as first were twins too) and I feel worse than I have with any of the others, mostly being awful headaches! x

 

[Twinminator]

Kazharry, you're just the lady.... anything you wished you'd been told about having a newborn singleton with twin toddlers at home? Or is it okay? xx

 

[gemabee]

each pregnancy is different nd bein pregnant with a child at home makes it much more difficult... with twins at home its obviously harder!!!
i am a twin... my brother came 2 years later... i have soooo much respect for my mother! xx

 

[Tanikit]

I am also a twin - my mother had a singleton first then twins then a second singleton - 4 in all - I have no clue how she did it!

This pregnancy has also been far worse than last time - the MS is worse and I have vomited far more than last time. I also feel like I have been more tired, but that is really because I have had very little sleep with DD sleeping terribly. The diabetes has also caused more hassles than last time. DH has been better this time though and far more helpful which has helped. My MS is easing off somewhat now, but is still not gone and it was by this time last pregnancy. While I have more energy the last few days I am still wanting to collapse for naps (which almost never happen).

Hope your pregnancy improves. Maybe this one is a boy - they say it can be harder with boy pregnancies into the second trimester. I wouldn't know obviously

 

[Shrimpy]

i feel your pain!! My 2 girls were pretty damn easy pregnancies. #1 I was shattered for the 1st trimester but that was it, after that I felt fantabulous. #2 I felt ace, had a scare at 27-28wks when she nearly appeared early and had spd but I honestly felt fine. This time I am miserable. I'm fine first thing until about 1pm then I feel so sick and tired it's awful. My poor kids have been glued to the tv or chucked in the garden on their own on days where hubby's at work as I just don't have the energy or wellbeing to take them anywhere. My house is a pigstye and I just generally feel like a failure! I am sooo glad that this is our last baby as I don't think I could go through this again. Women who have repeated hypermesis have my utmost respect and admiration!!

We'll get through it lovey, as they say, every day is a step closer

 

[kazharry]

No to be honest everything was fine. The twins were nearly 3 and Callum used to just sit there good as gold watching them playing. One piece of advice I would give you is to put the baby to bed awake to get used to going to sleep on his/her own and also don't pick him/her up straight away when they cry (hard I know) but it's the best way. Callum was very chilled out because of this and slept through from 6 weeks x

 

[Twinminator]

Thanks ladies It's hard when you imagine a rosy pregnancy and you get a crap one, makes you wonder if the dream of happy families when third baby arrives is also going to be too much for you make you feel like a failure

 

[goddess25]

I know that this time around I have felt more tired and more nauseated but last time I got home from work and would have a little lie down on the sofa while DH made dinner, I would eat dinner and then pretty much go to bed to relax..

This time around I come home from work, DH leaves for work although bless he has already made dinner for us it just needs re heated... i get Euan up from nap, play with him, we eat dinner, have a little walk outside, bath time and bed time, i clean the kitchen and do the dishes then i do to bed, sleep , leave for work it starts again. Weekends DH is working too so I have the wee one all day.. lucklily he naps for awhile in the afternoon so I try to aswell or at least lie down to relax...

You have a whole different set of commitments now and it is harder for sure.

 

[sparkle05]

Hi ladies

I am having my 4th baby

Each pregnancy gets worse for me

My first pregnancy was a text book one. I loved every minute of it even the labour lol. I had no sickness, no heart burn, no backache nothing

My second i was sick from 8 weeks to 12 weeks lost loads of weight, had spots, heartburn and was so emotional i didn't go out some days lol.

My 3rd i was sick from the moment i found out i was pregnant until about 16 weeks. I could hold nothing down not even water. I was exhausted through out and developed SPD later on.

I am now 20 weeks pregnant with my 4th. I have been sick from 8 weeks up until 2 weeks ago now i just feel nauseous. I have had a trapped nerve in my leg and bum, spots all over my face and body, the most awful heartburn that makes me want to cry SPD is starting to kick in and if i sit for to long i fall asleep lol.

I wont be doing it again so am trying very hard to enjoy my pregnancy

Every pregnancy has been different for me. I look at some of my friends who have 3 children and they have had easy pregnancies each time glowed and lost their baby weight strait away after. Then there is me

Only another 20 weeks to go and it will all be forgotten when i have my little bean in my arms

 

[jojo-m]

My first pg was a breeze, sick mostly in morning til 15 weeks that's all, this time although been sick all day every day til 17 weeks I still get sick twice a week now, I'm miserable a lot because of this and nausea and feel crap all the time!

