Silly question but need to know!

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  1. ClaireMuir123

    ClaireMuir123 Mummy to Jayden and Ava

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    Hi Girls!

    This is a really silly question but I need to know, so please don't laugh! :haha: In my 1st pregnancy I had no sex drive whatsoever so bascially didn't have sex until I got to 37 weeks and was desperate to go into labour, because sperm has the hormones in it that are used to start labour.

    But this time I'm definately getting the urges to DTD (much to my hubbys delight!) but was wondering if it was safe for him to... erm.. come inside me? Just because I know it can be used to start labour. Obviously I know labour won't start until it's ready but I can't help but wonder. Can anyone shed some light on this?

    Claire xxx

    Ps. Got a scan this morning after some bleeding and clots and it's safe to say I'm shitting myself! Please keep everything crossed for me xxx
     
  2. 05mummy07

    05mummy07 Well-Known Member

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    Sex and him ejaculating inside you are perfectly fine, the sperm will only ripen the cervix when you're ready to go into labour (that's how my first labour was kick started at 36 weeks!)
    I would be weary about having sex after the bleeding though, leave it until after the scan and voice your opinion there as they will know whether it's safe for you right now. xx
     
  3. 05mummy07

    05mummy07 Well-Known Member

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    Oh and got everything crossed that everything's fine!! xx
     
  4. hope4bump

    hope4bump Well-Known Member

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    Good luck for today. Fx for you that everything is fine :) x
     
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    v31984 Well-Known Member

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    thanks for posting this as i also wondered x
     
  6. kimbotrav

    kimbotrav Well-Known Member

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    hi good luck for ure scan :) im sure it will be ok ill keep everything crossed for you ..... but i also would leave dtd untill bleeding has stopped for a few days xxxx
     
  7. Jules

    Jules Mummy of 1 Girl & 1 Boy

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    I wish i had the urges, my oh is going nuts!

    I think its fine, but i'd wait until you've had your scan now with bleeding, only a week away!
     
  8. ahbon

    ahbon Well-Known Member

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    good luck today - sex drive - what is this thing you talk of? haha
     
  9. Lawhra

    Lawhra NowProudMumOfTwo!!

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    I hadn't thought about that, so glad you mentioned it. We have continued our sex life almost the same as pre-pregnancy (bloody thrush!) and he always ahem, 'does', inside me. I hope it is ok as the above poster says.

    Good luck, hoping all will be well.
     
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    magicbubble Well-Known Member

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    i have a similar question, not that it applies to me as hubby is away for a few weeks but is it safe to use condoms while pregnant?
     
  11. AuntBug

    AuntBug Mom of one, expecting #2

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    Good luck today Claire!

    My doc said sex was ok, except when I was spotting. Then I was told no sex for 48 hours. Not that it matters, my sex drive is totally GONE.
     
  12. KitKat

    KitKat Well-Known Member

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    like the other girls have said sex is fine unless you experiance bleeding.

    goodluck for your scan :flower:
     
  13. pinkpolkadot

    pinkpolkadot Well-Known Member

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    Good luck with your scan :hugs: I had a scan for the same reason this morning and nurse advised no DTD for a few weeks as this can aggravate the bleeding.
     
  14. ClaireMuir123

    ClaireMuir123 Mummy to Jayden and Ava

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    Thanks everyone! May lay off the sex until my 12 week scan next week, but I'm really feeling it now lol.

    Scan went great! Couldn't find any reason for the bleeding or clot, she said that sometimes these things just happen!

    Here's my baby noodles

     
  15. Mama627

    Mama627 Mom & Preggo w/ #2

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    lol, you ladies must not be in the US... during my first pregnancy the doctor very openly started chatting with us about sex during the first appointment. I mean, clearly you do it -- how else would you have gotten pregnant?? lol.

    It's perfectly fine to DTD when you're preggo. If you find that you need a little assistance, lube is OK to use, but you should avoid warming gels as they can be a little too intense with everything being more sensitive in your nether regions.

    Condoms are also fine, but if you're doing things with the guy that knocked you up, what's the point? You can't prevent what's already happened...

    You may notice a little bit of bleeding afterwards. (like one or two drops when you wipe) -- that's probably actually your cervix bleeding from irritation. Totally normal, and it probably won't happen every time.

    No guys, you can't "poke the baby". Sorry about your ego.

    The further along you get, the less comfortable missionary style is going to become. Experiment now, because trying new things when you're 6, 7, or 8 months pregnant isn't going to be fun.
     

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