so sad

[littlebum]

Hello my name is Kate and im 31.
I work as nurse and have been with my police officer husband for 5yrs and married for 1yr.
Ive had endometriosis for years and have always been told that i needed to start trying for a baby as soon as possible and that there was a high risk that there would be difficulties carrying. 3 months ago i had my coil out and got pregnant immediately - we were so happy but 3 weeks ago i collapsed at work and had a miscarriage. Im finding it so hard to cope. Ive no family locally or close friends and even then my mum cant cope or deal with anything involving emotions and cant understand why im still grieving and not moved on. Due to low mood my husband took me to the GP and been started on tablets and been referred to a mental health day hospital so that im not at home alone (which involves me either getting drunk or thinking too much - both of which makes me more depressed). Im desperate to try again. Some of my friends are pregnant and all i can focus on is babies, babies, babies. My husband has said NO to trying at moment till im better but that could take a while. Im so miserable and cant stop crying and i cant see things getting better. Everyone keeps telling me that in time it will get better and i need to heal.
If you got this far thanx for reading

 

[honey08]

sry for u loss

 

[Round2]

Hi Kate,

I'm sorry for you loss and so sorry you're feeling this low. Miscarriage is a very tough thing to go through, much harder than I ever anticipated. Everyone here knows exactly how you feel, you're not alone. I'm currently going through my second loss of the year and I now know from experience what to expect. The first few weeks are really tough, the pain is almost unbareable. After a few weeks, many people will expect you to have bounced back, but most people will not understand what you are going through. Just know it will take time, but slowly each day you will get better. You will be in a better place soon, you need to grieve, take your time and be kind to yourself. Just take it day by day.

 

[Smee]

Hello little bum,
I came across your post as I think I am in the process of miscarriage and was looking for symptoms.
You made me cry as I am in the same position I have no family around either. I am so sorry for your loss and send you a great big squeeze. What ever it takes you need pick yourself up and use all your strength. Things didn't work out this time for you but there is all sorts of help out there for people trying to conceive. I hope I haven't said anything wrong and I know I haven't experienced a loss as such yet but I do understand what it's like to go through something without support. The ladies on here are so lovely and am sure if you just wanted to have a rant or in need of supportbthat there are plenty here for you.

X x x

 

[littlebum]

ireally hope things go ok and if u need to talk im here xxx

 

[Smee]

Oh bless you thank you Kate (sorry I didn't see your name). I will find out for definite monday but don't look great. I had the said dream of loss and feel empty. It took 10 months to get to this point. Don't know what gonna do. We will get through this though, hey. X

 

[littlebum]

I really hope so. Please let me know how u get on. Maybe we can support each other xxx

 

[Smee]

Will do, of course we can. X

 

[Smee]

That would be nice. X

 

[grandbleu]

So sorry you are going through this hon. Miscarriage is so hard physically and more emotionally. I never knew how hard until I went through one myself. One thing that you do have is a supportive and loving partner which is a blessing. I found that most of my family and friends just didn't get it unless they had gone through it themselves. You will feel better day by day...I have to say in the beginning I was downing 1/2 a bottle of wine a night...now I'm back to my nightly glass and hopeful for the future with a little one. I miss my baby so much...but it will get better I promise.