Small age gap? Yay or nay?

[CaptainMummy]

I have 2.5yrs between my dd1&2 and it was easy peasy. Dd1 was always a very happy, laid back "easy" baby/toddler and dd2 was a very independent (though quite fussy) baby. Never had any problems.

Dd3 is 13 months younger than dd2 and that has been waaay more difficult. They were both so needy obviously both being babies. Dd2 was/is a very challenging toddler and dd3 a super clingy baby that is always grumpy.

I think it depends mostly on the children and their personalities. My youngest has been awful with her constant teething (she has 15 teeth now at 13 months) and dd2 (2) is a little sh** at the best of times (terrible... I know. But it's true!) I keep waiting for it to get easier, but now that theya re 1&2, they fight over everything, are always annoying each other and it always ends with them both moaning/shouting/crying and me getting all flustered and stressed!

I do believe it will be better when they are able to play properly, but at the moment, a small age gap is bloody hard work!

 

[mummytobe_93]

My partner and I are first time parents to a 5month old little boy. I greatly enjoyed pregnancy and birth, DH was very helpful and caring throughout.

I feel we adjusted very well to having a tiny human around and he had brought us much happiness, I find him to be a very happy easy going baby.

I'm a SAHM and DH works, our financial situation will allow me to stay home with him until he starts prep/school.

Before I had a baby I was dead set on having at least a 3 year age gap. We were never ttc for Ds1 but NTNP for a year, it felt the right way to go for us.

Recently I brought up to DH that I am starting to think a small age gap would be better, as it would greatly lessen the 'baby years' and we wouldn't have to start all over again almost as ds1 was about to start school ( I only want 2 children and DH is happy with 1 or 2). DH said we should just do what we did with ds1 and ntnp and when it happens it happens.


So to conclude my rambling, pros and cons for those with small age gaps? Thank you

20 months here and love it.
My son is 4 months and daughter has just turned 2. It was small enough that my daughter wasn't jealous but big enough that she was walking, talking a bit and can feed herself, entertain herself.
She gives the baby cuddles all the time but pretty much leaves him alone so I don't have to worry about her hurting him.

I'm finding it pretty easy and I'm breastfeeding full time. It was very unplanned but I'm so glad it happened.
I think it also depends on your child's temperament and how well they adapt. My daughter had a good routine and was sleeping well so that helped and baby just fitted in to our lives. I'm going to uni next September and I'm so glad that they will be growing up together as I won't be having another for 7 years. Definitely recommend it.
Have to be organised though! X

 

[Lumi]

I really appreciate everyone taking the time to reply