Sleep Question

[blondeNklutzi]

We had miraculously gotten Mika into a pretty predictable routine (not a terribly strict routine, he's only 3 weeks old), same bedtime routine every night, same time...he did GREAT from the first night and it lasted several days. And NOW all hell has broken loose.

When we feed him/put him to bed, he will sometimes start thrashing around and fussing immediately and sometimes will sleep for about 10-15 minutes and then start fussing. That's if he even stays asleep. A lot of times he wakes up immediately. I initially wondered if he were just fussing in his sleep, but it quickly progresses into screams if we don't respond. (Ok, make that I, the OH is being an ass). I'm beginning to think he has reflux so we try keeping him upright and his bassinet is tilted...it doesn't help.

He doesn't do this during the day. Once he falls asleep for a nap we put him down and he stays asleep. The only way we can get him to sleep at night is on top of me though! Any ideas? I'm at my wits end!

 

[vanessayogini]

babies are constantly changing. your LO is still very newborn. perhaps having him sleep on you is a good idea, he wants comfort and love, his little body is growing so rapidly and doing things it's never done before (being outside of you, pooping, eating, peeing, etc). give him some time.

 

[polaris]

My LO was the same, he would only sleep on my chest at night. They do grow out of it as they get older so maybe just go with the flow for the moment? Just keep trying to put him down in his basket every so often and eventually he will start to be able to sleep there at night too. I was very worried about having LO sleeping on me because I thought we were setting up bad habits and I'd never get him out of my bed, but really that wasn't the case at all - as he got a bit older he was fine with sleeping in the basket and now he won't sleep on me even if I want him to.

 

[LoobyLou75]

My LO is the opposite. She's great on a night but is like that during the day! I can't get anything done. It's my DH's fault he said he was happy to go to work after Paternity Leave as Hollie was great during a day, oh how things have changed!

 

[littleblonde]

My Lo does this as well. Although all the time. During the day i let her sleep on her side which she loves . I am now looking at ways to safely put her on her side at night. she is 3 weeks old

 

[OmarsMum]

My Lo is 4 mnths old & some nights he just want to touch me (my arm, face, etc) to calm down & settle. I think they feel more secure knwing that u'r close to them esp at night.

 

[blondeNklutzi]

Thanks ladies! I think we have decided to just let him sleep with us for the time being and put him in his bed alone when he will go.

Like Polaris, I am worried about starting a habit. I never planned on co-sleeping, I miss the snuggle time with my OH and I kind of feel that our bed is the one place in the house that is OURS, if that makes any sense. I know it works very well for some people and I know there are some benefits, but I never really felt it was right for us. But, as I saw on a blinkie the other day "co sleeping is better than no sleeping" so for the time being I think he will sleep with us a bit.

Polaris-did you put your LO in his basket for naps during the day too? I'm wondering if that would help him get more used to it? Right now he usually sleeps downstairs with us during the day.

 

[polaris]

Thanks ladies! I think we have decided to just let him sleep with us for the time being and put him in his bed alone when he will go.

Like Polaris, I am worried about starting a habit. I never planned on co-sleeping, I miss the snuggle time with my OH and I kind of feel that our bed is the one place in the house that is OURS, if that makes any sense. I know it works very well for some people and I know there are some benefits, but I never really felt it was right for us. But, as I saw on a blinkie the other day "co sleeping is better than no sleeping" so for the time being I think he will sleep with us a bit.

Polaris-did you put your LO in his basket for naps during the day too? I'm wondering if that would help him get more used to it? Right now he usually sleeps downstairs with us during the day.

I was lucky that I had two Moses baskets as SIL had twins last year so passed them on - so I had one upstairs and one downstairs. I tried to get him to nap in his basket during the day but most of the time he napped in the pram or the bouncy chair. I only started putting him upstairs for naps after I moved him to the cot in his own room - he was four months.

Feels nice to have our bedroom back even though the first few nights I really missed having him beside the bed - so I know what you mean about not planning/wanting to take LO into your bed. It will all come together with time though as he gets a bit older.