Some tips and advice from a Mum to be!

[aob1013]

 

[pink_bow]

Thanks hun.

Im trying to keep relaxed about it but its difficult LOL.
I have been having some of your symtoms tho! xx

Oh congrats btw x

 

[maaybe2010]

Congratulations on your pregnancy

x x x

 

[willbamom1day]

tahnk you for sharing your story goes to show you anything is possible when the time is right

many blessings for a healthy pregnancy and lil one to come

 

[aliss]

Well, to be honest, I'm not sure what to think of this.

There are lots of women here who struggle to conceive (whether it be long term conception, medical issues, or just frustration at the end of the month).

While your pregnancy may have come easily and unplanned without using strategies that the ladies here may use, I would think a great deal of them are not nearly as fortunate. As you can see, many of them are here for many months, and sometimes have to move to the LTTC forum.

So while it may be easy for you to say "just relax, BD", it makes light of the struggles for the women here. It is simply not that easy for a lot of women, and the struggle of TTC is hard enough without people saying "oh, your stress will just interfere, relax!". Some girls are probably going to be quite upset by this thread, I believe.

I am certainly not bitter to your situation. I am currently pregnant (obviously, from my ticker), and it in fact only took me one month to conceive. That being said, I was very blessed and fortunate (even making it through the threatened miscarriage).

I was already pregnant when I came to BnB (although I was unsure) so I spent a LOT of time browsing the TTC forum. It can be heartbreaking and I really feel for the girls who go through these things. Saying "oh, don't worry, stop stressing and your time will come!" can be hurtful, believe it or not.

 

[aob1013]

Well, to be honest, I'm not sure what to think of this.

There are lots of women here who struggle to conceive (whether it be long term conception, medical issues, or just frustration at the end of the month).

While your pregnancy may have come easily and unplanned without using strategies that the ladies here may use, I would think a great deal of them are not nearly as fortunate. As you can see, many of them are here for many months, and sometimes have to move to the LTTC forum.

So while it may be easy for you to say "just relax, BD", it makes light of the struggles for the women here. It is simply not that easy for a lot of women, and the struggle of TTC is hard enough without people saying "oh, your stress will just interfere, relax!". Some girls are probably going to be quite upset by this thread, I believe.

I am certainly not bitter to your situation. I am currently pregnant (obviously, from my ticker), and it in fact only took me one month to conceive. That being said, I was very blessed and fortunate (even making it through the threatened miscarriage).

I was already pregnant when I came to BnB (although I was unsure) so I spent a LOT of time browsing the TTC forum. It can be heartbreaking and I really feel for the girls who go through these things. Saying "oh, don't worry, stop stressing and your time will come!" can be hurtful, believe it or not.

Well actually believe it or not, that was NEVER my intention

My post was aimed to try and alievate how frustrated some people may feel and let them know how i think i may have got pregnant.

I never mean't in any way shape or form to hurt or 'offend' anyone - i just wanted to give them some hope, on the other side - don't be so quick to judge - i was trying to help.

TTC and pregnancy, is a very sensitive subject i would never intentially tru and offend someone in regards to this subject.

I feel quite saddened and offended that you thought i would do something like that.

Hm.

 

[aliss]

I never said you meant to offend or hurt anyone.

 

[aob1013]

This thread was mean't to be a positive one.

 

[aliss]

This thread was mean't to be a positive one.

Of course, and I know you meant to be positive.

I will let this recent TTC thread speak for itself:
https://www.babyandbump.com/trying-to-conceive/265823-ttc-pet-peeves.html

It addresses this issue.

 

[aob1013]

"Just know... Were ALL here for the same reason... Be courteous and supportive... Lets all pray for our lil bundle of Joy to come soon..."

That is all i was trying to do. You know i mean't well.

I won't let this turn into a playground fight, all i was doing was trying to help and in no way trying to hurt anyone.

Don't try and penilise me for that.

 

[WannaB]

I know you meant no harm and just wanted to give some hope, but I have to agree that saying just relax it will happen is not what most of us want to hear! Thats how most of us start out, temping and all the rest of the obsessiveness has come from months and months, some poor ladies years, of trying with no results. Personally I would love nothing more than to relax and have it happen, unfortunatley after 3 mcs I cant relax even if I do fall pregnant again. Again I know you meant no harm, but tbh a woman who fell pregnant after not even trying too, coming on here and telling us to relax is not something you want to read. I wish you a happy and healthy nine months hun and I hope everyone makes it out of ttc with their sanity intact!

 

[aob1013]

I've had miscarriages in the past.

Anyway, i'll remove the post so no more hurt can be caused