So worried!

[Dingo1985]

I thought by the time I got to full term I could just be excited about giving birth etc. However, I just cannot stop worrying about having a stillbirth. My husband won't really talk to me about it 'cos, admittedly, it's morbid. Am I the only one?

I get so nervous if I don't feel baby kick for a little while and I'm terrified of going overdue because of the increased risk.

I know that I couldn't prevent a stillbirth etc but just can't get the thought out of my head. It's stopping me from mentally preparing for this baby actually being here. It's like I can't dare believe they're really going to be here and I can't imagine it.

 

[Amy]

dont keep worrying yourself hun you'll make yourself ill.
like you say its not something you could prevent so you need to relax and i promise your baby will be safe in your arms in a week and this will all be a distant memory xxxxxx

 

[Dingo1985]

I hope so. I'm not worrying myself to the point of making myself ill but I just seem to have a mental block not allowing me to imagine my baby being delivered safe and well. It's like I daren't hope. Urgh. Just wish I could look ahead in time and know he/she arrived safely so I could then relax.

 

[amipregnant]

oh hun i know exactly what you mean, i aways said i wasnt going to get excited until he is here cause im terrified hes going to die. The only problem with this is now im nearly due i dont not feel like i want him to come, i know he is safe in there and if i go into labour something might go wrong! i havent dare imagine im going to have a baby even tho i have all this stuff around me! im not excited and dont feel at all ready. i would speak to your midwife and let her know your concerns, she may be able to offer you extra support.

 

[Dingo1985]

Thanks amipregnant - you seem to feel exactly how I feel. We're getting the nursery ready and I keep thinking what it'd be like if we weren't able to bring the baby home. Horrible and morbid I know but I feel ike you do - don't want to get excited until he/she has arrived safely. I'll defo mention how I feel to the midwife.