The never ending waiting to try with no deadline in sight. I am pretty sure menopause will hit before I get a 'yes' from my husband.
Anyway my sister is due shortly and he will be the first (baby in the family). Now I know he is going to be here soon but somehow I have been putting off the whole 'real life baby' thing and how it will emotionally effect me.
I was sitting in the office at work earlier today when a member of staff who is away on maternity leave walks in carrying a very young baby. Cue squeals from the other women in the office and a fight to hold the baby but my instant reaction to seeing the baby was one of utter shock and a blow to the guts. It actually made it hard to breathe. Now there are babies everywhere you go and thankfully I am no longer effected by them but this suddenly seemed so very real. Here was a real baby of someone I knew and it hurt so much. All I could do was try to focus my eyes on the computer screen and I did not realise I was crying until I tear landed on my keyboard so I made myself scarce until the office was baby free.
Now this has really shaken me up. How am I going to react when my nephew comes along? We all live fairly close by so retreating is not an option. I don't know if I am strong enough to tough it out and plaster on a fake smile everytime I see him!
It just the bitter jealousy combined with overwhelming feelings of grief and loss and it makes me so scared.
Anyway my sister is due shortly and he will be the first (baby in the family). Now I know he is going to be here soon but somehow I have been putting off the whole 'real life baby' thing and how it will emotionally effect me.
I was sitting in the office at work earlier today when a member of staff who is away on maternity leave walks in carrying a very young baby. Cue squeals from the other women in the office and a fight to hold the baby but my instant reaction to seeing the baby was one of utter shock and a blow to the guts. It actually made it hard to breathe. Now there are babies everywhere you go and thankfully I am no longer effected by them but this suddenly seemed so very real. Here was a real baby of someone I knew and it hurt so much. All I could do was try to focus my eyes on the computer screen and I did not realise I was crying until I tear landed on my keyboard so I made myself scarce until the office was baby free.
Now this has really shaken me up. How am I going to react when my nephew comes along? We all live fairly close by so retreating is not an option. I don't know if I am strong enough to tough it out and plaster on a fake smile everytime I see him!
It just the bitter jealousy combined with overwhelming feelings of grief and loss and it makes me so scared.