Sex after having a baby...

[zerolivia]

Hey girls. So this is obviously a kind of personal thread & it's probably been done a billion times, but I didn't feel like searching through to find one lol.
So, I just had my baby Jan 1st. I still have about 4 weeks until the Dr says it's "safe" to have sex or whatever, but am I the only one who feels deathly afraid to ever have sex again!? Lol! I imagine it and I feel like it would hurt or wouldn't feel the same (maybe be loose?) and I just feel like I won't be able to enjoy it anymore because I did get pregnant.

Basically, I feel like I won't ever be able to have sex again because I'm worried i will get pregnant. I use to stress before I was pregnant, now I'm going to stress EVEN more because it actually happened to me.

One thing though, is that I wasn't on any type of birth control before. In fact, OH and I never used condoms. And I'm pretty sure the night I got pregnant was because I actually let him "release" inside me, thinking that I wouldn't get pregnant because It was 2 weeks before my period and I thought that's the best time NOT to get pregnant. Yeah, I'm pretty sure I was completely WRONG about that one!!!!

Anyway, so if I do go on birth control, I don't think I would get pregnant. But that still doesnt reassure me as well as I want it to.

What does everyone else think?

 

[hot tea]

I had sex less than a week PP with my youngest. You are safe to have sex when you feel okay down there. And I did. The sex has been great, no pain or any differences in how it feels for either of us.

Just get on birth control, you will be fine.

 

[unconditional]

i waited quite a while to have sex, as i also was afraid lol.
i would suggest condoms on top of birth control to be the safest you can be ....

 

[beths baby]

I'm getting the implant at my 6 week check up. Even though I feel exactly the same as u! I still don't feel like sex and I don't think I'll be doing it for a long time. I'm scared also for lots of reasons most that u mentioned but mostly I try not to worry about that now I'm just consentrating on taking care of LO

 

[EllaAndLyla]

I'm still scared to do it now I do and after I do I know its alright but whenever the next time comes I get scared again. I had 'proper' sex at about 6 weeks PP, we tried at 4 weeks PP and it just wasn't nice so we stopped. I got on the pill at 5 weeks PP and haven't missed one since

 

[youngmummy94]

I was scared as I had loads of stitches and we tried at 4 weeks PP and it hurt too much. Again at 6 weeks PP and we went fine We used condoms and I was a bit scared and I still am of falling pregnant but I got the pill today so hopefully it'll be fine.

 

[amygwen]

PP sex was awful for me. I waited until I was 6 weeks. I had a c-section so wasn't in a lot of pain "down there" but was in a lot of pain everywhere else so doing certain things would be painful for me. Having sex was awful though at first, tbh, I didn't start enjoying it until 1 year PP. The only advice I can give is just get lots of lube and do it a lot. It'll help.

And don't worry. I still panic every month if my period is late or something. I'm on the pill and have been on it for like 15 months but I still worry.

 

[rileybaby]

I had sex after about 5 weeks, i felt healed after a few weeks but i was too tired for sex tbh It didnt feel much different.. weve been using pull out method for 17 months and so far so good

 

[Keera1Aiden2]

I had the exact same fears as you, when i had my son i had a second degree tear and about 5 stitches down there, so i was afraid that it was going to hurt and we were planning on waiting til after my 6 week PP check after i had the IUD put in to be safe but we got caught up in the moment at 5 weeks PP and just used a condom and lots of lube and it did hurt for a few minutes but then it felt fine and ever since then it has felt good

 

[JadeBaby75]

I waited a long time! Just go for it when you are ready, if you do not feel good then you can always stop!

 

[x__amour]

I had sex 3 weeks PP. It was fine, just make sure to use protection and stop if you're not ready!

 

[vaniilla]

we didn't have sex until around 6 weeks pp and even then it was pretty painful to be fair though I wouldn't have had the energy before then even if I felt ready, I had an episiotomy so I was very sore, it still feels a little bit sensitive now but it doesn't hurt anymore

 

[Melibu90]

We tried and 5 weeks and was alright, still felt a little bit bruisy but went fine
Try and get on BC it will make you relax and enjoy sex a lot more!

 

[MillyBert]

I know this is going to sound bad but we had our 1st try at 6 days
we used lots of lube and took it really slow. we didnt plan it just a nice cuddle before bed turned into something more. xx

 

[cammy]

from memory we had sex at 4 weeks and it was fine. Although ever since late third trimester its So uncomfortable and sometimes painful to do any position other then normal.

 

[xgem27x]

I know there is a strong fear of getting pregnant again, I have that major style because its not that I dont want more kids now, but I do eventually, I dont want any more EVER, so until my OH can get a vasectomy I am really careful with contraception

I think you will be OK as long as you are using contraception, no offence but you said you thought you would be OK to let you OH finish in you because you were 2 weeks before your next period, when actually that is like your MOST fertile time Dont worry, happend to me with my first pregnancy!

As for it hurting, it is like losing your virginity all over again, its not looser down their but tighter (in my case when the doctor stiched up my tear she stitched me so tight, when I was all healed you couldnt actually fit a finger in there haha!!) But anyways, it can be quite painful, what I did with my OH is we bought the Durex Tingle lube, which made me feel really numb and tingly down their, and quite cold as well, so I could barely feel any pain when we did it

And then eventually is does all go back to normal, sex feels great again, and well yeah, happy humping

 

[KaceysMummy]

I waited months before having sex again.
You'll know yourself when you'll feel ready again.

Just try to find the contraception that will suit you best - if you still don't feel 'safe' use condoms with it x

 

[112110]

I didn't have sex until 6 MONTHS pp. I don't know how everyone did it weeks, I could not ever!

 

[trinaestella]

I am really in the mood for it when im with OH but then again i am so scared to as i had to have stitches and i cant ever imagine sex again, also i need to find the right contraception because i am frightened of getting pregnant any time soon :/

 

[zerolivia]

I know there is a strong fear of getting pregnant again, I have that major style because its not that I dont want more kids now, but I do eventually, I dont want any more EVER, so until my OH can get a vasectomy I am really careful with contraception

I think you will be OK as long as you are using contraception, no offence but you said you thought you would be OK to let you OH finish in you because you were 2 weeks before your next period, when actually that is like your MOST fertile time Dont worry, happend to me with my first pregnancy!

As for it hurting, it is like losing your virginity all over again, its not looser down their but tighter (in my case when the doctor stiched up my tear she stitched me so tight, when I was all healed you couldnt actually fit a finger in there haha!!) But anyways, it can be quite painful, what I did with my OH is we bought the Durex Tingle lube, which made me feel really numb and tingly down their, and quite cold as well, so I could barely feel any pain when we did it

And then eventually is does all go back to normal, sex feels great again, and well yeah, happy humping

Thanks! This helped a lot. And yeahhh I know my friend told me the best time to get pregnant is the week before and after your period...she's a dumba## though, can't believe I believed her! But I wouldn't take it back I love my little girl. So I thank her in a way