So Disapointed with Midwife

[Ainebanie]

So I had my midwife visit today.... And I am so disapointed.
Literally, went in, took my blood pressure and baby's heart beat for about 1 minute.

In total we were in there for about 10 minutes.

Between that time, I had to rush to ask her some questions. Which she barley gave me an answer to.

She didnt ask me how i was, or did i have any questions. It was like I was a burden to her.. Anyone else have experience like this ?

 

[charlotte1990]

I don't even get to listen 2 my babys heartbeat at all at my midwife apps hun. Mine always seem really rushed aswell just take blood pressure check my belly and i'm out lol. Really does my head in as there always running like half an hour behind so i wait for half an hour to be in there 2 mins x

 

[chels24uk]

im sorry you had a nasty experience hun. Fortunatly my 2 midwife appts have been lovely. I guess sometimes they are just in a hurry because they have so many appts?

 

[PixieBelle]

I go to a practice which has two permanent midwives and a temp that stands in when they may be on leave etc. I have managed to see all three at different points and the more contact I have with them, the less confident I am in whether they give a crap about me and LO. I also experience insanely short appointments, my concerns are brushed off as 'don't worry about it' with little to no explanation as to why whatever I may be worried about has happened. They also didn't bother writing down that I had brought in my scan results from the anomaly scan at 20 weeks and asked me for them again at 24 weeks. Makes me wonder whether they even bothered looking at them after I said the sonographer had not told us of any concerns. I know part of it for me is unfortunately down to language difference but all our friends and family say I am getting on great with speaking dutch ad I am easy to understand so not sure how much they hide behind this to get me out the door for the next appointment. OH is coming with me to the next appointment as he's really not happy that I've been upset coming home from my last two apointments. Which I like that he's being protective but it shouldn't take my partner wading in for things to change.
Ah well, we'll see I guess.

 

[WeenieWoo]

oh sorry you r having such bad experiences with mw

mine i have to say is great - we r in there for a while, always listen to heartbeat for w few minutes, the go through any results from tests i have had, alwasy asks how i am/what im experiencing etc, blood pressure

sorry they r all not like this xx

 

[Ainebanie]

I go to a practice which has two permanent midwives and a temp that stands in when they may be on leave etc. I have managed to see all three at different points and the more contact I have with them, the less confident I am in whether they give a crap about me and LO. I also experience insanely short appointments, my concerns are brushed off as 'don't worry about it' with little to no explanation as to why whatever I may be worried about has happened. They also didn't bother writing down that I had brought in my scan results from the anomaly scan at 20 weeks and asked me for them again at 24 weeks. Makes me wonder whether they even bothered looking at them after I said the sonographer had not told us of any concerns. I know part of it for me is unfortunately down to language difference but all our friends and family say I am getting on great with speaking dutch ad I am easy to understand so not sure how much they hide behind this to get me out the door for the next appointment. OH is coming with me to the next appointment as he's really not happy that I've been upset coming home from my last two apointments. Which I like that he's being protective but it shouldn't take my partner wading in for things to change.
Ah well, we'll see I guess.

That is exactly how I feel.
When I asked her a question about my pain the bum , she brushed it off as if it was nothing.. Hello , this is hurting me and obviously there is an explanation for it. I had also been to the hospital two nights before because I hadnt felt the baby move and she didnt even ask me about that.

I'm going home to Ireland this weekend so I'm going to go to my GP. Ask him the questions I want answers to.

Its very upsetting coming out of these app's when they are meant to be happy times about you and your baby.

I wonder is there a way to change your MW ?

 

[nicole_]

i found this last time i went, was so rushed
and i told her how down and miserable i was feeling.
me and OH were quite worried about how down ive been but she didnt care and told me i should be feeling like that

 

[Ainebanie]

i found this last time i went, was so rushed
and i told her how down and miserable i was feeling.
me and OH were quite worried about how down ive been but she didnt care and told me i should be feeling like that

She told you you should be feeling like that .. EH NO !
I really dont think they care.
I had to go give a sample and my OH was left in the room with her and he was asking her a few questions and he got the impression she didnt care either.

Have you gone to your Doctor ?

 

[18singlemom2b]

you should try and see if you can switch midwives ladies, call another midwives centre and explain your situation? maybe somewhere different can help you

 

[DazedConfused]

Try and change midwives? I changed at around 20 weeks. I now have a super supportive midwife who only has 2 cases me and a woman due in Jan

You deserve better care!

 

[allyk]

I dont even know who my midwife is, i've had 2 appointments and seen 2 different people, 2nd one better than 1st. I dont even have a number to call in case of any worries i have.

I had to change my 16 week appt and had to search on the internet for a contact number!!!

 

[superbecks]

So I had my midwife visit today.... And I am so disapointed.
Literally, went in, took my blood pressure and baby's heart beat for about 1 minute.

In total we were in there for about 10 minutes.

Between that time, I had to rush to ask her some questions. Which she barley gave me an answer to.

She didnt ask me how i was, or did i have any questions. It was like I was a burden to her.. Anyone else have experience like this ?

After you have booked in your midwife appointments are normally only 10 minutes per time, and it is standard to listen to the heartbeat for about a minute to check it is regular etc...so as far as that part, it is standard.

