Should I find out the sex?

[r-s-o]

Hi

I am due to get my 20 week scan in a few weeks and the scan department have said they will let you know the sex of baby if you want. My OH and I cant decide if we want to tho. Part of me really wants to know and the other half just wants to wait for the surprise. Im worried that if I found out I will wish I had just kept it a surprise.

Has anyone found out and wished they hadnt or havent found out and wish they had?

xx

 

[alocin22]

We have been exactly the same so undecided. 20wk scan now due on the 22nd September and still cant make up our minds.
Had set our minds on it being a surprise and then the midwife predicted out of the blue that she reckons from the heart beat its gonna be a boy which as my BF already has a girl from a previous relationship he is so set on wanting a boy and now feels he wants to find out incase its a girl to save him getting his heart set on it being a boy. No matter how much i tell him the midwife could possibly wrong i think deep down he believes its a boy. So am thinking if we find out at least he can get his head around it.....
Such a tough decision to make

 

[Angel_dust]

I didnt find out the first time and i was so annoyed in the end because I saw so many gorgeous little girl things that i didnt dare buy in case i was having a boy, when my daughter was born i missed out on alot of things in the shops.

But...it was nice to have the surprise too.
This time i need to know as we have 2 girls already so need to know if this ones a boy so we can get shopping Is always enough of a surprise for me to see what bubs looks like when they are born, i could never imagine how they were going to look and both my daughters are so different.

 

[pichi]

its completely up to you. if you feel as though you want to know the sex then i would say go for it. we found out and it feels nice to call her a "she" instead of "it"

the way i see it is that its as much a surprise being told at 20 weeks as it is being told when they are born. that's just personal opinion though.

 

[Callalily]

I think its a personal decision We are going to find out because I want to shop for more than gender neutral

 

[SIEGAL]

I am finding out thursday, not b/c I want to shop but we are just so anxious to find out.

 

[Sarah&Ady]

Ask the sonographer to write down the sex on a bit of paper...that way you can decide after the scan

 

[Mummy to be x]

We are finding out the sex on the 20th of september, i wouldn't be able to wait till birth its too exciting. I just can not wait to no if we are going to have a little son or daughter!

 

[starlight2801]

We are undecided too. There's part of me (and OH too) that would love a surprise in February but there is an equally big part of me that's impatient and would love to know right know!!

My scan isn't until the beginning of October so we still have a while to decide yet.

Being able to refer to bubs as either "he" or "she" is a big plus. I hate it when my OH refers to our baby as "it" but don't really have an alternative at the moment x

 

[r-s-o]

We are undecided too. There's part of me (and OH too) that would love a surprise in February but there is an equally big part of me that's impatient and would love to know right know!!

My scan isn't until the beginning of October so we still have a while to decide yet.

Being able to refer to bubs as either "he" or "she" is a big plus. I hate it when my OH refers to our baby as "it" but don't really have an alternative at the moment x

Im the same as you, Im due 15th Feb and my 20 week scan is the 1st Oct, so I have a few weeks to make up my mind. I like the idea of getting the sonographer to write it on a piece of paper, and we can decide to look if we want.

xxx

 

[snagglepat]

We didn't plan to find out. We didn't last time and decided to keep it a surprise this time too. However at the 20 week scan we got a very obvious potty shot and because I've looked at quite a lot of scan pics on here and other sites I knew exactly what I was looking at. We're not going public with the knowledge because I want to be able to announce the gender at the birth but we know. Initially I was really disappointed, not with the gender but with the fact I'd been denied my surprise at the birth, but a week on I'm now quite pleased I know. It's helped the bonding no end and I can really picture how our family will be in the future, which is lovely.

It's a very personal choice though. Good luck with the decision!

Gina.

 

[Jojo-Mummy]

IM finding out, I dont think I could wait until feb! Plus I can go out and buy more gender specific clothing then and start calling bubs by their chosen name rather than "bubs" or "the baby"