So we are TTC #1 together (both have kids from a previous marriage) anyway I am right around ovulation time and have really been BDing every night since like last month. We (as you can tell) have only been married for 8 months been together for a total of 3 years. DH is an awesome husband helps with kids, house work, lawn work, everything. Plus treats me like a princess and if I let him will wait on me hand and foot plus can't keep his hands off of me.
So this is what confused me so much. So we had a really busy weekend he did lawn work we had a few BBQs with friend in which he is always stuck being the cook. I came in yesterday afternoon (Sunday) and took a nap. He didn't so we go to take a shower and get ready to BD and everything was fine so in the middle of sex he tells me "I am just not all the way there yet" so I said well lets change positions and try it this way. After a few minutes I knew the little he had left was gone. He apologized for it and asked that I not be mad at him that he was just tried and exhausted from the weekend and we have never had this much sex in our whole relationship. I told him it's ok I understand and in a shameful way climbed off and put my PJ's on. I was shocked and the tears just started rolling down. He kept on apologizing because he knew we were trying to get pregnant BUT that's not what I was crying for. I was crying because here I am in the mood for BD and he wasn't. I kept thinking "what is wrong with me!!! Did my husband really just turn me down!!" "Is there someone else?" "How could I not get him there?" For a minute all the work in trying to get pregnant went out the window and all I could think about was what was wrong with me and that this has never happened to me/us. I mean I thought that is what all men think about!! So my question has this ever happened to anyone?
I would love a baby and have never wanted anything more but I also love my husband and my relationship is important to me. The fact that he mentioned we have never had this much sex kind of made me feel like I am making this more of a chore for him and that is not what I want at all. And then the feeling of "What if we missed our chance to get preggers" set in.
Sorry for the long thread. I fought with myself all night and this morning on wether or not I should ask but I still am just questioning myself.
So this is what confused me so much. So we had a really busy weekend he did lawn work we had a few BBQs with friend in which he is always stuck being the cook. I came in yesterday afternoon (Sunday) and took a nap. He didn't so we go to take a shower and get ready to BD and everything was fine so in the middle of sex he tells me "I am just not all the way there yet" so I said well lets change positions and try it this way. After a few minutes I knew the little he had left was gone. He apologized for it and asked that I not be mad at him that he was just tried and exhausted from the weekend and we have never had this much sex in our whole relationship. I told him it's ok I understand and in a shameful way climbed off and put my PJ's on. I was shocked and the tears just started rolling down. He kept on apologizing because he knew we were trying to get pregnant BUT that's not what I was crying for. I was crying because here I am in the mood for BD and he wasn't. I kept thinking "what is wrong with me!!! Did my husband really just turn me down!!" "Is there someone else?" "How could I not get him there?" For a minute all the work in trying to get pregnant went out the window and all I could think about was what was wrong with me and that this has never happened to me/us. I mean I thought that is what all men think about!! So my question has this ever happened to anyone?
I would love a baby and have never wanted anything more but I also love my husband and my relationship is important to me. The fact that he mentioned we have never had this much sex kind of made me feel like I am making this more of a chore for him and that is not what I want at all. And then the feeling of "What if we missed our chance to get preggers" set in.
Sorry for the long thread. I fought with myself all night and this morning on wether or not I should ask but I still am just questioning myself.