so ANGRY!!

[GemmaLeanne]

So ive just been to the doctors.. i have a chest infection so got antibiotics, whilst we were there the doctor asked about Kacie as shes had a few abscesses in her nappy area one ended her in hospital on IV antibiotics, were totally unsure why she gets them.. and i mentioned shed had another small one..

hhe did no more than turned to me and ask me if neglect my daughter?!!!?!

my daughter is my world, shes spoilt rotten! always clean and fed, people always comment about how happy and contented she is..

im just so hurt and angry right now

im seriously considering changing doctors

 

[Nervousmomtob]

Oh my god. That is the most ridiculous bullshit I think I've heard all week!! Of course you don't neglect your daughter! Asshole.

I would defineitly change doctors. I mean you can't get help you need if you can't feel relaxed and comfortable to talk to the doctor.

Big hope you can get something worked out

Oh and congrats on your pregnancy! H&H 9 months to you!

 

[annawrigley]

Don't change doctors, he had to ask I mean i'm sure nobody would actually admit to neglecting to their child lol, but he's just doing his job. If Noah had repeated bruises on his face or something I'm sure the doctors would ask if I was hitting him, and maybe even report it to SS to be checked out. It's their job!

 

[Bexxx]

I suppose he has to ask, but he could have done it a better way!

 

[EllaAndLyla]

i know its hard but try not to take it the wrong way, of course you dont neglect her!! its probably mandatory to ask. i would be pissed too xxx

 

[GemmaLeanne]

she gets them every month or so though and i know its really going to make me anxious about going next time she has one incase they think its due to me neglecting her

they start of as a tiny pimple, usually at the top of her thigh near her bum, then no matter how often i wash or cream the area with the antibiotic based cream she has been given they fill with puss untill they start leaking and clear up.. but some dont leak.

i personally think she needs a specialist, but now im thinking they think its my fault

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

It's definately not your fault hun, I know how you've been struggling to get them under control. Of course you'd be upset if someone came out and asked you that, particularly if it's your doctor, it'd make me bawl my eyes out if someone thought I'd been neglecting my kids. I'd try and take a deep breath and try and remember he didn't mean anything personal. Maybe the next time you see him, ask if you can be referred to a specialist? They're clearly not just going away on their own, and you're doing everything you can to prevent them. In the mean time, give her lots of nappy free time, see if that helps a bit. It's what I did to Logan when he had really severe nappy rash..

chin up babe, try not to let people get to you.

 

[lauram_92]

 

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[Cassie_x]

If someone told me I was neglecting my kids… You are a great mum, though I suppose it's just his job to ask xxx

 

[AirForceWife7]

Wow ... he could have done it in a more compassionate way I'm sorry You know you're a great mum & that's all that matters

 

[pinkribbon]

I went to the docs once as I was worried about the shape of Jake's head (he had a flattened head as a newborn cause he had a preference to sleep facing a certain way) and they called in a social worker since it was to do with his head. Apparently it's all procedure and they saw he was fit, happy and healthy and told me it would grow into a normal shape and if it didn't change by age 1 (it did) to come back.

The idea that a social worker was involved was enough to upset me never mind being told that. Poor you. I would change doctors hun

 

[sam_mumtobe]

He prob just ment it as in do you leave the nappy on a long time, but you no what doctors are like there all about the right word for things, but i would of definitly been upset as well, he should of worded it better, you wouldnt be at the doctors asking him about it if you neglected your child xx

 

[mayb_baby]

I had this in A&E when Michael was weak on one leg the asked did I drop him and questioned me and even tried to catch me out but I know it's because there is neglect and child abuse out there. I know how it feels but it's not personal they have to

 

[bbyno1]

 

[almostXmagic]

i guess as a doctor he has to ask. he surely could have gone about it in a better manner though. my sister was very prone to bruises when she was a baby and my mom was asked the same thing even though my parents never ever hurt us in any way.

 

[emmylou92]

sorry hun, but questions get asked like that all the time, your doing a wonderful job but some mothers dont, thats why they ask the questions that they do not to hurt you but to protect neglected and abused children.