Should I be pissed about this?

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  1. kitabird

    kitabird Mammy to 2 boys

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    OH and I were supposed to be going out tonight with a group of his mates and I was really looking forward to it, it had been planned for ages. Then about two days ago they all decided that they were going to get curry for dinner, which unfortunately makes me feel very sick at the moment, even the smell of it makes me wanna heave, so I had to say I could no longer go. My OH of course has now gone out without me, even though he knows how much I wanted to go and how disappointed I am that I can't. So here I am stuck home alone feeling sorry for myself. OH knows I've been feeling really down this week and he still went. I didn't want to tell him he couldn't go, but isn't he being totally insensitive?? What do you think? :cry:
     
  2. Beltane

    Beltane Mother of 3 Boys!

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    If he knew what was good for him, he wouldn't of left your side! How selfish of him! So sorry you have to deal with this.
     
  3. ilovecocopops

    ilovecocopops Well-Known Member

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    that is selfish of all your friends really. theres plenty of other types of food that you all could of enjoyed! i would of made the OH take me out somewhere instead. is there anyway you could meet them after if they are going for drinks or something? x
     
  4. kitabird

    kitabird Mammy to 2 boys

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    Nah, I'm resigned to sulk for the evening now! If they aren't bothered about me being there, then I'm in no mood to make the effort.
     
  5. Minstermind

    Minstermind Well-Known Member

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    Aw....I'd be pissed and sulky too, especially knowing you were feeling down the whole week. I think it was a bit insensitive.
     
  6. mrsraggle

    mrsraggle Wifey & Mummy

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    I'd definitely sulk!
     
  7. Sam9kids

    Sam9kids Guest

    Id sulk too
     
  8. Shady_R

    Shady_R Mum of 3 boys and 1 girl

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    Yep I would be sulking bout it too hun, my oh can be very selfish at times, so know how you feel.....Make him take you out at the weekend or something.....
     
  9. Ginaerhol

    Ginaerhol Mummy of 3 princesses :D

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    men can be so insensitive sometimes xxx
     
  10. kitabird

    kitabird Mammy to 2 boys

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    Glad you girls agree with me. I still feel a bit petty though
     
  11. daisyfflur

    daisyfflur Well-Known Member

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    Well in all honesty, they are his friends and it is Christmas, you can't begrudge him a curry with mates...unless you specifically said something he was probably completely oblivious...they just don't pick up on the same things we do. Can you organise another night out?
     
  12. Unicus

    Unicus Well-Known Member

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    I'd be well annoyed hun! Don't sulk, have a nice bath, do ur nails and generally pamper yourself for the evening :) x
     
  13. kitabird

    kitabird Mammy to 2 boys

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    I said that I was upset I couldn't go and that it wasn't fair he was going, but since I didn't actually ask him not to go it was probably still too subtle for him, lol. Don't want to spoil his fun, just feel a bit hurt. Hormones don't help!
     
  14. jmct

    jmct Well-Known Member

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    Yep you should be! but at least you were invited the first place...my invite has gone out the window as soon as i had a positive test result! and the bf still goes out everytime they pipe up! (so fair 3 times this week) so i will join you in the sulking and feeling miserable corner please
     
  15. nightkd

    nightkd Mum to two!

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    Urgh, even thinking about curry makes me vom too....

    My hubby wouldn't have gone I don't think. I'd be pissed too, he should've stayed home or arranged something else... Maybe he'll make it up to you?

    xxx
     
  16. Seity

    Seity Mom to Gabriel and Samuel

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    Unless you told him not to go, then I don't see a problem. Guy's don't take hints. I'm not the type to have wanted my OH to stay home or take me somewhere else, but it sounds like that's what you would have preferred and the only way he would know that is if you told him.
     
  17. MrHenry

    MrHenry I'm gonna be a Daddy!

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    Don't lump us all together.

    My wife has already posted here. She's right, I wouldn't do that...I would at the very least talk to her about going somewhere with me.
     
  18. Pyrrhic

    Pyrrhic Well-Known Member

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    If you didn't want him to go, you should have told him.

    By not saying anything, you were giving him permission to go. I don't think he meant to be insensitive, but some men just don't think the same way as us girls!
     
  19. lillprutten

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    yep i would be a bit angry, its a bit nonchalant of him. and then i would go out myself with a friend or even alone or he could always get you something nice.
     
  20. minichicky

    minichicky mummy to isaac

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    I wouldnt mind him going out with his friends for xmas! Id want him to go and enjoy himself, it is xmas afterall! Just because im pregnant dosnt mean he cant leave my side!
     

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