So When Did You Realise You Were Ready To Have A Baby???

[Buttonsbabe86]

Hey everyone,

Just a bit of light chit-chat really to see if it was a lightbulb moment for you, or that moment where you thought "you know what, I want a baby!" and when did your partner realise/give in/agree lol

I realised when all my friends had children and when helping them out knew instinctively what to do (i'm an only child so no experience with siblings) and when the bad stuff was happening like projectile vomiting and green poo's etc I wasn't fazed and even coo-ed at the horrible stuff and thought that every little thing was a miracle and they weren't even my own children.

My partner has been broodier longer than I have and he says it's the fact he gave up going out at weekends just to stay home with me out of choice and his ideal night would be putting the kids to bed and then curling up to watch X-factor with me and he says that sounds more heavenly than going out drinking now. Plus he's a natural with kids!!! lol

So how did you all know?

 

[mrsM78]

Well I was 14 when my sister had her first and I decided I wanted a child too. I am now 33 and still waiting for my first...
Hubby's always been good with kids and knew he'd like some one day, but he had to make sure he was with the right woman first and that took him a long time. Our friend's little girl was born May 2009 and although he denies that being the reason, since then we talked about having babies more seriously and I came off the pill in August that year.

 

[Armywife84]

My biological time clock started ticking at 24. I had always pictured myself married and with children at 25, finished having kids by 30..

When I was 22, I didn't even want children till later down the road, if at all.

Then I met my husband, it really started ticking like mad. Still achieved getting married at 25, but have yet to achieve children and I'll be 27 soon .

At least I achieved one of my dreams by 25. Just hope I can achieve my really soon.

 

[Princess Lou]

Hey. I never wanted children and in June 2008 I was talking with my hubby as we were setting a date for the wedding (only been engaged for two years, lol). I turned to him and said that I wanted him to be 200% certain that this was what he wanted as I knew he wanted children and he knew that I didn't and that I would never change my mind. He said to me "I've never had children so I can't miss what I have never had, you, on the other hand, have been in my life for three years, I've fallen in love with you and the thought of never waking up next to you every morning breaks my heart more than knowing I will not be a father." I had my implant removed the following month. Knowing that he loved me enough to give up his dream of having a family made me want one with him. Needless to say, over three years later I'm still working on it. Lol.

XX

 

[Maurie]

I had always wanted children... I wanted to start trying about 15 minutes after we got home from our wedding. Clearly DH wasnt ready, we were 22. But we started trying on and off about 3 months later.

 

[urchin]

I have known since I was about 24 - but I'm not sure if there was a lightbulb moment (and if there was, it's lost in the mists of time!) however, it wasn't until I was 38 that I had a partner who also wanted children - by which time it's not so easy!

 

[Damita]

I didn't really feel the whole broody thing, I wasn't a big fan on kids or babies, didn't want to try until I was 28 (at the time 24), it was my husband, he turned 31 and he was like a few xmas ago now that he wanted a baby, I was like not yet I have to finish uni and he then suggested we start last August by then I was baby crazy as I had the idea in my head for 8 months.

I am glad he kept going on about because who would of known what would of happened to my body if I had waited four years, would never of found out I have PCOS and never would of gone on my Low GI Diet which has done wonders for my body

 

[SweetJennie]

Ever since I was a little girl I wanted a sibling or a baby or something. Mom said even when I was little little all I did was obssess about babies. Not nothing ever really changed. All through high school and university I would be picking out names and dreaming about when I could have a baby. It was after I was told I had PCOS and getting pregnant would be difficult that we started NTNP. Once I hit 23 that was a huge turning point from NTNP to TTC though because I wanted to follow in my moms footsteps and get pregnant at 23 and have a baby at 24 so Christmas of 2009 me and OH decided was our last alone for sure because we would do whatever it took to get pregnant. Fast forward to now and I'm 25 and still childless and not pregnant. I am getting stressed because OH is 34 and his clock is ticking because he doesnt want to be an older father.

 

[readyformore]

I always wanted kids. I was ready as a teenager, but knew I had to wait.
We were married at 22 right after I graduated from college and I was ready right away. We started trying when I was 23.

 

[jeoestreich]

About three years ago we both decided that we wanted kids.

 

[RM_Wife]

I have always wanted kids. I have known from a young age that I wanted kids young. Some people prefer to wait, but I always knew deep down I wanted 2 by the time I was 25. My husband has always wanted kids too, as he grew up in a big family and always loved being around babies/kids. When we met one another, we knew straight away that we wanted to get married and have kids. So far the marriage is done, but no kids yet. I always knew that something was up when I was younger but when I met hubby I actually went to get it looked into. Then it was discovered that I has PCOS. Now, if only we could get the BFP we would feel complete. The joys of being married to someone who is serving in the armed forces can throw many, many more spanners in the works! Just another obstacle that we will have to get over which will make us even more proud parents once we do have our little bambino/bambina!

 

[nevernormal]

I always knew I wanted at least 1, but hopefully more by the time I was 25 (as long as I was married by then!).

DH and I got married Aug, 2009, right before I turned 20. We both had a year of college left, so the plan was finish up our degrees then TTC. Well we graduated May 2010, and DH had to have back surgery and we were still looking for jobs, so didn't go off the pill until Aug 2010. Got my last bcp period on my 21st birthday, and have been ttc since then... 22 now and no sign of a bfp until this point... I always knew I would struggle.

 

[BabyBrain10]

At first i thought i wanted to work with children and tried to pursue a career in that but once i started i knew that it was really a child of my own that i wanted...

im still young but as soon as i was diagnosed with PCOS we both knew we should start trying asap we were told that it would take a while and here we are 2 years 8 months later still trying...

 

[JustKia]

Hey. I never wanted children and in June 2008 I was talking with my hubby as we were setting a date for the wedding (only been engaged for two years, lol). I turned to him and said that I wanted him to be 200% certain that this was what he wanted as I knew he wanted children and he knew that I didn't and that I would never change my mind. He said to me "I've never had children so I can't miss what I have never had, you, on the other hand, have been in my life for three years, I've fallen in love with you and the thought of never waking up next to you every morning breaks my heart more than knowing I will not be a father." I had my implant removed the following month. Knowing that he loved me enough to give up his dream of having a family made me want one with him. Needless to say, over three years later I'm still working on it. Lol.

XX

That is the absolute sweetest thing and made me start to tear up

 

[JustKia]

I was 23/24 when I first starting thinking about wanting babies.
DH is terrified by the whole idea bless him but said we'd just "not prevent" and if it happened it happened...
He's maintained the whole "not trying not preventing; if it happens then so be it" thing ever since.
He's even more scared now after nearly losing me the first time round but he's starting to realise that my age is against me and agreed to 6 cycles of "really trying" and after that it's back to the doctor to try and persuade him to help things along.