So my friend wants a baby. That was an odd conversation. Oh, and I'm Viable!!

[Croc-O-Dile]

YAY! Olivia is finally viable! Next milestone, 30 weeks!

On a less impressive note, a good friend of mine told me today that him and his girlfriend of less than 2 months want to get pregnant and have a baby. They both are in terrible situations at home, neither one has a job, and they JUST turned 16 last month. I knew approaching it harshly wouldn't do anything, so I took the "ask them 100 questions" route. They were very simple questions: "Where are you going to live?" "How will you pay for the baby's health insurance and doctor bills?" "How will you get to and from doctors appts?" "What will you do about money?" ect.
*Side note*In New Jersey you can't get your drivers license until you're 18, but if you pay for the 6 hours behind the wheel you can get your provisional at 17. Also, you can't get an apartment until you're 17, and even then you need an adult to co-sign for it.

She got offended and didn't really answer any of the questions. He was at least honest and said they didn't figure it all out yet. I think I more or less talked him out of it, but I have a good feeling she's the master-mind behind this.

I really just really hope that he doesn't get her pregnant. He's mentally about 12 years old, IMO he shouldn't even be having sex. Age may be just a number when it comes to how well a parent you are, but maturity sure as hell isn't.

 

[alysedelovely]

I think what you did was respectable. I had a big chat with all of my friends about using protection and knowing when you're ready to take on the responsibility of a child.

I know what its like to see people who are your friends, but are kinda not ready to be parents- want to be parents! i have two very promiscuous friends and today, i handed them birth control packs that the doctor had given me as trial packets before i got pregnant.

all you can do is try to warn them and prepare them for their adult decisions!

 

[trashit]

I think what you did was right, i'd have done the same. I just found out these two people i went to school with are expecting, they both are a bit "slow" if you get what i mean and not mature or responsible enough to have been having sex (in fact im surprised they knew how ) they both cant even wash themselves let alone look after a bambino, its so sad. I have no idea what they'll do.

I don't know what the big thing is with young people, why not wait?!

and congrats on your viability sugar its going so fast!!!!!! i remember when you were like 14 weeks!!!!! xx

 

[lily123]

I'd have done exactly the same thing hun, none of my friends have gone that way (i think i scared them all because i was apparently the 'last one they'd expect this to happen to' and they all say it just goes to show that it could happen to anyone!)

Massive congratulations on Livi's viability it's the best milestone ever lol i had the biggest sigh of releif when LO became viable
xxxx

 

[sleepinbeauty]

Good for you! I'm glad your baby is doing well.

Also good for you for saying what you did. I've done the same thing. I didn't go through pregnancy and birth but the girls in my sig have taught me a thing or two about how hard it is to have kids. I do my best to remind my broody friends about bills and late-night feedings/teething/sick kids. It's not all fun and games! Thankfully, they've listened so far. The one that worries me the most is my sister though... She seems to think that having a family with her bf would make her life better and fix things. That's the most dangerous type of all! It only makes it harder!!

Sorry, that turned into a mini-rant. hahaha I worry about this fairly often.

 

[~RedLily~]

i think you did the right thing. its better they realise its not a good idea by themsleves than be actually told.
yay for being viable!
next milestone is 27 weeks (3rd tri) or getting to double digits if you want a nearer one.

 

[QuintinsMommy]

you did the right thing, one of my friends(ex friend lol) tried to get pregnant when I was 1st pregnant.. her boyfriend and her has an "oops" and she told him she was going to take "plan b"(the morning after pill) the next day, she came online and told me she wont take it and hopes she is pregnant

I was like "Your stupid, go take plan b right now!" lol

congrats on 24 weeks hun,

 

[BrEeZeY]

congrats hun! nd dnt worry bout ur friend u did what u could!