bounceyboo
bambino on the way!
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so sil has 3 girls she really wants a boy and when I was pregnant with my son she kept saying are you sure its a boy it might be a girl etc, didn't ask about the baby, although she made him 2 blankets she never got excited about him, shes his godmother and only called to our house to see him 3 maybe 4 times since his been born we are always calling to hers so he can play with his cousins see his aunty etc, anyway a few months after my ds was born bil had a baby boy none of this was said to him. now again the same stuff has reared its head every time we see her which is about once a week, she makes comments are you sure its a boy, might be a girl id be asking them to check again knowing full well our hospital doesn't recheck the sex on request, I saw my baby's crown jewels hes a boy, my doctor checked twice already when she did the scan, and confirmed hes defiantly a boy, shes hardly talking to us never asks about our son r this baby, she said before she we found out we were pregnant that she was done at 3 but now we have a baby n the way she wants another, she did this when we were pregnant with our first, and then had her 3rd girl, she always calls her 'her boy' because shes such a tom boy,caused world war 4 when we got engaged, before our wedding she went to florida for 2 weeks so some focus would be off of us leading up to the wedding,the week im having the baby shes going to London with her friend and her daughter and her daughters friend as a bday present for her daughter whos birthday is this Monday,so why pick February and of all times the week im having the baby?am I reading into things or am I right in thinking she just cant leave us have the 'spot light' for once always thinking of ways to make herself stand out? I have to say I do get on with her and she is a loving aunt to my son when we are with her its just that she never makes the effort to come see us, she has a free bus pass, theres busses that come here we drive, so we could drop her home, my dh works in the city about 15 mins from where she lives she could always ask for a lift out but she never does, dh thinks shes just jelous we have boys, id love a girl next time around but I really don't care as long as baby is healthy, she made a comment before about something her dad said about real Italians make boys and she was disgusted it was a nasty comment to make knowing how much she wants a boy but hes an idiot anyway
sorry about ur situation. Do u ever communicate how she's making u feel or ask her how she's feeling? What is ur response when she keeps asking u if ur having a girl? I think it's super hard for her because she really wants a boy...especially if she calls her daughter a boy. Have u expressed that ur feelings are hurt that she's leaving the week of the baby being born and u really want her there? The same things will be happening if there is no communication amongst nothing u. I think u should have a sit down and let her cry n get our what she needs to, and u need to do the same so she can acknowledge how u feel as well. I hope things get better
