Shouldn't I be bleeding more than this? Update: Baby died at 6 weeks :0(

[Pippin]

I'm supposed to be nearly 8 weeks pregnant but I had a private scan Saturday and the baby was only measuring 6 weeks 1 day with no HB. Then last night I had slight pains and a bright red bleed with a couple of clots but since then nothing! When is the bleeding going to really kick in? I just don't know what to expect really as this is my first miscarriage. I cried a lot last night so I'm trying to be strong today, just want it over quickly and painlessly so we can move on. I'm seeing the doctor today will he just let it go naturally or will I get a scan? Sorry so man questions....

 

[Barbiebaby]

So sorry for your loss, I can't answer your question as I had an ERPC after my missed miscarriage at 12+2. I have had a lot of bleeding and am still bleeding nearly 3 weeks after, having said that I am off to see Doctor today because of this. I think everyone us different hun but I would imagine you still have some more to come.

x

 

[Pippin]

Thank you for replying and I'm sorry for your loss too. It horrible the waiting for something to happen isn't it, whether it's to start or stop bleeding. I hope you have a quick recovery and the doctor can give you some advice and support. x

 

[SassyLou]

Sorry for your loss,

I had a MMC, Aug 23rd (Mon)
The pregnancy sack measured 8 weeks but the baby was only a shadow (last seen as a fetal pole at 5 wks).
I started spotting (really light) Sunday 15th.
Wed 18th still spotting but the blood was more red in colour.
Had a scan Fri 20th which confirmed I was going to miscarry, was given the option whether to go home and let nature take its course or to have medical intervention, I chose to go home.
Fri and Sat still light but very red bleeding, only there when I wipped after going to toilet.
Sat evening period like back pains which went away.
Sun early evening bleeding slightly heavier and more back pain, passed first large clot around 9pm from then on the bleeding and passing of clots was very heavy (so heavy I daren't move, a pad wasn't enough to hold it) Sorry if TMI.
Mon 4am thought it was over so went to bed, then started with lower abdominal cramp and back pain that wouldn't go away, was like this for about three hours before passing the pregnancy sack, which was much larger than I had expected.

Sorry if TMI but wish someone had told me beforehand.

Again sorry for your loss.

 

[SassyLou]

Sorry for your loss,

I had a MMC, Aug 23rd (Mon)
The pregnancy sack measured 8 weeks but the baby was only a shadow (last seen as a fetal pole at 5 wks).
I started spotting (really light) Sunday 15th.
Wed 18th still spotting but the blood was more red in colour.
Had a scan Fri 20th which confirmed I was going to miscarry, was given the option whether to go home and let nature take its course or to have medical intervention, I chose to go home.
Fri and Sat still light but very red bleeding, only there when I wipped after going to toilet.
Sat evening period like back pains which went away.
Sun early evening bleeding slightly heavier and more back pain, passed first large clot around 9pm from then on the bleeding and passing of clots was very heavy (so heavy I daren't move, a pad wasn't enough to hold it) Sorry if TMI.
Mon 4am thought it was over so went to bed, then started with lower abdominal cramp and back pain that wouldn't go away, was like this for about three hours before passing the pregnancy sack, which was much larger than I had expected.

Sorry if TMI but wish someone had told me beforehand.

Again sorry for your loss.

PS, I only bled then till the Friday (about 5 days), went this Friday had a scan and everything was ok, uterus back to normal size etc.

 

[Pippin]

Sorry for your loss,

I had a MMC, Aug 23rd (Mon)
The pregnancy sack measured 8 weeks but the baby was only a shadow (last seen as a fetal pole at 5 wks).
I started spotting (really light) Sunday 15th.
Wed 18th still spotting but the blood was more red in colour.
Had a scan Fri 20th which confirmed I was going to miscarry, was given the option whether to go home and let nature take its course or to have medical intervention, I chose to go home.
Fri and Sat still light but very red bleeding, only there when I wipped after going to toilet.
Sat evening period like back pains which went away.
Sun early evening bleeding slightly heavier and more back pain, passed first large clot around 9pm from then on the bleeding and passing of clots was very heavy (so heavy I daren't move, a pad wasn't enough to hold it) Sorry if TMI.
Mon 4am thought it was over so went to bed, then started with lower abdominal cramp and back pain that wouldn't go away, was like this for about three hours before passing the pregnancy sack, which was much larger than I had expected.

Sorry if TMI but wish someone had told me beforehand.

Again sorry for your loss.

Thank you so so so much, this is exactly the type of thing I want to know and I'm so pleased you have told me all the details. I just know in my heart this is it, many people have said don't give up hope but I think you just know don't you. I assumed I'd bleed heavily from the start which is obviously not the case with you. They did see a fetal pole and sack and yoke on Saturday but really being a week and a half behind with no hb I just knew then. Looking at the scan picture I think the sack was being to collapse on one side even though she didn't mention this and seemed positive at the scan I just had a feeling she was being nice. It's turned to brown spotting but my tummy ache is getting worse again now. It's a waiting game now. Thank you, I really appreciate your reply

 

[kanga]

so sorry you are going through this

 

[BlueBoo]

So sorry for your loss.

I just wanted to tell you what happened to me as it was quite different from most of the stories I read on here and you never know, you might be the same.

I found out when I was 11 weeks that I had lost the baby at 6 weeks, was very scared about what would happen next but was told to come home and wait for it to happen naturally at least for a couple of weeks.

The very next day I started having mild(ish) cramps and some bleeding but nothing worse than a period. The next day in the early morning I had waves of back pain, went to the loo and heard something plop into the toilet (really sorry for TMI) but I didn't look at it.

