TwilightAgain
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I feel like he has no concept of hope and faith and is just so negative. Basically this week has been rough and my uni have screwed me over big time in my masters to the point where I have to return in September next year thanks to their incompetency. I'm devastated to be pushing back things like a house, baby, wedding etc by another year. It really does make me sad but my OH and I are trying to focus on the positives. I live with my OH 3 hours away from my family but we still keep in contact a lot.
I was honest when my Dad asked whether I was still on my uni placement and said no and explained the reason one (it really was the fault of the uni) and he proceeded to say oh just forget about uni now, you need to get a job, i'm so angry etc etc. So I responded by saying, don't you think i'm angry? I want to settle down, have a family, get a job etc. His response? "I don't think that'll happen now darl". What the helll? Seriously. He says well Chris is getting on now, you'll finish your degree and go straight onto maternity leave. There's no point. So I said well 35 isn't too old to have children. He just mumbled something I can't remember but this angers me so much.
I'm 23, my OH is 29. We'll be 25 and 31 when I finish this degree. I can't believe he's already given up hope that i'll ever have a family and even when we do, I feel like he'll judge us because 35 (my partner will be by the time we sort other stuff) in his opinion is too old for babies. I agree that in an ideal world we would be younger but sometimes life gets in the way. So frustrating to think that we probably won't have his support I feel like i'm being scolded like a child for trying to be positive despite the bad stuff that's happened. There are no words, since when is it good advice to tell your kids to quit?
I was honest when my Dad asked whether I was still on my uni placement and said no and explained the reason one (it really was the fault of the uni) and he proceeded to say oh just forget about uni now, you need to get a job, i'm so angry etc etc. So I responded by saying, don't you think i'm angry? I want to settle down, have a family, get a job etc. His response? "I don't think that'll happen now darl". What the helll? Seriously. He says well Chris is getting on now, you'll finish your degree and go straight onto maternity leave. There's no point. So I said well 35 isn't too old to have children. He just mumbled something I can't remember but this angers me so much.
I'm 23, my OH is 29. We'll be 25 and 31 when I finish this degree. I can't believe he's already given up hope that i'll ever have a family and even when we do, I feel like he'll judge us because 35 (my partner will be by the time we sort other stuff) in his opinion is too old for babies. I agree that in an ideal world we would be younger but sometimes life gets in the way. So frustrating to think that we probably won't have his support I feel like i'm being scolded like a child for trying to be positive despite the bad stuff that's happened. There are no words, since when is it good advice to tell your kids to quit?