Smart replies to the critics?

[Raspberries]

I hadn't noticed the amount of looks I get being my age until the last 2 weeks cos I've gone out and about a bit more than usual.

But I've come up with a plan! I've found if you find some people gawping and pointing at your stomach whilst whispering to someone around them, you should catch their eye, stare and point at them, and pretend to whisper something to someone you're with (unless you're alone, then you look mental!) and they really don't like it. The amount of old women I made blush last week by doing this was unreal

And then I was waiting at the bank in a queue when the old women behind me was scowling at my bump, so I said "Afternoon" with a big grin to make it obvious I'd noticed her, and she started small talk like "How far along are you?"... "How old are you?" etc... and then started to say that I must be finding it difficult as a single teenage mother. Just like that, she ASSUMED the worst. So I said "Actually my OH is at work right now, and is an assistant business manager." which seemed to 'annoy' her, heaven knows why.

Then came "Oh, I'd have hated it if my kids had had children in their teens" so I asked her how old she was when she had her first and she said "17...but I was married!"... which I found hilarious cos I'm 18 and I don't think being married makes much of a difference to how you are as a parent.

So I asked her what made her think I wasn't married, at which point she looked down at my left hand and saw my rings. (I'm not actually married or engaged but I wear my mother's rings from her marriage to my biological father, and since getting fat pregnancy fingers, the only finger they fit is the marriage one) she then completely back-pedalled and was like "Oh, how lovely! No fights for whose surname to use then!" and I said "Nope, only one surname for our baby" ...which is technically true as my OH and I just happen to have same surname, as its quite common.

But I found the whole thing ridiculous. She was younger than me to have a baby yet before she thought I was married, she'd already formed a disapproving opinion.

Anyone else had this sort of thing? And other ways to deal with it? The whole saga was frustrating and I'm looking for some one-liners to use next time

 

[youngmum2b]

My fave 1 is the old classic a picture lasts longer.

It really bugs me that they instantly think the worst like oh's family regularly go down a members only social club, i found it highly amusing winding the old women up lol. Now they all leave me alone n ask every now n then how im getting on n if im guna bring bubs down when hes here.

 

[LoolaBear]

im 24 and when out and about today with my mum i had some very disaproving looks to then have a group of old ladies come up to me when my mum disappeared off into a shop saying some very disaproving comments about already having twins and another one on the way at my age and asked things like having i got better things to do then go out a saturday night sleeping around in their day you didnt do such a thing.
i they really pissed me off thinking i was a teenage mum (no offence to teen mums i damn right respect you all just annoyed as im 24 FFS!) who slept around got pregnant didnt care for my children blah blah blah, they then asked what my mum msut think of me and i just replied 'oh shes not that bothered really, she loves having so many grandchildren, but my girlfriend is a whole different matter and one to watch out for' gave then a sarcastic smile and walked away!
i loved seeing the look on their faces it was amazing! xxx

 

[charlotte1990]

Haha i love this, thanks 4 the tip its what i'll defo be doin as i have already had a few dirty looks with my lil bump. Its really frustrating them ppl just annoy me. I'm 20 but look about 15 but still even if i was 15 still don't deserve 2 get dirty looks. Just because were young doesn't mean were not going 2 be good parents. x

 

[abbSTAR]

ive never had any nasty comments or looks really, and im 15 but ive even had people ask me if its my first ... but everyone has been really nice to me and ive loved it and it just shows age doesn't define what type of mother you are because i bet if they knew my age they wouldn't all have been so nice.

 

[Natasha2605]

Personally I'd tell them to get fucked xx

 

[ayako]

I'm 20 but i look at least 17 and I went to my ob and she gave me the eye and asked "how old are you?" , i replied, " uh, I'm 20" then she was like "OHHH!!! You look much younger!" and I say, "Well I started college when I was 16 so I guess I'm getting a head start on things" and she just looked at me with a shocked face :O

 

[Tanara]

Lol, I honestly dont get weird looks, maybe I dont notice if I do, but I think it also makes a difference that I have a 2 year old and im almost always out with my OH so people must assume I'm older. I mean he's already 23 so that probably helps

 

[Burchy314]

I have gotten stares, but they weren't really disapproving except from other teens. Normally its a stare like "is she fat or pregnant?" haha so my guess is soon I will be getting the stares and comments as my tummy grows.

 

[his.baby.mama]

Usually I'm With My OH and no one gives me any looks, and the few times he's seen people he'll just say Wtf you looking at? Rude Asses! and then we have a good laugh! But otherwise I just smile, rub my belly and say my baby is already better than your judgemental ass!!! hahaha their faces are always priceless!!