so very sad - no more babies

[twinklestar]

well i have 4 beautiful children, 2 boys and 2 girls who are, 12, 9 , 5 and 7 months

the thing is hubby and i both agreed 4 is enough so NO MORE,

but i feel so very sad at that

the thought of never having another pregnancy, another birth or holding my child for the first time ever makes me sob everytime i think of it

its not a question to have more so i need to learn ways to deal with this , for me i havnt been broody untill my youngest at the time reached two so getting these feeling while Kane is still so young is hard to deal with

i guess that desire will fade??? i dont know

dont get me wrong i know how lucky i am to have four healthy children and im thankfull for that everyday

anyone else done having babies but no ready to let go?

 

[Buffy71]

I'm hoping we will have another but I'm very aware of the ticktock of my body clock. I can't bear the thought that H might not get a sibling and that I might not be pregnant again, but like you i'm sooo thankful for this wonderful little munchkin.

Xxx

 

[SAmummy]

i think we are done and it also makes me sad We have three boys and when people ask if we are going to try for a girl my hubby always jokes and says we should, but I know he is not being serious I have to say we have had a few sleepless nights and that makes me feel that perhaps i wouldn't manage another anyway, beside the financial implications. I try not to dwell on it cause I can get in a state. It doesn't help that one of my friends is pregnant and I see her updates on facebook which make me a little jealous and sad I will never be preggie again ..... I'm such a nut I just keep reminding myself that no pregnancy lasts forever and all babies grow up so I may as well just enjoy Jed while he's still little

 

[twinklestar]

thanks girls, SAmummy, your right and i tell myself that too and while im so proud when Kane reaches milestones i also feel a tiny bit sad that my last baby is growing up so fast

OH GOOD GOD!!! im going to be one of those terrible mothers who smothers their child with love and never lets go someone stop me


maybe time is the best answer, my mum had 6 children and told me that feeling never went for her but at some point we all have to say when enough is enough be it 1 child or 15!!

 

[Christine33]

awww hun i totally know where you are coming from. i have a gorgeous 2 year old boy and a lil girl of nearly 8 months and we have said no more too.

i am in the process of selling lots of things and the memories are hitting me hard. i sold his FIRST ever little stroller yesterday, i bought it when i was preggers with him and i actually cried as i handed it over to the lady. i sold the pram today that both my babies used and i felt a knife go through my heart. i really wanted to keep the stroller but had no space anywhere for it.

i feel sad i won't have a newborn again, push another pram etc. BUT i have all the exciting things to look forward to with the 2 i have and that excites me too.

 

[Odd Socks]

my oh was so traumatised seeing me go through labour, & we had a horrendous first 2 weeks with bella that he definitely doesn't want another baby. i said to him in that first fortnight that we shouldn't have another baby but now i know what the problem was, i'm so, so sad that he'll probably never change his mind. i always wanted 2 babies, & i loved being pregnant & loving being a mummy. i feel cheated out of the first 2 weeks of bella's life, i want to experience it properly with another baby (though in some ways, i feel that this isn't fair to bella because i hated that first fortnight with her). i also don't want her to be an only child.

& within me, i don't feel like my family is complete. don't get me wrong, i couldn't be more in love with my daughter, but i just feel we were meant to have 2 children.

xx

 

[Sam9kids]

I feel exactly the same hun. Ive been pregnant for so long its sad that i will never feel like that again. I will miss having someone who is completely dependant on me for everything... but at the same time, as they grow, i know that i will be extremely proud of my intelligent, well behaved, independant, beautiful children as they become adults xxx

 

[twinklestar]

sam the feeling i have must be 100x stronger for you being that you have spent YEARS being pregnant

 

[twinklestar]

stupid laptop has a mind of its own and posted before i had finshed!!

sam- are you or hubby going to get sterilized? hubby wants to but even though we have agreed no more i dont want him to do it!!

im so proud of my children too have loved each new stage and achievment, i guess il have to wait untill im a grandma and i can spoil my grandchildren eh!!

x

 

[MNORBURY]

aw big hugs hunny, I'd say your feelings are totally natural. My cousin has 4 (her youngest being 2 1/2) and she's already trying to pinch my lo when her baby goes to school! You'll get to do it all again (without the painful part - bonus!) like you say when you become a grandma x

 

[New2Bumps]

I think that even though Ethan is my first and we will def have another but possibly three. I loved being pregnant and love being a mummy and we always planned to have kids in our 30s but I think if I'd have known I'd have loved it so much I'd have started at 27 - I will be so sad when I have my last pregnancy and I hope that doesn't spoil it. Hugs to you. x