So frustrating - refuses to wear new clothes

[aimee-lou]

Why is it that my 3.5yo will not wear any new clothes. As it's summer, and he's obviously growing, both the boys have got new clothes and shoes recently. Seriously, every new item I buy he will throw a fit, refuse to wear, throw at me, cry and bawl. It's so not like him, and I can talk him round, but tbh, it's getting to me. I know he doesn't know that he's being ungrateful but refusing the wear the new sandals I bought because 'I want lightning mcqueen ones instead' is a little but spoiled for my liking. I try not to get mad, but it's every bloody time! I always talk him round and eventually - after a couple of weeks - he's fine and will wear the offending item. I'm just a bit tired of the fights, especially when the weather is hot and he will scream the place down to wear jeans! Arghhhhh!!!

(p.s. I know it's all about control of his own environment etc, but my life it's frustrating!)

Sorry for the rant....it just really got to me this morning. I went shopping last night and all I've had this morning is complaints from not wanting to wear shorts, his socks are too small (trainer socks) and he didn't like the sandals as above, to the shreddies I bought weren't chocolate, I didn't get the right crisps, the fruit juice for breakfast 'isnt nice' apparently and ......oooooh he can do his own shopping next time lol

p.p.s. - he takes after his father. He's really critical and I'm used to it now after 5 years of marriage etc and can brush it off, but when it's in stereo.....ooooooh!

p.p.p.s - I've tried taking him with me to choose - that's worse and inevitably the item he chooses will not be in his size or out of my price range and I have to say no and then we get even more sulks as he then refuses ALL alternatives!

 

[Siyren]

Avidly following cos I have a little control freak too!!!! God forbid I try to put shorts on her x

 

[OmarsMum]

I match colours with what I'm wearing, it makes it easier. Today I wanted him tow ear romper, he threw a fit as according to him it's dress for princess & he's a boy not a girl. He didn't agree to wear it until I did the poppers & he saw that it has "shorts". He refused to wear his new sandals so I gave up & I put on his old ones.

I also hide the clothes I don't want him to wear & I leave him to choose from the new ones. When I buy him new stuff I make a big deal out of it, I ask him to show them to his dad & to his grandparents when they visit.

There are some items he will not wear no matter how hard I try including shoes, now I buy shoes / sandals similar to the ones he already has, all his clothes are t-shirts/ polo shirts with shorts. He will not wear long trousers. xx

 

[aimee-lou]

I match colours with what I'm wearing, it makes it easier. Today I wanted him tow ear romper, he threw a fit as according to him it's dress for princess & he's a boy not a girl. He didn't agree to wear it until I did the poppers & he saw that it has "shorts". He refused to wear his new sandals so I gave up & I put on his old ones.

I also hide the clothes I don't want him to wear & I leave him to choose from the new ones. When I buy him new stuff I make a big deal out of it, I ask him to show them to his dad & to his grandparents when they visit.

There are some items he will not wear no matter how hard I try including shoes, now I buy shoes / sandals similar to the ones he already has, all his clothes are t-shirts/ polo shirts with shorts. He will not wear long trousers. xx

Must confess it's easier when hubby is home at getting dressed time as then he can see if hubby is wearing shorts or a certain type of t-shirt. However, I'm 7m pregnant and don't have a very varied wardrobe right now lol.

I also confess I'm a bit strict and will not take 'i don't want this I want that' type of whinging. The sandals though, I can understand as he may not like them but he adamantly refused to even touch them! If it's just the normal type of 'no, I want this instead' I'll gladly stand my ground but it can end up in a bit of a stalemate

After all that arguing though in the end I had to put long trousers on him as it's too cold to leave the house in shorts!

 

[_Vicky_]

Well if I tell you Sam has worn the same pyjamas to days in a row and today has a tshirt on he pcked out of the dirty laundry that his brother wore Thursday - can you tell I feel your pain and have just given up! Fynn just came out of the phase and Sam just starts it! Ggrrr

I find it helps if you give them a few choices (in my case sometimes not as they both want the same one so I have done what I said I never would and have started putting them in the same!)

 

[hattiehippo]

This is Tom too I'm afraid...total control freak but then so am I so I can't really complain too much.

After a lot of battles Tom know accepts if I tell him a top etc is in the wash so he can't have it and tbh I let him choose a lot of his clothes at the mo. My problem is that he wants everything in pink or purple and pref from the girl's ranges. I'm fine with this but DH is not so I have to tread a fine line between it being girly enough for Tom to want it but not so much DH starts moaning.

Tom has also been abit better since he discovered he can pretend to magic things into what he wants....seems to work most times if he's starting to dig his heels in!

 

[KayBea]

i sneak her new clothes in with her old ones iykwim? so she doesnt know they are new. i also give her 2 choices of what to wear, so today it was shorts & tshirt or a romper type thing.. and either doodles or canvas shoes.

if we are out shopping i give her two choices. so either a minnie top or a peppa top etc & i dont even show her anything thats out my price range. if she spots something i just say 'no you cant have it, that man wants it' (and point to a random guy)

xx

 

[Jchihuahua]

I am dreading the day Daisy refuses to wear what I buy her but I know that day will probably come fairly soon! She sulked for ages a little while ago because I refused to buy her Angry Birds underpants from next!

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

I think we've come out the other side of clothing wars. Ruby suddenly doesn't care what she wears (save for a few particularly hated items) and she looks a lot better for letting me choose ha ha

 

[aimee-lou]

i sneak her new clothes in with her old ones iykwim? so she doesnt know they are new. i also give her 2 choices of what to wear, so today it was shorts & tshirt or a romper type thing.. and either doodles or canvas shoes.

if we are out shopping i give her two choices. so either a minnie top or a peppa top etc & i dont even show her anything thats out my price range. if she spots something i just say 'no you cant have it, that man wants it' (and point to a random guy)

xx

This all used to work until about 2 months ago lol - ahhh the good old days! lol

 

[hayz_baby]

Don't know if this has been mentioned, firstly your post made me giggle a little! God it must b hard and I also understand ur frustration.

Instead of free range choice when buying clothes pick 2/3 things and ask him to pick what he likes best. Maybe do something similar when picking out his clothes/food etc.give them a ltd choice u get what u want and he gets to pick. Hth x