PeanutBean
Mumma to B & I
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Hi everyone. With my last birth I planned a lovely home water birth. I never joined in this section then as it was jsut something I was going to do. However it didn't go to plan. My waters went early and I didn't deliver within the 18 hours set before I had to go into hospital for antibiotics. It was all downhill from then on. After 30 hours ish I ended up on syntocinon, had a failed epidural that so successfully number my legs and pelvic floor (but not uterus) I couldn't push, and ended up with an episiotomy and ventouse delivery.
Two years on I still cry at the remembrance but am trying to turn it into something positive. At my booking in my MW asked if I wanted a homebirth again, totally positive about it. I have now read a book (I don't read birthing/parenting books!) because it was recommended to me and I'm looking to boost my confidence.
I now feel that my analysis of the birth shows that EVERYTHING could've been prevented. I've heard of hospital policies for breaking waters being up to 36 hours so why was I in at 18? Why did the second MW at home think I'd been in labour 12 hours less time than I had? Why did she do an internal that went against guidance? Why did they tell me to push when contractions got firmer whilst I was in the pool at hospital? Why did they then take me out and lie me down with pethidine slowing everything down again? Why did they offer me an epidural I wouldn't have asked for an remember being unsure about accepting, especially when my labour was already slow enough to put me on syntocinon? Had they left me to my own devices and allowed me to labour then I would've got there in the end.
Some decisions I made were no good too.
This time I want no internals. I will sleep when labour starts as I should've done last time but was too afraid/excited. If my waters go early I'm not going to tell them unless I have my own concerns. I now want a home birth more than a water birth if it comes down to a choice. I want no offer of epidural at all should I end up in hospital. I want to trust my body because after all this time I realise it's not my fault.
So here I am. I've been inspired by the book but there's another 20 weeks or more yet! I'm hoping you natural birthing ladies might be able to help keep my confidence up.
Two years on I still cry at the remembrance but am trying to turn it into something positive. At my booking in my MW asked if I wanted a homebirth again, totally positive about it. I have now read a book (I don't read birthing/parenting books!) because it was recommended to me and I'm looking to boost my confidence.
I now feel that my analysis of the birth shows that EVERYTHING could've been prevented. I've heard of hospital policies for breaking waters being up to 36 hours so why was I in at 18? Why did the second MW at home think I'd been in labour 12 hours less time than I had? Why did she do an internal that went against guidance? Why did they tell me to push when contractions got firmer whilst I was in the pool at hospital? Why did they then take me out and lie me down with pethidine slowing everything down again? Why did they offer me an epidural I wouldn't have asked for an remember being unsure about accepting, especially when my labour was already slow enough to put me on syntocinon? Had they left me to my own devices and allowed me to labour then I would've got there in the end.
Some decisions I made were no good too.
This time I want no internals. I will sleep when labour starts as I should've done last time but was too afraid/excited. If my waters go early I'm not going to tell them unless I have my own concerns. I now want a home birth more than a water birth if it comes down to a choice. I want no offer of epidural at all should I end up in hospital. I want to trust my body because after all this time I realise it's not my fault.
So here I am. I've been inspired by the book but there's another 20 weeks or more yet! I'm hoping you natural birthing ladies might be able to help keep my confidence up.