I then had light bleeding for another 2 days and that was it. I had several scans afterwards to see if everything had gone, and it had. So all in all, I only bled for about 4 days, only lightly, no clots and only period-type pains. At the time I couldn't believe that that could be it, but I guess as things hadn't progressed very far it wasn't as bad as it could have been.

Obviously emotionally it doesn't matter how much or little pain and bleeding you have, it's still horrendous, and I'm still finding things tough now 2 months later but you may find that you don't have to go through much more physically anyway.

Hope you're ok and lots of love xx

 

[dan-o]

So sad to read this is happening to you hun

 

[Rowan75]

so sorry that you are having to go through this - big hug

My mmc took 3 weeks until I passed the sac and then another 2 weeks followed before I stopped bleeding completely.

On most days in the first 3 weeks I only bled when I wiped, when I actually passed the poor poppet in the sac it was another matter entirely, I had to sit on the loo the whole time, there were contractions and I had to push. I was 12 weeks by then but the poppet had stopped growing at 6 weeks but the sac etc had carried on so was 12 weeks size. The bleeding for the 2 weeks after that was like period bleeding.

everyone has such a different experience its hard to gauge

thinking of you

 

[Pippin]

Thank you so much ladies, the bleeding has stopped today apart from a bit of brown when I've wiped, I don't know what to think now. Well I'm thinking it'll be a slow process or he/she is hanging on in there life and limb. I have very mild tummy cramps but nothing to report and maybe not even notice if I was watching out for it. I'm so confused, I'd just got my head around it. I don't want this to drag out

 

[Pippin]

UPDATE

Well back from the doctors, he doesn't think I'm miscarrying as I'm not in enough pain and not bleeding now!!! I have to take tomorrow off and he's phoning 9am to get me a scan. I hope they can as it's really hard being off work as I'm a teacher but my husband just reminded me what's more important I think I just have it in my head that it's over but I guess I have to wait a bit longer......

 

[tj1980]

UPDATE

Well back from the doctors, he doesn't think I'm miscarrying as I'm not in enough pain and not bleeding now!!! I have to take tomorrow off and he's phoning 9am to get me a scan. I hope they can as it's really hard being off work as I'm a teacher but my husband just reminded me what's more important I think I just have it in my head that it's over but I guess I have to wait a bit longer......

Hi

I'm in the process of going through the same thing. My bleeding (brown in colour) started yesterday and I have period like pains and my lower back is aching - I'm sat by the radiator now hoping the heat will help.

Also, I'm a teacher too and really don't want to take time off work especially as term has just started. I went to work today but the thought of starting to bleed heavily at work terrifies me. Especially the possibility of having to pass the sac at work. I think I may need to take your husband's advice too - work does have to take the back seat sometimes.

xx

 

[Pippin]

tj1980 hope it oesn't take to long for you. I have pains back but they still are quite mild little bit of backache too. I too don't want to bleed at school, the thoughts contracting in a lesson to pace a clot/sac doesn't bare thinking of. We give so much to school as a teacher, it's a vocation not a job. Sometimes I think we need to be a bit more selfish at times and put us first. I'm a middle leader so I have many responsibilities by I'm my responsibility too if that makes sense. Let's take time to look after ourselves

 

[tj1980]

Hi, any news on the scan? I hope it was good news.

I've taken today off and to be honest all week at least as bleeding much heavier and now have clots too. We do give too much to work and I'm forcing myself to rest and not even set cover work whilst I'm off -they can deal with it.

x

 

[Pippin]

That's good, take your time to heal properly. I have a scan at 3:15 so I shall let you know when I get back.

 

[Pippin]

Update 2

Back from EPU, baby hasn't grown since Saturday, no heartbeat still. Not good so basically it's confirmed over. Waiting for one more week for final scan then we decided whether to go naturally or have a d&c. Not sure what I'm going to do. I'm ok about it, went knowing it anyway really based on the bleed and the fact it's 2 weeks behind. I did a lot of grieving at the weekend so I feel ok. Just don't want this to drag.

 

[Emmea12uk]

Oh sorry pippin it is bloody awful isn't it.

I am trying to make up my mind whether to have a d&c

 

[misscs]

I'm supposed to be nearly 8 weeks pregnant but I had a private scan Saturday and the baby was only measuring 6 weeks 1 day with no HB. Then last night I had slight pains and a bright red bleed with a couple of clots but since then nothing! When is the bleeding going to really kick in? I just don't know what to expect really as this is my first miscarriage. I cried a lot last night so I'm trying to be strong today, just want it over quickly and painlessly so we can move on. I'm seeing the doctor today will he just let it go naturally or will I get a scan? Sorry so man questions....

Sorry for your loss. Its such a hard time and theres never the words to make it feel better.
I had a scan a week and half ago (10 weeks and 1) and baby had no HB. I had a EPRC last week. I had no bleeding or pains before either and no clue that my baby had died becuase I was over 9weeks I was recommended the EPRC as too big for tablet and as no bleeding and pains they recommended EPRC as didnt know how long it would take my body to realise the baby had died (apparently normally up to 3 weeks). It was my first miscarriage (and pregnancy). I think the EPRC was best for me, I was completly asleep so didnt have to deal with passing the sac and baby itself. Its one week today since the surgery and im still bleeding but lightly, still some pains. It meant I didnt have to sit and wait for it to happen naturally, but it is hard to know its definately over and my body still needs to realise everything. I still feel morning sickness etc so dont think my body has quite caught up - but whether this is usual I dont know.
x

 

[misscs]

PS Im a teacher too - seems so many of us are! I found EPRC easier with having time off. I teacher R/Yr1 and as the start of term I didnt want to miss any time so am already back at work - albeit taking it slowly and steady - lots of planning time for the kids!!