Losing hope of getting that glow but you learn to cope better with it! Of course I hope you do get better, at 14 week there is still time! X

 

[Twinminator]

Sigh* Big hugs to all you ladies above

I can't help thinking I'm partly bringing this on myself because first pg (for 2nd tri & some of 3rd tri) I was super active (well I had to be, DH and I were running a pub restaurant but were in the last few months of our contract, had gotten near bankruptcy, so couldn't afford the "luxury" of staff where we were physically able to be there, so it was: cleaning pub, opening pub, cooking food, washing up, cleaning pub again mid afternoon, ready for the evening shift to do it all over again, in between trips to the bank and cash&carry, while DH spent his life behind the bar... I swear without exaggeration there was no time to ourselves - at the time I was scared it would be harming my twinnies but in hindsight, keeping going was the best thing I could've done).
Anyway, this time is obviously SOOO different, I do desperately want to make the most of the summer (haha) months for the girls' sake and 'get moving' but because there's ultimately a choice involved, it's like my brain's just saying no. Surely I should push myself more? For the girls' sake and for my health? I feel like such an achy flump!

 

[jojo-m]

I partly agree with that and partly not hun, simply because I'm a student nurse and on placement for the last 7 weeks, so I've had to get my backside of the sofa and get on with it, which is fine for that day but then I spend the next day sicker than ever, with headache and I think its just the product of exhaustion. I think its sometimes better to listen to your body as well. Maybe a small walk out with your babes then rest, don't do too much, it may well make you feel worse! x

 

[kazharry]

I also find if I do too much I'm exhausted the next day and the headaches are alot worse x

 

[Shrimpy]

I ditto the above too. I get days where I feel better so feel I have to get everything done that day and I certainly pay for it the next day and have to spend most of it lazing around like a vast sloth feeling sorry for myself!

Just think in 6monts or less we will have our little bundles in our arms and this will all be a distant memory ... (the smell of those first poopy nappies will replace this hehehe)

 

[Natalie Flynn]

This pregnancy is so much worse for me. I am exhausted all of the time, vomiting a hell of a lot more and in absolutely agony with my back and pelvis already. xx

 

[Twinminator]

Thanks guys. My mum's visiting today and she's totally like "you've got too much time to dwell on it, just get on with it" That's typical her, all the drama I've helped her with and I rarely confide in her because of her attitude.

I'm so F**ing angry I've had to come away to post this and calm down

 

[Shrimpy]

Mum's can be right pains in the arses! Mine thinks I'm imagining feeling the baby flutters, I'm too early and the baby is too small .... of course this is only my 3rd pregnancy so how the heck would I know

 

[mazee71]

I had a great 1st pg - no sickness, no spots, not emotional, only put weight on infront and I just felt it was a boy - after a difficult labour HE did arrive.

2nd pg, was spotty, greasy hair, sick all way through, a crying/angry mess who just ballooned everywhere - didnt having any feelings as to what baby was - after a very easy labour a little girl arrived.

3rd pg just basically a rerun of No 1, so I again felt strongly it was a boy (despite this baby being with my new partner) - sure enough after another difficult labour a little boy arrived.

This pg I'm sick/or feeling it unless I stuff my face almost constantly, put on loads of weight already (about 9lbs), emotional/sobbing mess and again I just dont 'feel' what it is - despite sonographer leaning girl and all symptoms.

 

[Twinminator]

Mazee - that's really amazing, I've never heard a gender theory related to births before, my twins girls came along after a relatively uncomplicated birth.... but pregnancy was also relatively straightforward too (I say relatively, there are some drawbacks to twin pgs in the 3rd tri, but considering allathat, it went well!) But, I will have to start doing some research on it, Google here I come

Shrimpy, I think the best thing we can learn from our mothers is to make damn sure we don't treat our adult daughters in the same way!

You were all right about feeling poop regardless of how active you are - I decided to push myself a little more yesterday to prove to my mum that I'm not milking this (funnily enough she and my step dad let me wait on them hand and foot, characteristically) and by mid afternoon I was inwardly begging for mercy, but I would not let her see I was struggling (I'm NOT confiding in her again just to be told to pull myself together) and when they finally left at 5pm I was an exhausted sobbing aching nauseous heap on the bed. I still feel hideous today.
Silly and bloody-minded of me perhaps... but I've proved my body IS telling me correctly and I'm not being "lazy"