Wow ladies! Seriously? Some comments are not needed regardless of your own situation.
She asked for help (with the decision)
"Usually" most people have enough money for their first as they don't "usually" have any major commitments.
But I did assume the OP and her OH did live together.
I had my daughter at 19 and it the best choice I made. I had a job also. But quit as my partner wanted to support us which he did. I have then made inroads and got myself a job in Optics while my daughter in now in nursery. I'm on higher the national wage. Work flexible part time hours and have current progression in my job. I'm happy with that. We are now TTC number 2.
I lost my dad last year and now my brother is doing chemotherapy for the foreseeable so my point of "life is too short" stands in my own life. I don't want to "wait" forever for things because I know most of us don't have forever. You never know when life will strike you down for any reason. And this is how I live my own life.
I was only giving her my opinion of her situation.
I didn't say, don't think about the choice, money, situation, do it anyway... I wholeheartedly feel anyone who posts on here before just going and becoming pregnant is currently thinking about it properly anyway.
I feel a bit jumped on if I'm honest. But I suppose I shouldn't be honest and just sing from the same sheet and say..
Have a good job
Have lots of money and savings
Have a decent car
Own a house
Make sure you've lived your life before having a baby
- IMO I don't agree with any of the above fully.
This is just the ideal situation
It will take people years to BUY a house anyway, you don't NEED loads of savings, you don't even need to have a job if your partner is supporting you but it would helpin the long term.
I am currently living my life with my beautiful daughter in tow and loving every minute.
So to summarise.
I had my daughter at 19 and everything's fine.
I did live with my OH, we both had good jobs etc so money wasn't an issue.
Im glad I went for it.
It was a daunting process but you'll find you have loads of support from everyone and the worry goes away.
If you're the sort of person who goes out loads, wants expensive things and holidays etc then maybe now isn't the right time but I wasn't that sort of person so I knew I wouldn't miss going out etc.
- I just miss lay ins!
Sorry if I've totally missed the point here but I was just giving my own opinion from my own situation as I was a young mother (I hate that term) x
Sorry it's long!
Excuse any mistakes I am using my ipad.