September Stars

[ladykara]

Oh forgot to add, 13 years between my two and my attention is more than halved because their is such a big age gap, if they are closer in age at least you can play with them both together, bath them together, feed them together , this is another main reason why I think having a close age gap is important to us....x

Jellycat- I think i spent 3 months with my boobs out, i think grant misses those days..lol x

 

[Asher]

Evening ladies!!

Emzy I agree with everyone else. It doesn't actually matter what the age gap is, you've still got loads to do and different things to do, depending on their ages at the time. I didn't BF my eldest anywhere near as long as the other two. Archie was 2 and a half when Jack was born, and Jack almost 3 and a half when Sam was born. I think bottle feeding can be just as demanding as boob feeding, cos you've got to sort bottles out and get them sterilised etc. And you also have the same problems with any type of feeding, sometimes you're messing about with bottles because they're only taking an ounce at the time! I actually think you may be at an advantage bfing a smaller baby with an older sibling, because at least you have a hand/arm free, perfect for putting around that older sibling and reading a book or watching TV or whatever. You can keep the eldest one nice and tucked in close to you!! Maybe your friend just feels the need to justify her own actions? Whatever happens for you, you'll make it work! And you know that if the bfing doesn't work out, it's not the end of the world. xx

Love to all tonight, hope everyone's ok. xx

 

[Asher]

BTP, meant to ask if you got Sophie sorted at preschool?

Jack loved his couple of hours in reception this afternoon. I just wish he could go full days now, grrrrr. Ah well, 4 more short ones to go!!
Sam did okay at Wendy's (childminder)... on Wednesday I am leaving him for an hour, then all of Thursday morning. Only a week left now until work begins again!

 

[genies girl]

Thankyou so much for the support I knew I could be supported here whatever the topic so I thank you , today has been a bad day but I won't dwell on it now

Right which topic to start with ....

Btp my impression of you dh is someone who was a Proud man who feels like a failure because he can't work and his self esteem is such that he lays around feeling sorry for himself, he is possibly so scared of losing you he is pushing you to the limit because he thinks you will leave anyway ! He try's to make himself feel better by looking on the net and now possibly does it to see what you do !
I hope I haven't crossed a line ? Men are funny things I had a friends dh who did exactly the above x

Emzy don't listen to your friend it's your life ! btp is right people breast feed twins so it's not impossible , I think feeling guilty about the time spent with a new one will happen whatever the age of the sibling that's just a mum thing also just to say don't set yourself to high for breast feeding because just incase you can't for any reason don't feel to guilty look at Holly you did a great job there x

 

[genies girl]

Asher didn't see you there how often will you be working? X

 

[Asher]

Ha ha hiya Genies. Sorry to hear about everything that's going on, spill the beans if you do want a chat about it. Lots of love!!

I will be working 21 hours over 3 days, so 3 full days. It's what I've done since I went back after having Archie, and it works out quite well for us. I think there is now a big part of me that's quite looking forward to it. I will just miss the little ones. xx

 

[becs0375]

GG, I am so sorry about your Mum, hope it all goes well xxx

Asher, boo to going back to work!!

I can't believe I have mananged to come on 2 nights in a row, whats going on?!!! I just don't seem to get any time in the day as Hope is into everything and as soon as I get the laptop out she wants to play with it!!! No we haven't moved yet, we were meant to get an address last week but the woman who deals with allocations is on friggin holiday!!!! So fx'd we hear soon, we are next on the list so I am hopefull that we won't have too long a wait!!!

So who have I missed thats up the duff?!!!!!! I know about Laura, Boony and YM, so spill???!!!!!!!

I am not broody at all, I just feel like I am now getting some me time back and tbh I am enjoying it!!! Maybe in a year or so, who knows but I wouldn't mind if we only ever have Hope!!!

Has anyone else read the wonder weeks?? Its fab, can totally recommend it!!!

 

[Jellycat]

Jellycat- I think i spent 3 months with my boobs out, i think grant misses those days..lol x

Asher - hope Sammy settles quickly at the childminders.

GG -

Dh came with me this morning to drop JJ off at nursery then made me ring them to make sure he was ok ????? I felt a right plonker as I know as soon as he has brekkie infront of him we're forgotten still trying to persuade dh to drop off in the morning so I can get to work earlier in the morning but he's making it very awkward for me.

 

[Jellycat]

Becs what's the wonder weeks, is it a book? Wow seems like you've been waiting ages to be able to move, fxd it happens soon

 

[becs0375]

Yes its a book!! Very good read!!! Google it!!!

 

[becs0375]

https://www.thewonderweeks.com/

 

[Emzywemzy]

Hi girls

Thank you so much for all your comments, I can always rely on you lot to make me feel better I think you're right, she's trying to justify things to herself rather than get at me. It was more the bf comment that upset me, as when she said I wouldn't be able to do it with another so young, I said that I would give it a good go, and she replied "bf is really hard you know Emma" as if I didn't know!! As for bf, I want to give it a go but if there is anything I learned with Holly its not to beat myself up if it doesn't work out. I was just saying to my friend that I hadn't been put off trying but she made me feel like I had no chance!

Anyway I think I'm being a bit over sensitive maybe! feel a bit hormonal, which I'm hopings a good thing!? I'm in the 2ww again and its so hard not to symptom spot!!

