Sick of unwanted stupid advice anyone else?

[Aurora79]

I'm not sure if anyone else is experiencing the same thing from friends, family and colleagues, but I am sick to death of people saying what is good and what's not in pregnancy. I have been unfortunate enough to have been really sick during my first trimester with a UTI, morning sickness and a bad chest infection. For the UTI and chest infection I had to take antibiotics. I had also had to take anti nausea tablets just to function throughout the day. A colleague said to me that my baby will get stained teeth when they're older from all the antibiotics I've taken and another friend was shocked as to just how much medication I've had to take because she thought you couldn't have anything at all while pregnant and it wasn't an option for when she was pregnant (which was only recently). I have a very good, young GP who said everything she has prescribed me is fine to take during pregnancy.

I've also struggled to eat healthy foods (I'm normally a very healthy person) and lived on 2 minute noodles for a few days just to keep something down. I got lectured by friend about this and about how it wasn't good for the baby.

I don't feel as though I have anything to be ashamed about just because I haven't had a textbook pregnancy. I had my 12 week scan recently and everything looked fantastic.

Is anybody else having the same problems? Sorry for my rant so annoyed right now!

 

[3buutifulgirl]

I don't have this problem because I put them in their place!!! I mean if I ask for an opinion then okay, but if I didn't get your own pregnancy and do the things you want to with yours and leave mine alone Tell them they might get mad, but they will get over it I promise!!!

 

[pixeldust]

Yup. People love sticking their noses in. Mind you, this time hasn't been as bad as last time. The worst I've had this time has been being told I can't go on a business trip because there is a possibility I might hurt myself, and being told I'm not allowed to lift ANYTHING at work whatsoever.

First time around I got outright told I should have an abortion (I was 23/24 and engaged at the time).

 

[3buutifulgirl]

Yup. People love sticking their noses in. Mind you, this time hasn't been as bad as last time. The worst I've had this time has been being told I can't go on a business trip because there is a possibility I might hurt myself, and being told I'm not allowed to lift ANYTHING at work whatsoever.

First time around I got outright told I should have an abortion (I was 23/24 and engaged at the time).

Yep had the same thing happen to me about the abortion thing except I was 19...lets just say that didn't end well for her never ever talk to her again
she got an ear full from me...Bet she want make that mistake to any one else LOL

 

[pixeldust]

Yup. People love sticking their noses in. Mind you, this time hasn't been as bad as last time. The worst I've had this time has been being told I can't go on a business trip because there is a possibility I might hurt myself, and being told I'm not allowed to lift ANYTHING at work whatsoever.

First time around I got outright told I should have an abortion (I was 23/24 and engaged at the time).

Yep had the same thing happen to me about the abortion thing except I was 19...lets just say that didn't end well for her never ever talk to her again
she got an ear full from me...Bet she want make that mistake to any one else LOL

Yup. Same here. It was my aunt and I've barely spoken to her for the last 6 years. Just because she made a mistake keeping her baby didn't mean she had the right to project onto me. It STILL makes me mad to think about it! (Especially as when she said it I'd called her all excited to tell her the news and how happy I was!)

 

[3buutifulgirl]

Yup. People love sticking their noses in. Mind you, this time hasn't been as bad as last time. The worst I've had this time has been being told I can't go on a business trip because there is a possibility I might hurt myself, and being told I'm not allowed to lift ANYTHING at work whatsoever.

First time around I got outright told I should have an abortion (I was 23/24 and engaged at the time).

Yep had the same thing happen to me about the abortion thing except I was 19...lets just say that didn't end well for her never ever talk to her again
she got an ear full from me...Bet she want make that mistake to any one else LOL

Yup. Same here. It was my aunt and I've barely spoken to her for the last 6 years. Just because she made a mistake keeping her baby didn't mean she had the right to project onto me. It STILL makes me mad to think about it! (Especially as when she said it I'd called her all excited to tell her the news and how happy I was!)

OMG this sounds just like her...It was my aunt also by marriage, but they are divorced now, she said the same thing talking about how if she could go back she would have aborted my cousin her own son...how crappy is that and she claims to be all catholic about God and stuff...BS...I just don't let people put in their 2 cents unless I ask for it!!!

 

[kat2504]

Why do people with no medical knowledge think they know better than your GP with many years of medical training? Don't listen to them until they have their medical degree and their postgraduate training.
Some antibiotics are not safe in pregnancy, and the discoloured teeth thing is true. But your doctor does actually know this, obviously, and will have prescribed you one of the many other sorts of safe antibiotics. The stuff for UTIs is fine, I've taken it too.
Of course you can have some medication if you need it when you are pregnant. i am on two types of drugs just because I am pregnant. If I wasn't taking them I would have a massively increased chance of miscarriage. People on drugs for things like diabetes and other conditions can't just stop their medication.
Some people really ought to think before they speak about if they have any idea what they are talking about or not. The people who think they are some sort of medical experts are the worst. If medication wasn't an option for your friend, perhaps that was because she didn't actually need any!
As for nutrition, if you have been very sick then any food is better than none. Your baby will still take what it needs from your body.
Congratulations on having a lovely 12 week scan - hope you enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

 

[MrsJRB]

Yesterday when I said how I'd craved a macdonalds, instead of waiting to hear if I'd actually eaten one my sister said " oh your poor baby!" she's never even been pregnant.

The other thing is people reminding me to eat a healthy diet with lots of iron even though I've been vegetarian all my life. Like I don't know that.

 

[Aurora79]

Thanks for your replies girls. I'm glad it's not just me. I'm not the kind of person who can just tell people off!

My doctor would never give me anything that she didn't think was safe during pregnancy. All the other people who have had perfect pregnancies don't know what it's like to be sick.

