spunky84
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DH really wants to have sex (it's been over a month now). I want to, but I'm scared to.
Between 5+4 and 7+3 I spotted brown with some small brown clots in between. 7+4 was the first day I didn't have any spotting. 7+5 I had my first midwife appt and she did a pelvic exam. She said to expect some spotting from that (which I knew was possible, but I'm glad she reminded me that it's normal). Then I spotted brown from 7+5 until 8+1.
Thankfully no more spotting since then. The whole spotting ordeal has made me rather delicate to it. I've struggled with anxiety ever since. She prescribed buspar for when I become non functional (that's how bad it would get - just lay in bed crying).
Since I've stopped spotting, I've only had 1 or 2 really bad anxiety days and had to take it (I'm really trying to take it as sparingly as I possibly can). Most days when I start to panic, I've been (thankfully) able to find the heartbeat on the doppler to simmer me right down.
I'm wondering if I have a sensitive cervix this time around. With DD the only spotting I had was IB. Even with the pelvic exam or any sex I had never caused any spotting. My midwife never said anything about no sex. It's also not an issue of not wanting to have sex. Just scared to have sex.
I know sex can't cause a miscarriage. I'm just scared it's going to make me spot again, and I'm not sure I can handle the spotting again if it's something I can avoid. Unless I give it a shot once and see how it goes??? If it causes more spotting, maybe talk to my midwife at my next appt in 2 weeks?
I feel so torn. It's just my fear of more spotting that's holding me back. With DD I had no sex drive. This time I do, but I'm too scared to
Between 5+4 and 7+3 I spotted brown with some small brown clots in between. 7+4 was the first day I didn't have any spotting. 7+5 I had my first midwife appt and she did a pelvic exam. She said to expect some spotting from that (which I knew was possible, but I'm glad she reminded me that it's normal). Then I spotted brown from 7+5 until 8+1.
Thankfully no more spotting since then. The whole spotting ordeal has made me rather delicate to it. I've struggled with anxiety ever since. She prescribed buspar for when I become non functional (that's how bad it would get - just lay in bed crying).
Since I've stopped spotting, I've only had 1 or 2 really bad anxiety days and had to take it (I'm really trying to take it as sparingly as I possibly can). Most days when I start to panic, I've been (thankfully) able to find the heartbeat on the doppler to simmer me right down.
I'm wondering if I have a sensitive cervix this time around. With DD the only spotting I had was IB. Even with the pelvic exam or any sex I had never caused any spotting. My midwife never said anything about no sex. It's also not an issue of not wanting to have sex. Just scared to have sex.
I know sex can't cause a miscarriage. I'm just scared it's going to make me spot again, and I'm not sure I can handle the spotting again if it's something I can avoid. Unless I give it a shot once and see how it goes??? If it causes more spotting, maybe talk to my midwife at my next appt in 2 weeks?
I feel so torn. It's just my fear of more spotting that's holding me back. With DD I had no sex drive. This time I do, but I'm too scared to