So close and yet so far...

[DiabeticMommy]

Hi,

OH and I had been hoping to start trying to conceive DC2 in January. We have a DS who is 16months old and everything was going well. We had been to the Dr and had got the all clear to start trying early (We have to have 3 months pre-pregnancy counselling because of my diabetes).

Everything was set and ready to go and then life happened...I lost my job and everything has gone downhill with it

I don't want to go and get pregnant without having the security of work/maternity pay etc and feel as though I had been waiting (trying to be patient) and now that we've got to the next phase, everything has gone belly up.

I guess that I should be thankful that I'm not in the position that I have DS, one on the way and no source of income (of my own). DH has a good, secure career, but mortgages etc take up a lot of what comes in.

I just feel that I was almost across the WTT finish line and now am back at square 1.

I hope that I will have a new job to keep my mind off TTC for a few months at least, but given that as soon as I returned to work after maternity leave, I was besotted with the idea of TTC no. 2, I doubt that it will help much.

Has anyone got any ideas of what I can do to take my mind off being so completely broody and head over heels in love with the idea of expecting again?

 

[prettybirdy27]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'd be devastated if I had to push back TTC because of something unavoidable.

I think the best thing for you to fill your time and keep your mind off TTC is to apply apply apply for jobs! Really pour yourself into it. I don't know what career field you're in, but maybe now would be the time to look at getting certifications or taking a few classes too.

Keep your head up - the time will come!

 

[DiabeticMommy]

Thanks Prettybirdy27,

I'm about as qualified as I can be, I'm a lawyer, so now its just about trying to keep myself interested in finding something new, but how mundane is looking for work when I compare it to what I could be doing right now? I know I've already got the best job in the world, being mommy to my gorgeous little boy. I just need to try and get excited by the legal world again, but DS has shown me the error of my previous thinking.

I just needed to vent really. OH knows how broody I am, and shares my feelings to a certain degree, but I must drive him baby mad! I feel like I'm in mourning for something that never existed.

Hopefully its just a set back and things can get underway soon, I think I might need to repeat that mantra to myself every now and then!

 

[spicyorange]

I know how you feel, we are ttc in December but I might be losing my job in April, we have decided we have waited long enough and are ttc anyway but it's gone from being perfect to being scary because if I don't get a new job it's going to be next to impossible when pregnant