Becs I don't know if anyone else is preggers? Unless I missed something! Were ttc though!

Can't catch up well on my phone, but wanted to send hugs to gg Xx

 

[Fish&Chips]

Yes it's hard at first but like one of the other ladies said it will probably be easier than bottles. I have to take my hat off to those not bfeeding as I actually feel like I had it easy. I find her remark both naive and patronising, both ways of feeding are hard but in different ways. X

Btp GG really makes sense. I have heard that it's quite common for people to test the ones they love when they're feeling vulnerable. They push them away to prove to themselves that they won't come back. Plus, excuse me for saying so but it must have really knocked his confidence that he didn't get you pregnant in the traditional way. Could you seek counselling?

JC, so glad JJ is enjoying nursery now. What a relief xx

 

[YoungMummy18]

Evening ladies!!

to Genies.... sorry to hear about your mum!

Emzy - I havent stopped feeling guilty about having another one so close to Kimi, but I hope that they'll be close and as I won't be leaving them anytime soon to go to work (not through choice but health reasons) they'll both be having my attention!!!

Jelly - I'm glad JJ is settling better at Nursery now!!!

Becs - Good to see you back and feeling better now!!!



Can't remember anything else sorry!!!!!


I had a bit of a freak-out with my mum Sunday night....

I think I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed with everything atm and was a bit....well very snappy with Luke and my mum sat me down and kinda got alot out of me and had me crying....but I feel better for it...and has made me realize just how much my life has got to change.... she's coming over tomorrow to get my flat in order and get rid of the junk we're holding onto and making things more presentable!!!

37 WEEKS TODAY TOO!!!!

Will be on later tomorrow or early morning but if not...i will catch up soon!!!

xxxx

 

[_LauraK1982_]

I will catch up with everyone tomorrow - scan day for me (booooo its not until 3:20pm though !!) I am so hoping I can make it official tomorrow. xx

Emzy - re your friend. Ignore what she said hun. Each to their own, I intend to carry on breastfeeding Olivia when lo arrives. Shes showing no signs of weaning !! And those first few weeks are hard bfing but it gets less and easier and you'll just make the best of the time you have, when baby naps then Holly gets to play with you. Don't feel guilty. xx

 

[BLONDIE35]

GG so sorry to hear about your mum hope she gets her treatment soon and that you're able to sort care for your brother. Xxx

Well Lily went back to pre school today and she was so happy too!! Ben is properly walking now he's being doing small steps for over a month now posted a video on Facebook so cute!!!

Going back to work week on wednesday (yikes!!!) think I'm going have another baby to get another year off he he!! Taking kids to new childminder on Thursday afternoon so hoping it goes ok as Ben can be clingy and wants mummy all the time and I don't have family near has never been left with anyone!

Will be working full time during term time and 3 full days in school hols and 7.5 hours over 2 evenings from home this means saving £110 per week during hols and I get to spend time with the kids too!!! Wish I could win the lottery!!! Xxx

 

[ladykara]

YM- yay for 37 weeks...any time now then !!!! did you have to buy many things? xx

 

[Sarahkka]

Hi girls!
Slowly cleaning up the house here from our rollicking little party last night!

YM - your mum sounds wonderful and wise wise you to accept the help to get your place sorted, etc before the little one arrives! I know how overwhelmed I get by clutter and it does kind of take all the steam out of you when you have two tiny kids and you are desperate to get the house cleaned up. Getting it functional now, before she arrives, will give you a sporting chance of keeping the chaos to a minimum!

Emzy - basically, what the other girls said. My sons are 20 months apart. Yes, there were moments of complete madness, but you've got a great fellow and ...... a LOT more experience the second time around! You'll kick ass. The great thing about BFing is that it is (almost always) infinitely easier the second time around. You have more milk cells, you know what to troubleshoot for, you are generally far more relaxed - it all adds up to a much easier go of it. I know lots of people (myself included) who combi-fed or FF'd #1 after Bfing problems and then went on to exclusively BF because it was easy peasy the second time around. You do struggle to find a balance between quiet nursing time and active toddler time, but both kids adapt to that. And you do, too. Remember me posting pics of me BFing while XC skiing? I got very very good at nursing on the go. Tobe got good at nursing and sleeping on the go.
And if it doesn't work out that way, well, you've got a ton of experience in FF, too. Win win win.

GG - So sorry about your mum, hun, and hoping for a speedy treatment and recovery. Also, well said on the thoughts about btp's OH. That makes a lot of sense to me, too.

Well, I've got hours for Sept-Oct coming in all over the place. Nice to have projects to work on and great to see that the part-time casual thing is very viable (so far, anyway!)

 

[ladykara]

Laura- cant wait to see the photos and the official announcement x

Blondie- Congrats on the savings.... I cherish every day i have off with the kids..Work just gets in the way of enjoying things !!!x

 

[Blob]

Emzy I have an under 2yr gap (think a few of us do) I have BF both of them and I can honestly say that it was much easer the second time. I don't think Tabs gets less attention I mean once the new baby would be born they are so much older and independent. I don't think your friend meant it but it was insensitive Just ignore it... I also had people saying that they were planning on bottle feeding the second as BF was too long All you do is feed the newborn (who only feed for a few mins remember) and read a stary or put a film on for the older child and snuggle up on the couch