Haha and about the McDonald's one of my friends reassured me and said she ate it 3 times in one day as she couldn't stomach anything else!

People just need to shut the hell up I say!

 

[stickylizard]

Argh I don't even wanna start a proper reply cus I will get so annoyed!! I wouldn't take any shit from anyone right now. And neither should you. Let THEM be pregnant for a day and see how they survive without the meds and try to eat loads of healthy food. Bloody people always think they know best. xxx

 

[sunflower2310]

My Dr and midwife says about food and drink with morning sickness......

Liquid is better to keep down then food.
ANYTHING you can keep down food wise is fantastic....your baby will take everything it needs from you and you will be left with any scraps which is why we feel so crappy as we are the ones malnurished not them! He also said not to worry if you cant take the vitamins as any you were having your body has stored up and the baby will be taking from that.
We are not to feel bad and anyone that says we will have junk food babies should try being super sick and eating oh so good. They probably eat junk when sick and not pregnant so why is it different for us?! My Mum said i would have a junk food baby so i told her to jog on lol.
People are offering so much advice, i dont mind but if they then go on when i give a different opinion then i get annoyed as advice can be taken or not, not to be force fed! In the end we are the Mummies so what we say goes, and to be honest they are brave winding a pregnant woman up in the first place!

You do what feels right for you and what you can cope with! xx

 

[sandilion]

Ugh yeah there is a crazy woman at my work that has become obsessed with me ever since she over heard that i am pregnant. She has never had children of her own but thinks she knows everything because she is an Aunty. I am an Aunty too! And i don't think i am a know it all!

Every day she makes comments about what im wearing, saying how ill get too hot or ill get too cold. I never dress inappropriately so she really has no right to pick at me. She constantly is giving me advice on what to do during pregnancy, what to do when raising the child.... it's ridiculous.

I have started answering snappy to her and giving her the cold shoulder so i thin she is starting to get the message. I really hope it doesn't come down to me having to actually tell her to piss off.

 

[babyv_s2012]

Ugh yeah there is a crazy woman at my work that has become obsessed with me ever since she over heard that i am pregnant. She has never had children of her own but thinks she knows everything because she is an Aunty. I am an Aunty too! And i don't think i am a know it all!

Every day she makes comments about what im wearing, saying how ill get too hot or ill get too cold. I never dress inappropriately so she really has no right to pick at me. She constantly is giving me advice on what to do during pregnancy, what to do when raising the child.... it's ridiculous.

I have started answering snappy to her and giving her the cold shoulder so i thin she is starting to get the message. I really hope it doesn't come down to me having to actually tell her to piss off.

OMG! I would punch her in the face! Why do people think they have the God given right to voice their opinions and "advice" Luckily ive not had any of this yet but if/when i do they will be sure to get a piece of my mind!!

 

[dustbunny]

Hey... my ex partners mother kept texting me saying "whatever choice I made [with regards to keeping the baby] she would be behind me 100%" ... well it was planned but unfortunately me and my partner have since split up. He kept texting me to tell me what I could eat that would stop the morning sickness, even though I knew what eased it/didn't ease it. Or I get random updates about what is going on with me, when I obviously know. People generally saying what I can and can't eat/drink/do/not do... very very annoying. Doesn't help I am a moooooooody cow to say the least, now I am like a gentle dinosaur, I accept the pointless info and rant to my sister about it all. But it works.

 

[rachel2557]

Well I can reassure you, the teeth discoloration is very specific to tetracycline, and antibiotic that is never used in pregnancy these days anyways. Others like clindamycin, flagyl, macrobid, etc are safe with no I'll effects reported to the fetus. As far as eating poorly, Oh well! At least you keep something down! When I was so so sick at 7 weeks, my doctor flat out told me to eat anything and everything I wanted just to get some nutrition. You did the right thing. I still get comments from a friend of mine who thinks she knows everything. I am a nurse with one child already but she always tries to give me medical advice and parenting advice. It's really annoying but I know she is trying to help. Lol. I usually just roll my eyes and move on with life, you've just got to pick your battles with certain people.

 

[liola]

hey guys, i haven’t had any because i haven’t said anything. But when the first trimester is over i may think about it. I'm not looking forward to the MOTHER INLAW!! no no no sir!! Shes one of the types that compeers her to everyone else. when i was pregnant i ate this and that to meke me better maybe you should too. Are you eating right?? blah blah blah. Shes always calling to say she knows how im feeling and she understand what I’m going through and she has good sense and can tell im not happy right now blah blah blah gets on my nerves!! Shes the last person i'm going to tell!

 

[MrsM254]

Hi everyone, I only told a few people because i'm so early still but I keep being told how it's silly to find out you're pregnant so early and that the early pregnancy tests are a bad idea because it's not a real pregnancy until you've missed 2 periods and years ago doctors wouldn't even see you until then! Of course it's a real pregnancy!! and if the technology is available to find out early surely we should use it so we can make sure we're doing everything possible to give our little beans a chance!

Also been told folic acid is 'just a phase' that the doctors are going through right now and probably doesn't do anything, sorry but I think i'm going trust the opinion of thousands of doctors over someone who says "I didn't take it and my kids turned out just fine"!!!

Sorry, rant over xxx

 

[sjwebb]

I had a rant similar to this one. Its like if I wanted your opinion I would ask for it but since I didn't please keep your mouth shut. We're all grown a$$ women and I think we are all capable of knowing what our bodies and babies need and don't need. I especially hate it when people who haven't been pregnant or had kids try and give me advice, I want to laugh in their face and tell them where to go and how to get there. And, who the f*&^ cares if we want to eat mcdonalds for every meal of the day, if thats what we want then so be it, anyone who doesn't like it can frankly shove it where the sun don't shine