However she should have asked how you were etc (i'm training to be a midwife) This is always the first thing we do, before carrying out BP etc.

She was possibly running behind and in a rush, which is obviously not your fault and it seems unfair, but unfortunately this is how things are these days, not enough midwives.

IN repsonse to your later post you can request a change of midwife, you won't even need to explain your reasons. It is such an important and exciting time in your life and you want somebody who will make you feel like it is.

Good Luck and I hope you get sorted x

 

[jjbump]

I am sorry to hear that so many women are experiencing a lack of care when pregnant (I thought it was just me). My experiences are the same - a 10 min slot which is rushed (after having waited sometimes an hour as the midwife is delayed). To be honest, I have learnt most of the info I know from this website. If it wasn't for the internet, I would be terrified about my symptoms.

The best thing to do is write down a list of questions and take it to your next appt and don't leave until you have all the answers. I also find that you can book an appt with the doctor and ask various questions, too. If you're in the UK, call the NHS direct help line and speak to a nurse/doctor.

 

[Kitten596]

I go to a practice which has two permanent midwives and a temp that stands in when they may be on leave etc. I have managed to see all three at different points and the more contact I have with them, the less confident I am in whether they give a crap about me and LO. I also experience insanely short appointments, my concerns are brushed off as 'don't worry about it' with little to no explanation as to why whatever I may be worried about has happened. They also didn't bother writing down that I had brought in my scan results from the anomaly scan at 20 weeks and asked me for them again at 24 weeks. Makes me wonder whether they even bothered looking at them after I said the sonographer had not told us of any concerns. I know part of it for me is unfortunately down to language difference but all our friends and family say I am getting on great with speaking dutch ad I am easy to understand so not sure how much they hide behind this to get me out the door for the next appointment. OH is coming with me to the next appointment as he's really not happy that I've been upset coming home from my last two apointments. Which I like that he's being protective but it shouldn't take my partner wading in for things to change.
Ah well, we'll see I guess.

That is exactly how I feel.
When I asked her a question about my pain the bum , she brushed it off as if it was nothing.. Hello , this is hurting me and obviously there is an explanation for it. I had also been to the hospital two nights before because I hadnt felt the baby move and she didnt even ask me about that.

I'm going home to Ireland this weekend so I'm going to go to my GP. Ask him the questions I want answers to.

Its very upsetting coming out of these app's when they are meant to be happy times about you and your baby.

I wonder is there a way to change your MW ?

This sounds exactly like my midwifes all 3 of them! The only 1 that was nice, I have only managed to see once

 

[PixieBelle]

That is exactly how I feel.
When I asked her a question about my pain the bum , she brushed it off as if it was nothing.. Hello , this is hurting me and obviously there is an explanation for it. I had also been to the hospital two nights before because I hadnt felt the baby move and she didnt even ask me about that.

I'm going home to Ireland this weekend so I'm going to go to my GP. Ask him the questions I want answers to.

Its very upsetting coming out of these app's when they are meant to be happy times about you and your baby.

I wonder is there a way to change your MW ?

Def go see your GP. I'm considering doing the same with any real concerns and just let the MW's do the basic stuff. I can change my MW as they're not part of the national health service here but as all three have been a little lacking in one way or another, I'm not sure whether a new practice will be any better. Better the devil you know and all that. Guess I'll see how it goes and make a decision from there.

 

[PixieBelle]

I am sorry to hear that so many women are experiencing a lack of care when pregnant (I thought it was just me). My experiences are the same - a 10 min slot which is rushed (after having waited sometimes an hour as the midwife is delayed). To be honest, I have learnt most of the info I know from this website. If it wasn't for the internet, I would be terrified about my symptoms.

The best thing to do is write down a list of questions and take it to your next appt and don't leave until you have all the answers. I also find that you can book an appt with the doctor and ask various questions, too. If you're in the UK, call the NHS direct help line and speak to a nurse/doctor.

Same as, a lot of women here who know a lot and have had so much experience. I'd be clueless without B&B.

 

[WeenieWoo]

I am sorry to hear that so many women are experiencing a lack of care when pregnant (I thought it was just me). My experiences are the same - a 10 min slot which is rushed (after having waited sometimes an hour as the midwife is delayed). To be honest, I have learnt most of the info I know from this website. If it wasn't for the internet, I would be terrified about my symptoms.

The best thing to do is write down a list of questions and take it to your next appt and don't leave until you have all the answers. I also find that you can book an appt with the doctor and ask various questions, too. If you're in the UK, call the NHS direct help line and speak to a nurse/doctor.

Same as, a lot of women here who know a lot and have had so much experience. I'd be clueless without B&B.

Yep me too - i get most of my info from BnB and internet. i don't know what i would have done without u lovely knowledgable ladies on here

 

[mamamay]

I am not overly impressed with the treatment I have had so far, I am disabled and midwife I have has no idea about it - even though the condition I have (hip) is one new borns are checked for and I had to refer myself to my consultant by writing him a letter as I know for def I will need a c-section and may not be able to walk later in pregnancy!

As for sonographer on 12 weeks scan, me and OH were treate like 5 year olds (I am 30) and was asked if I take my green note book every where as it 'not just a cute book for us to look at??!!' and when we got emotional when we saw bubba on screen she said 'I see it day in day out!' what was that all about - keep your bad day or mood to yourself!