she has no motivation to do anything!

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  1. jovigirl93

    jovigirl93 3rd Trimester :D

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    well Emma is 9 1/2 months old and she is just learning to crawl which i think is on time...but i read that by now she should be trying to walk and holding on to furniture and walking. i try to help her to do it but she has no interest. how can i encourage her? also, she sits up on her own and crawls...but when she is sitting up, she wont lay on the floor to crawl. its like shes afraid to. so i try to put toys she likes at a distance to encourage her to go from the sitting position down to crawling but she just cries until i give her the toy or pick her up...any suggestions to help her out a little?
     
  2. momofmister

    momofmister Well-Known Member

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    9 months is early to consider walking to be honest. My DS didn't attempt walking until 12mths. Crusing (holding onto furniture) usually takes place between 10-14mths I believe. I would just continue to play with her getting her to sit and then crawl for a toy. But don't rush her, cuz once they start walking you will wonder why it was you wanted them to as they are really busy.
     
  3. jovigirl93

    jovigirl93 3rd Trimester :D

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    Lol I know Im gonna miss when she would stay in one place once she starts walking. She goes to daycare and one of the ladies there said something about how they havent seen her roll over (I was shocked because she rolled over at 5 weeks!) But all the other babies are holding on to things and walking and I dont want her to metion anything again. It kinda makes me feel bad :(
     
  4. Embo

    Embo Single mummy to Imo

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    don't worry hun, I didn't learn to walk until I was 2, babies are all different :)
     
  5. aafscsweetie

    aafscsweetie mama to lily mae :) xoxo

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    don't listen to anyone else! some babies are early to milestones, and some are late. these "milestones" that they "should" be reaching by a certain age are just averages- a lot of babies are later! (and some earlier, obviously). just don't worry :) the only thing I would worry about is if she puts no weight on her legs at all- like does she stand up on your lap if you're holding her in front of you or anything? even if she doesn't, it's probably fine, especially since she's starting to crawl (if she can crawl, she can obviously put weight on her legs). so just ignore all those moms at daycare. other moms can be bitches sometimes! just to make you feel better (and I know it's not relating to walking, BUT...) my best friend didn't talk until she was 4. they took her to all these different specialists who said that if she hadn't started talking already, she never would, and then suddenly one day when she was 4, she just started talking, with perfectly formed words. so, there ya go :)
     
  6. jovigirl93

    jovigirl93 3rd Trimester :D

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    I try not to let it get to me and I dont mind how long it takes, its just they have mentioned something before and its like I dont want them to think somethings wrong with her. She does put weight on her legs and I know shes developing fine, she crawls, she has teeth, says "dada" and "Baba", she plays with her toys, responds to her own name and everything but I dont think they see that...Also the lady at the daycare tried to get Emma to say "dada" but she wouldnt say it and I KNOW she says it, thats all she says damn it! and they tried to get her to do other things, but its like Emma has no interest in trying to get to toys on the other side of the room or play with other babies, she just likes to keep to herself. So she never shows them what she can do which makes them think she cant do anything. Im fine if she likes to be by herself, but apparently everyone at the daycare thinks she NEEDS to interact in a different way or shes not developing ok. ugh!!!!!!!!!! :wacko: :growlmad:
     
  7. _laura

    _laura Mummy to Monster Max

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    Dont worry my brother was the laziest baby out. Didnt crawl until 14 months and walk until 23 months!
     
  8. momofmister

    momofmister Well-Known Member

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    I wouldn't let them bother you hun. I actually run a home daycare and I can tell you first hand that all babies are different. I have had some babies just sit and watch others. I have had others that can't wait to get to the other kids to see what they are playing with. Some babies are more motivated to get to out and explore others are more content in just watching. They are all normal. Chances are the ladies at your daycare have more walkers and movers in their group and are tying to get your DD to be one with the group so they don't have to carry her around while the others are moving on their own. As a daycare provider I would only be concerned with one of my kids is if they weren't mobile in some way by the time they were 12-14mths old.

    Like another lady said above if she wasn't putting any weight on her legs by the time she is 12mths I would start to work with her on that. I had a little one in care at 14mths old wouldn't pull herself up, wouldn't put weight on her legs...etc. She was to nervous to let go of things...I worked with her to strengthen her legs and within 3wks she was walking.

    does your DD use a jolly jumper or excersaucer? Babies who do use these generally have stronger leg muscles then those that don't.
     
  9. annawrigley

    annawrigley Guest

    I wouldnt try and encourage her hun, she'll do it when shes ready :D
     
  10. faolan5109

    faolan5109 Guest

    I am sure she will okay. Lane is still lazy when it comes to actually crawling. I know my OH was early to puling up and walking but didnt talk, honestly no "mama" nothing until he was 3. So evey kid is different.

    Hope it helps!
     
  11. QuintinsMommy

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    Quin started crawling at 9.5 months, stood at 10ish, didnt try walking alone till 11months,now he only walks, and everything he did, he showed no signs of wanting to try, he just did it lol one day you will just look and shes walking! don't worry,
    Quin doesn't say any words yet
     
  12. jenniferannex

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    hiya hun, youve nothing to worry about, babies are all different.

    i was the same with Lily, she only crawled at 10 months, and shes only just started pulling herself up, and shes 1. where as babies that were 7 months were pulling themselves up and walking with walkers.

    she just wasnt ready, i tryed to encourage her but it got me nowhere, i really wouldnt worry hun, she will just do it one day and you'll be chuffed to bits :) xx
     
  13. jovigirl93

    jovigirl93 3rd Trimester :D

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    thanks guys this did help. she does put weight on her legs and i hold her hands and let her walk and she goes everywhere. her legs are very strong, she just doesnt try to use them! lol. well i feel better knowing that what i thought originally was correct. i thought she was totally fine, but that daycare made me double guess myself! grrr!
     
  14. Mellie1988

    Mellie1988 Mummy Of 2, Number 3 Due

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    I'd find a different Daycare if they are making you feel like that hun :( Emma sounds like she is doing just fine!!

    x
     
  15. momofmister

    momofmister Well-Known Member

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    Oh my if she is doing that at 9.5 mths she has very strong legs...she is just fine. I wouldn't worry any more about it. It won't be long an she will be running around the house.
     
  16. amygwen

    amygwen Mom to Kenny & Gwendoline

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    All babies are different, so even if there are age guidelines don't go by them. I was paranoid for a few months because Kenny's doctor asked me at 4 months if he was rolling over and he wasn't, she acted like it was the biggest deal ever! He eventually is rolling over, he just recently started doing it.
     
  17. lizardbreath

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    It sounds like shes doing Fine , she is learning at her own Pace. Jaymee didnt crawl til After her first birthday , and she didnt walk until a year and a half. So dont worry too much
     
  18. jovigirl93

    jovigirl93 3rd Trimester :D

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    I hate when people make you feel bad about things like that!! Because then you feel like the baby isnt developing right and you get all paranoid. People sometimes, man!! :growlmad:
     
  19. amygwen

    amygwen Mom to Kenny & Gwendoline

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    I know, it really irritates me. I got so worried than I googled it and found a lot of women had gotten scared by their pediatricians because of similar reasons. It's awful!
     

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